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Tia,

Welcome to Shared Journey. I am sure you will find that this site is full of some amazig women who are very compasionate and understanding. This site helped me through some very rough times, the women I met here are just truly wonderful. I hope you can too find some comfort and friendships here.

I am not sure what hydro blockage is. My infertility issues were due to hormone problems so although I have read a lot about different problems I never heard of hydro blockage. Would you mind explaing what it is?

I am sorry you were hit with such difficult news. Seeing an re is in my opinion the best possible thing you could do. Maybe he/she will be able to give you more options or atleast more insight into what is happening.

I wish you the best of luck, I am sorry I could not give you more information on your particular situation. If you would like to talk please feel free to post anytime.

Take care,
Liz

Hi Liz,

Thank you for your support. The type of blockage that they say that I have is called hydrosalpinx where the tubes are blocked and contains fluid.

I am going to see a RE next tuesday so that should help with some of my questions. I was doing some reading late last night and i found that hydrosapinx can be dected through a pelvic s/g and funny enough the same day that i did my HSG I also did a s/g and the s/g did not show me as having this hydrosalpinx. Anyway, I am so happy to have someone to talk, its been really hard and I have not told my family or even some of my close girlfriend as yet. Just not ready for so many questions. Its nice to know that your are out there.

Tia,

I would also like to welcome you to the greatest group of women I have met since starting my fertility issues in 2002. Like Liz, my problems are hormonal and I can't speak to your particular issue, but I have been down the road of ttc with fertility issues.

My advise about talking to your friends is to wait until after you have met with your re. You will have a better understand of what is going on, and may be able to answer some questions. Knowledge is power, it may not seem as hopeless or scarey when you have a better idea of what the issues are. Sometimes our research is our worst enemy because we have a little knowledge and are reading about worst case scenarios when we aren't in as bad of a situation.

My other peice of advise is to ask questions. Remember, you are not the expert in this situation and if you don't understand something it is always best to ask. Knowing what is going on, although not always what we want hear, can be comforting.

Post anytime you need support. That is why we are here. We all understand the desire to have a child and the stress that can go with that desire. This road is like a roller coaster, and having a friend to ride it with you makes it a little less scarey.

Take care!
Deanna

Tia,

I also agree with Deanna about the waiting to tell your friends and family. I made the mistake of telling people and then from that moment on everytime I saw them they asked about it. It was very nice of them and I know they were just concerned but sometimes you just need to not be bombarded. I also found that I got tired of the "relax and it will happen!" I think that is why I found such a comfort coming here. The women here can truly relate and understand. I felt very alone sometimes and the support I got here was wonderful.

I don't know if this could possibly apply at all to you but I will share it with you anyway, just to let you know tests are not a 100% guarantee. I went for an HSG last March they told me that there was something "abnormal" about the shape of my uterus that I would need to have another test done but I would have to wait till the beginning of my next cycle. That month was a longgggggggggg wait, I worried sick that something they found abnormal was going to keep my from having a baby. Well the next month I went in for my next appointment and the re did a test where they are doing an u/s and he is injecting sterile water into my uterus. He looked all around and said there is nothing wrong here, everything looks wonderful I was so relived but also erritated that I just had another month of constant worrying for nothing. The only explanation they could give me was possibily while doing the hsg they got a bad angle! Mistakes happen but I was not a happy camper to know what I just went through worrying. Tests are wonderful but not a guarantee of anything I have found.

Take care,
Liz

Liz & Deanna,

Thanks for the great and comforting advice it really helps. You are both correct, now is not the time to tell freinds and family. I am not stressing so much.

Liz, thanks for sharing your story about your HSG. I heard that the best results comes from a laparascopy when it comes to blocked tubes. Day by day I get a little stronger for this journey. I am just greatful to know that where there is a will there is a way.

I will see my RE next tuesday. Thanks again for sharing.

Tia

Hi Tia,

I also heard that the lap is the best way to diagnose any kind of problem. I had one back in 2003 because they were worried I had endometrious (sp?). It was not the most pleasant recovery but it was not the worst thing in the world. I was glad I had it done. I believe if I am not mistaken they can do a lap and if you have blockage in your tubes they can clear them up while doing the lap. I have heard of a lot of women who say you are most fertile after a lap has been done because everything is cleared out. Maybe your re will recommend one for you.

You are correct, where there is a will there is a way, you must stay positive and believe it will happen for it to happen if that makes sense.

Please let me know how you make out on Tuesday. I will be thinking about you.

Take care,
Liz

Hi liz,

Thank you so much for answering my questtions and being here. I will surely let you know what the doctor said next tuesday.

I am so happy for you and your DH and your new coming bundle of blessing. I am very new to this forum. How long had you been trying and if you don't mind me asking and what was your (for lack of a better word) issue that brought you here to this site.

It wonderful to read stories of hope and happiness, yours being one of them.

Thanks again.

Tia

Tia,
I don't know much what you are going threw but what I do know is that you have alot of support in here. I'm a new memeber and I have been writing back and forth w/ Liz she is so awesome and very comforting and I know there are alot of other people in here that are also. It's great seeing and talking to people that are going or have been threw the same emotional rollercoaster. It sometimes gets hard when you talk to people that don't really know where you are coming from and don't know how it feels to go threw this. I just find it comforting. So keep your chin up, you'll have your time to shine. I hope all goes well for you on tuesday, I'll keep you in my prayers,let us know.
I hope you didn't mind me butting into your conversation, I just wanted to talk and get to know someone else and I really liked what you had to say your story touched me :)
Well I hope to hear back from you take care

Kim

Hi Kim

Thank you for your response, you may but in anytime :-) the more support the better. I agree with you sometimes people just don't understand. I believe that God lead me to this forum. I was sooo lost, scared, alone until now. I really feel the support and to be able to also be of comfort to someone in this same position is also good. So, again, please whatever info, comments, I am open.
I will let you know about Tuesday.

Tia

Good Morning,

Thank you for getting back to me. I agree with you that it is nice to also give advice and be comforting to other people. I felt the same way about being soooo lost and alone. The one comforting thing is that I'm God's child and He will take care of me and He knows whats best and thats also why I think he lead me to this forum. It has been a long 3yrs, but I really feel that my DH & I are meant to have kids (hopefully 4 maybe 6 ;D ) I just hope it is soon cuz I'm ready to scream!!! No I know it is in God's timing not mine. I have friends and my DH's fam. members that are younger than me (some not married) and have kids,some of them do drugs even when they were preg. I'm like why God? but I just know that I have to trust Him. It still does'nt take away the pain and the frustration we, are only human.

Well, thank you for letting me kind of vent, I guess I needed that. Well I really hope all goes well on tues. thanks for letting me know, can't wait to hear what they have say. Take care.

Kim :D

Good Morning Kim,

I know exactly how you feel about those friends and family who gets pregnant if someone just looks at them. I have a friend who told me recently how many abortions she had (a loooot) I was on the phone with her at the time. My eyes teared up. And she did it because she said she got too sick when she is pregnant. I had to get off the phone, but I did tell her she cannot keep doing that when so many women are finding it difficult to have a baby and also told her to get the birth control shot or something. She does not know about my issues of difficulty concieving, or holding. 2 m/c's. Anyway, I agree that God will take care of us (all the women on this board) and I do believe that I will have a baby someday soon I hope.

Baby dust to you and eveyone :)

Hi Tia and Kim :)

Kim,
Thank you for your kind words about it, that was very sweet of you. I find myself on this site everyday even though I have achieved pregnancy (that stuck) I still know what it feels like to be so scared and alone. I know how I felt and how comforting it was to come to this site while I was ttc. I am so thankful that God led me here and I want to always pass along the kindness that women here were to me. I like to be able to talk to women ttc and let them know that it is possible and staying strong and keeping the faith is a must in not only this situation but any situation in life!

Tia,
I had 2 prior miscarriages when I became pregnant again in October of 2005. I lost the baby at about 10 weeks in December. I had a d&c and since this was my 3rd miscarriage the doctors wanted to test the fetus and also put me through all kinds of tests. We found out from the testign of the fetus that she had trisomy 13, so this was considered a genetic defect. Since no testing was done on the other pregnancies they had no idea why I miscarry within the 1st trimester. I began testing, lots of blood work, dh and I had genetic testing, all came back normal. In Feb. my ob referred me to an re (in the same office, he is the best in our area.) As soon as they got my chart they called me and said they wanted to do a blood test to test my progesterone and estrodiol on day 23 of my cycle. I had been tested before for progesterone on day 23 (it will determine if you are ovulating and I have always ovulated every month) but never the estrodiol. I went for the test and the results came back that my estodiol was low for the leutal phase. They want it over 100 and mine was in the 50s. This told them that I had some kind of hormone problem with my estodiol, probably that I was not producing quality eggs at ovulation. They wanted to do an hsg to rule out any uterus problems and once I got the green light they started me on Clomid in May. I did ok on the Clomid but only produced 1 or 2 follicles. They determined that I do not have my lh surge when my follicle and hormones are ready so again another indications of a hormone problem, probably between my brain telling my overies what to do. I had a cancelled cycle in June due to a left over follicle from the Clomid. It was a bad cycle, I actually ovulated the left over follicle naturally on day 5 so obviously we were out this month. I had an appt with the re to discuss injections later that month (June) it just so happened it was the last day I could start the injections for this cycle so we did. The main difference between the injections and the Clomid is, Clomid talks to your brain and your brain then talks to your ovaries and tells them what to do (the easiest explainiation, I know it sounds silly) and the injections go straight to your ovaries and bypass the brain. That cycle was good one but no pregnancy. The following month we did injections again but increased the dosage a bit. I was having a great cycle. They did a post colital test to make sure the little swimmers were doing well and there wasen't an issue with me rejecting them. I did an injection to bring on ovulation and we were told to bd the next 3 days. At 8 dpo I was feeling very tired, extremely tired. At 10dpo I did an hpt and it came back positive. I had bw done at 11dpo and confirmed I was preg. My levels were very high and they thought it might be twins. We confirmed that I was carrying twins at 5 weeks, at 6 weeks we heard both heartbeats but at 8 weeks we discoved that one of the twins did not develope and I lost him/her. I was devestated but I was also praying hard for this little one to stick. She did and she is quite the fighter! She is strong weighing in at 3lbs 13 oz and I am just shy of 30 weeks. She is our blessing, out gift from god. I had a great deal of trouble being able to mourn the loss of the one twin when I had another to celebrate. It was a hard time, still is at times. Someone once said to me that maybe baby b was put here to show baby a the way to go and you know I find comfort in that and I believe that could be true. We have 4 little angels total in heaven watching over us and our little Samantha (that is her name). I thank god every day for blessing us with this pregnancy and a beautiful little girl I can not wait to hold in my arms!

Now that I wrote a book, I better be going. I have housework to tend to, although I am not in the mood. ;)

Have a great weekend.
Take care
Liz

Hi Liz,

Wow what a story, you had me in tears! You have been through alot and it must of been hard,but you are right you do have 4 lil angels watching over you and Samantha :) and as hard as it is you have to stay positive and just keeping trusting in God. I like that name, whats the middle? I'm so happy for you and your DH I really hope that some day soon I'll get to experience that same joy.

So Liz, did you ovulate,have an LH surge w/o any help? Bcuz I had (now it's broken :( ) an OPK and it never showed that egg :( it showed high, but never peaked,so I'm thinking that maybe I don't release an egg ?!? Some of the stuff that you had to say sound ed kind of like my issues. My AF is some what normal and most of the time right on track, except this mth I was 2wks late :'( and let me tell you how disapointed I was, I even had symptoms. (IPS I guess) My DR did a sonahystagram (spelling?) and done tons of blood work and everything looks normal. If I had an hormone problem wouldn't it show up in the blood work? I don't know we did the BD so lets hope this month will be it. It has been a lil difficult past mth bcuz my bro lives w/ us (wife & him are seperated) So we are trying to adjust you know? It is a lil weird.

I need to go to bed I don't even know if I am making sense. I was babysiting pretty much all day until late so I wanted to come home and catch up(it can be addicting)
So I am going to bed GOODNIGHT!!!

Kim :)

Hi Liz,

Thank you for sharing your emotional journey ttc. I am not as scared about what's to come. You and the other ladies have truly made me a so much stronger and I am so ready to take this on.

I do believe that baby b was there to show baby a :). One thing I read from most of the womenincluding yourself is that they don't give up despite m/c or the chemical p. Thank you for your wonderful support.

How are you and your beautiful little girl doing?

To all the ladies, lots and lot of baby dust :D

Tia

Good morning Kim and Tia,

Thank you for your kind words. I have been through a long journey but many women have been there too. It takes patience, strength, persistance and faith in God to get you through. I can say that is the biggest lesson I learned along the way.

Samantha's middle name is going to be Dale. My middle name is Dale so dh and I decided to keep the tradition going. I am sure when she is a teenager she will hate it, just like I did but as she grows I hope she realizes (like I did) how cool it really is to be a little different. :) Samantha is growing very well. She is 3 lbs and 13oz as of last Thursday and growing stronger by the day. She is also my little soccer player in there, she loves to move around and especially dig her little feet into Mommies ribs which I must say is not so comfortable. lol. She is our blessing.

Kim,
I did surge on my own normally but when I was on the Clomid and being monitored with u/s and blood work they determined that when the follicle was ready to ovulate I did not surge. DH had to give me an injection to induce ovulation. My re's office thought that maybe since I normally ovulated on my own that my brain was just surging at the wrong time, ie the follicle could have been over mature. I hope that makes sense, it is very confusing. My homone problem was not discovered until they did a blood test on day 23 of my cycle testing the progesterone and estrodiol. I had a battery of tests before that and everything was normal. From my understanding it is timing when it comes to certain blood work and discovering hormone problems. If you are not seeing an reproductive endocrologist (sp?) they are much more knowledgable in this department and it can be amazing the difference in they was they diagnose. They just have more training then a gyn and therefore they are often quicker in diagnosing the problems.

I must run, work to be done.
Have a great day.
Liz

Hi Liz,

I like that middle name I like names that are diff. and special like that.Yeah she'll probably wont like it at 1 point in the stage of her life, but I agree she'll grow to like it and who knows maybe she'll keep the tradition going :) My DH has a fam 1st name that we will cary down if we have a boy (merton ;D) the middle name can be different I like Christopher. I always wanted a Michael Christopher, but I think Merton Christopher sounds good :)

Maybe thats what we'll do and go to the RE I'll talk to my husband about it.

I don't think I'm going to do ovulex. I have been thinking about it and I rather go for clomid and then maybe do ovulex,if clomid does not work. I really think that this is the right decision,for at least right now to start. We were really hopping that we could do it on our own,but after 3yrs of trying I really think it is time to do something. The only thing I have to realize is when it comes down to it,it is only in God's hands He is the creator. My DH and I are going out of town in 2wks so when we get back we'll get things started, Lord willing.
Hopefully it wont take long for me to get preg. My dh and I have a couple short trips to take (cousin's grad party,fam reuion and christmas in Fl (maybe) ) I'm worried bcuz of the u/s I need to have and what ever else that will go on. So hopefully all will go well. I know my Dr asked me if I had a flexiable job, bcuz she said that it can take up sometime, that would have to come in and get u/s and ect. I guess we will have to see when we cross that bridge.

So do you think that maybe I should ask my dr for a blood test on day 28? It kind of makes sense to me. I think it would be kind of nice if this is my problem and we got it figured out, then I would have to say thank you, Liz ;D I will keep you posted always.

I gotta go get some house work done yipee :D talk to you later, take care

<3 Kim