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Hey Heather - how are you hanging in there?

Heather,
What have you done regarding you and your DH. Hope that things get back to normal. Have faith that everything will be ok.

good Luck!

~Lili

Hi Ladies,

Well, my husband is back home for right now but more for the health of the baby. My health got bad with all the extra stress and the doctor was warning of a serious risk of pre term labor.

We are going to marriage counseling but I am not sure how well that will work. This issue is more difficult than just the pregnancy. He feels he needs to live on his own for a bit to feel independent and find himself. I think it is difficult for him to have a wife that makes more money than he does. So, hopefully we can find a way to work it out in the counseling. We are still separated but now that he is back in the house I feel that gives us more of a chance to re unite. I am trying to let him do everything for me and really be the man of the house. I keep praying this will all work out but the limbo is so difficult to deal with.

Thank you for the support and suggestions.
~Heather

Honey: That was some AWESOME advice that you gave to Heather. I need to take some of that advice myself. The part where you mentioned that we could only change ourselves & our reactions & responses is sooooo right. THAT is what I myself am trying to work on now. Your mother is right!! God Bless You!

Nancy: That is so exciting about your 3D/4D ultrasound. That is amazing how your baby looks like your daughter Paige already. Maybe it is a little girl then....That would be so nice!!

Lili246: Yes, my real is Monica. I used to hate it when I was a little girl, but now it has kind of grown on me.....

Also, having my little babyboy IS going to be THE BEST Christmas present ever. I am really hoping that the baby comes a little early though (like around 12/15 or 12/20) so that I can dress him up in a little Santa suit on Christmas Day.....THAT would be sooooo precious....

Have a Great Day!
Monica :)

Girls,
I went to the doctor this morning and again we couldn't hear the baby's heartbeat. I had an ultrasound done and that nurse didn't tell me anything, I have to go back to the doctor today and find out whats going on. I am so worry because I asked the nurse from the ultrasound if there was something wrong and she said that she couldn't tell me, that I had to go and talk to my doctor. I am so worry and hope that my baby is ok.

Please god I need your prayers for my baby to be ok.

Girls, please pray for my baby...

God bless my baby!!

~Lili

Lili - I will be praying for you and the baby!

Lili246: You & your baby are definitely in my prayers!!!
I am REALLY praying for the best for you & your precious little one.

Please keep us posted....

Monica

Good morining Ladies and Babies!!

I just wanted to let Lili and Heather know that I am thinking and praying that all works out well.

Nancy and (Madison / Tyler)

Girls,
It's all over..........
My baby is not living, he is dead. Yesturday they confirm that in the ultrasound. We couldn't hear the heartbeat and he is still inside me. I go tomorrow for a surgery so they can take my baby out.
Sorry but I just can't think about it. It's so hard that I can't stop crying.

~Lili

Lili I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. It will take time for you to heal. I went through the same thing. There is a poem called "Just Those Few Weeks" I have to admit it made me cry in the beginning but after a while the poem made me feel better. At one time I had it memorized I use to read it so oftern

JUST THOSE FEW WEEKS

(A Poem On Miscarriage)

by Susan Erling Martinez

For those few weeks –
I had you to myself.
And that seems too short a time
to be changed so profoundly.

In those few weeks—
I came to know you…
and to love you.
You came to trust me with your life.
Oh, what a life I had planned for you!

Just those few weeks—
When I lost you,
I lost a lifetime of hopes,
plans, dreams, and aspirations.
A slice of my future simply vanished overnight.

Just those few weeks—
It wasn’t enough time to convince others
how special and important you were.
How odd, a truly unique person has recently died
and no one is mourning the passing.

Just a mere few weeks—
And no “normal” person would cry all night
over a tiny, unfinished baby,
or get depressed and withdrawn day after endless day.
No one would, so why am I?

You were just those few weeks, my Little One.
You darted in and out of my life too quickly.
But it seems that’s all the time you needed
to make my life so much richer
And give me a small glimpse of eternity.

I will being thinking and praying for you.

Nancy

Hi Lili,

I have chatted with you a few times and it was your bubbly spirit that drew me to you. I am truly sorry for your loss. I also lost a child that would have been 4 years old this November 7th. I to this day grieve for my child. It is a heart and soul wrenching loss. Give yourself time to mourn. Yell, scream,cry and be angry. You have the God given right to. This child was as real to you as mine or anyone else that has lost one. Keep God and your son close to you so that you may heal. You will always have a scar and a special place in your heart and soul for this child. I have named my child so that I can include him/her into my prayers at night and so he/she is never forgotten. I mourn the anniversary of my loss and celebrate the day of its birth that never happened. I pray deeply for you that God keep you close and guide you in this time. May God keep and watch over you. God bless you as you go for the surgery. May your lil angel watch over you always. Once again I am sincerely sorry.

Helen

Lili,

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.

Charity

Girls,
What can I say, only that I can't stop crying and think that my baby is still inside me. It hurts so much that you might not know how much. I try to be strong because I have my 2 year old child that he needs from me and thats the only thing that makes me brave. I still have my lil baby inside me and go for surgery tomorrow so they can take him out. I was just praying for all of this to be a confusion but it's all confirm, after I went to the doctor yesturday and talked to her about the ultrasound, that they couldn't see the heartbeating and that was a confirm that my baby wasn't alive. I went to this other place where they do ultrasounds and had it confirm that the heart wasn't beating. I just don't know how much time it will take me to get all over this. But I know that I will never forget this and my baby will also have a space in my heart. I was so happy when I found out that I was pregnant and now it seems that I am the most sad person in the world. I don't know how I may be feeling after the surgery probably wiered because I will not be pregnant anymore. I guess if the baby is not alive it will be the best to let him go and be in heaven locking after us.
God bless us all and my little baby! I don't know if I want to try for anotherone soon, like my doctor said that they will clean me good so I can plan on getting pregnant within 2 months and this won't happen again.

Thank for for everything girls and I do really need your prayers for my whole family and my lil angel in heaven.

~Lili

Lili246: I am so sorry for your loss.....It is so hard to believe, and I can't even imagine how you must be feeling right now...I too had a miscarriage years ago (my first pregnancy), and it was extremely hard for me to handle & I was only about 6 weeks along.

I pray that the Lord's peace that surpasses ALL understanding will be with you, and that you will begin to see the light of day once again very soon. There is still hope........

If you need anything, PLEASE don't hesitate to ask me. You can e-mail me personally if you'd like. Just click on My Profile, and my e-mail address is there......

Luv Ya,
Monica

Lili,

I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your little boy. I wish I knew the right words to say unfortunatly I do not. I do have some idea what you are feeling right now. I had 3 miscarriages before this pregnancy and each and everyone was heartwrenching for me. The last one was the hardest as I was just under 11 weeks. I went to the hospital and very much the way you found out they could not find the heartbeat. I was devesated and so sad. I felt so lost with my baby inside of me knowing she was not alive. After the d&c I felt so empty and lost. I suffered so much those first couple of days. Still to this day I suffer. Not a day goes by that I do no think about her and wonder who she would be today if she was here with us. I miss my little girl and only wish I would have been able to meet her. I hold her very close to my heart and I know she is watching out for me from heaven. She is my little angel just as your little boy is your angel.
Allow yourself time to heal and be good to yourself. Right now you need to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your family.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry Lili
Liz

lili you don't know me, but I have recently went thru a loss. June 1st of this year I lost my baby boy at 6 1/2 months. I was just going in for a regular appt. and that's when I received the horrible news. I totally understand the feeling of still having your baby inside of you after he/she has already passed, but baby gurl you have to go thru the grief, denial, depression, and then acceptance. That's the order my feelings went. I told myself that I wasn't going to be able to put myself thru that situation again, especially seeing as how long it took for us to get pregnant ( 15 months) in the first place. God does things for a reason and it will be a while before that becomes clear to you. Keep your head up and always go to him for your answers, and remember when I just mentioned that I wouldn't be able to do it again.....I found out yesterday that I am pregnant...Faith lili....you have to have faith.