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Carmensweets - October 29

Hello everyone! I was so happy to find this I'm sure you all were! It will be nice to talk to others going through the same things! I just wanted to post my story and what is going on currently. I'm 27, DH 29. Married 2yrs. TTC 2 yrs.
Ever since I had periods they would be VERY heavy and last about 3 months straight! Then I would skip 2-3 months. I became anemic and discussed the situation with my doctor when I was about 16. He told me my periods were "still regulating", gave me an iron supplement, and sent me on my way. Well, when I was 18 I started dating DH and wanted to start BC. Went to general doc, told him periods were the same and he says "Gee, that's not right. We better send you to an OBGYN" OB is also concerned, does laproscopy/D&C. Tells me I have endo (never said what stage....didn't even know there were different stages until I found this website), PCOS, and if I want kids I better start now. Well I was 18, in college, and NOT ready for kids.
Dated DH for 7yrs, married 2yrs. Both done w/school, good jobs, nice house, ready for kids as soon as we got married. Quit taking BC 6mths before married. Tried 2years.....nothing!!! Previous OBGYN retired, refered to new one by general doc. She ran blood tests on me and decided I should have HSG and DH sperm analysis. Also put me on glucophage and prenatals. HSG showed right blocked tube, analysis showed low numbers. OB refered us to IVF of Michigan-Flint. Specialist @IVF not concerned w/#'s from analysis, just wants to get sample in office this time. Concerned that other tube may be partly blocked. Had ultrasound done, may have septum in uterus!?
Now, set for sugury in mid-November: laperoscopy, hysteroscopy, D&C, argon beam coagulation of endometriosis, tubual surgery, removal of septum(if there is one). Kinda nevous. Sorry so long, just alot of history! Good luck to everyone and I look forward to talking to many of you!


liz - October 31

Hello and welcome to the site. I think you will find there are many wonderful women here who are more then willing to help you through your journey.

You have been through a great deal. I am sorry to hear of your difficulties. It does sound like you are on the right track with an re. From my experience an re is the better road when it comes to fertility. I think so many women spend a great deal of time with their ob's, who are very well educated however they usually do not have enough expereience with fertility.

I persoanlly had a laperoscopy a couple of years back. My gyn had wanted to have one done due to painful periods, it had nothing to do with feritlity at that time. I did not have the hysteroscopy myself but know many women who have. I can completly understand your nervous feelings headed into your testing. I spent a great deal of my ttc months (and pregnancy months) nervous and scared. It is 100% natural. I do feel that without the women here on Shared Journey the road would have been a great deal harder.

When do you go for your tests? Mid November is coming up soon. I always looked at the tests that I feared as getting one step closer to reaching my ultimate goal. ;)

I wish you the best of luck and look forward to hearing from you soon.

Take care,


Carmensweets - October 31

Thank you so much for the support! November 14th is the day for my surgeries. As you said, I hope these tests get us one step closer to our ultimate goal! By the way, congrats on your pregnancy and I hope all goes well! Thank you again for the support because it means alot! My friends and family are always there to support me, but it's always nice to talk to someone who has had a similar experience!

Thanks again,


liz - October 31


I am glad I heard from you. When I was going though ttc this site helped me in more ways then you can imagine. I always have dh and my family but unfortunatly there is just so much that they can not understand about what we go through. I have found so many wonderful women here who have been through or going through so many of the sames things. They truly are a blessing.

Nov 14th that will be here before you know it. I will tell you the only problem I had with the lap was the gas that they put in you. I was very sore for a couple of weeks. I was alittle better after a couple of days but the soreness lingered for a couple weeks. I don't know if it was just me or if it happens to alot of women. Hopefully you will not experience this part and will be feeling up to par in a a day or 2. I just thought I would let you know my experience, I don't want to scare you because again it could have just been me.

I have also heard from many women that the first 3 months after you have the lap done you have a better chance of achieving pregnancy. I am not sure if that is one of those old wives tales but they say because you are cleaned out per say. A positive way of looking at it, I think!

I strongly believe every test will be brining you closer to you goal. This is what kept me going after months of blood work and tests. I remember being in Flordia with dh in April and I had a test the day I came back. I told him this is it we will find out if anything is wrong with the shape of my uterus and if it is then we look for the next step if not we try to have a baby. I had the test done and everything was clear. I was set to start Clomid at the beginning of May. I felt we were moving forward. I spent 1 month on Clomid and it did not sit well with me so I moved on to injections. After the first round I got a bfn which left me a little deflated then the 2nd month I got the bfp which put me on cloud 9! It was a long emotional journey for me. I had 3 previous miscarriages, the last in Dec. of 2005. It was a struggle not knowing why this was happening to me. We made it through and looking back I learned a great deal and feel I was meant to go through it to learn.

Sorry to ramble, sometimes that happens to me. I get going and just can't seem to stop. ;)

If you don't mind me asking why do they do a D&C? I am not familiar with that in your situation.

Well I must run, nap time for me. :)
Hope you are having a good day
Take care,


Carmensweets - November 1

Yes, I agree. This site and the women who visit this site are a blessing. I've already told 2 or 3 patients (I'm a dental hygienist) about this site because I thought it would be helpful to them!
Yes, I've had the lap and d&c done before, but it's been a long time. However, I do remember the soreness from the gas lasting a little while! I have also heard that it is your best time to ttc after these procedures...I hope it is true!
I'm sorry to hear about your previous m/c's. I'm sure it was quite emotionally painful! Again, I wish you much luck w/your current pregnancy!
As far as I know, they are doing the d&c to assess conditions that could cause abnormal bleeding (besides endo and PCOS) and it also provides docs w/a sample of tissue from the uterus.
Thanks again for the concern of my condition! I look forward to talking to you again in the future!

Take care,


liz - November 5

Hi Rebecca,

I hope you are having a good weekend. It is cold here in PA, not sure if I am ready for Winter!

That makes sense with the D&C. Sounds like you are really getting the work up done. I think it is good for you, hopefully it will give you the added measure you need right now. Like starting fresh.

Now after these procedures what is your next step for ttc? Are you going to be able to start again right away or wait?

You only have a week and a few days till your procedures, are you ready? I know how stressful these things can be just remember to keep postive and have faith. ;)

Talk to you soon,


Carmensweets - November 5

I'm not ready for winter either! We did not have much of a Fall here in MI. It went straight from summer to winter!

To be honest, I'm not sure what our next step in ttc will be ???. I'm guessing we'll see what the doc discovers during surgery, listen to his advice, and go from there. I'm not sure when we will be able to try again?

Yes, I'm stressed right now! Just worried about all the possible outcomes. I had a little breakdown the other day......just started crying for no reason. When DH asked what was wrong I realized I was thinking about possible additional problems that may be discovered during surgery.

I will try to stay positive and keep the faith!

Talk to ya soon,


liz - November 6

Good morning Rebecca,

Your feeling of fear are completly normal. I would worry like crazy before every test, then once I was ttc and on meds I would worry everytime I had to go in the morning for ultra sounds and blood work. My re's office was at the end of a long hall I told dh it was the the walk to hell everytime I did it. I was in constant fear that something was going to be wrong. Just to make you feel better I will tell you that I am 4 months along now and I still get scared everytime I walk into my ob's office. I just don't think the fears go away.

I had to really adapt the attitude of living for today in order to get by. I try so hard not to think about yesterday and what was and even harder not to think about what tomorrow might bring. It is not an easy task but it is what I needed to do in order to not drive myself nuts.

I must run, work is calling.
Have a great day


Carmensweets - November 13

I just wanted to thank you again for all the encouragement! I'm having surgery tomorrow morning (YIKES! :o)! I'll try to be in contact later this week to let you know how things went!


liz - November 14


You are more then welcome!

Good luck today. When you can please let me know how you are doing.

Take care,


liz - November 14


I was online and though I would pop over and tell you I was thinking about you! I hope everything went well today and you are home resting! ;)

Take care,


Carmensweets - November 20

Hi Liz! I'm starting to feel alot better today! Still a little sore, but o.k. How are you feeling?
Well, I got good news! Nethier one of my tubes were blocked ;D. They cleaned the left one out a little bit, but the right one was open! They said I may have had a spasm during the HSG which made it only look as if the tube was closed! Also, my endo was mild...only had to laser a couple areas. From the RE conversation with my husband, we were feeling pretty good about ttc in about 1mth. THEN, I went for my post-op visit today. They want to do another semen analysis on DH and decide what to do from there. He said even though my endo is mild and both tubes are open, the combo of the endo and PCOS will make it difficult for us to concieve. Our options are to first try the clomid/metformin if his results come back normal. If that does not work or if his results are not normal then it sound like he would suggest IUI or IVF. I guess we will just have to wait and see!

Talk to you soon,


AngieMrchnt - November 22

WOW,, we are kinda the same.. Except when I was a teen and went to a doctor that would just assume that I was pregnant..... Which I wasnt... Then when they found out I wasnt they would tell me the same thing that my periods and body was just regulating themselves... But I really never went to a doctor all that regular until I have now gotten older and can afford it... So now Im taking it all serious... I wish you all the luck hun.... Im sending lots of prayers your way..



liz - November 28


I am sorry it has taken me so long to get back to you. I was dealing with an unexpected very scary issue here. I am alot better now and wanted to stop in and say hi.

That is awesome news about your tubes not being blocked. CONGRATS! I am sure that your can beathe a huge sigh of relief. I know you still have a lot to face but you are on the right track and some good news is always better then none.

How are you feeling now? I hope you are back to normal.

Please let me know how you are when you get a chance.

I am sorry to hear of your troubles. Your story is very similiar to Rebecca.

Where are you at with you treatments? Are you activly ttc or still exploring your options.

I wish you the best of luck in your journey.

Take care,


AngieMrchnt - November 29

Hey Liz,

I am ttc... See I never really got into the whole Ovulation tracking thing because I never when I was going to have a period.. So now Im going to a reproductive encrinologist in December to try to find out first how to deal with the PCOS and get pregnant too... Its so frustrating........

Angie ???


liz - November 30

Hi Angies,

It sounds like you are on the right track by seeing an re! The best decision I ever made was see an re. If it would not be for my gyn office recommending the re after my 3rd miscarriage I would probably not be lucky enough to be 19 weeks pregnant.

I am not too familiar with PCOS unfortunatly but I know there are many women out there on this site who are.

I am sure that your re will have lots of good ideas as to where to go from here.

I wish you the best of luck and will keep you in my prays.



Carmensweets - December 14

Hi! Gee, it has been a month since I have talked to you and a month since my surgery! You said in an earlier posting that something scary had happened.....I hope everything is ok on your end?! What happened if you don't mind me asking?
I am feeling much better now...totally back to normal physically, but my mind is going crazy!! Just alot of decisions to make right now on what course of action to take to ttc. My DH is scheduled next week for another analysis. We had to wait about a month for an appt. because the chick that handles those was going on vacation for 3 weeks! Ugg! Based on those results we have different options as I said before. NOW, my RE wants us to participate in a study group for IVF. If we participate the cost would be about half the price they normally charge so we are concidering that option very carefully. We could try other methods first, but I'm worried if we don't take this oportunity now then we will not (financially) be able to do the IVF in the future if that is what we need!
Again, I hope everything is ok on your end. Hope the baby is doing good! It was nice to hear from you again!

Talk to you soon,



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