IVF anyone?
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lyly14 - December 10

Julie- I am so sorry to hear about what your sister did. Mine is the same way, just doesn't know when to mind her business. My sister hates my dh more than you could ever know. I didn't really tell my family or my friends we were trying but after my last miscarriage and when I started hemmorhaging (don't know if I spelled that right) everyone close to me knew. She started talking to anyone ( and I mean anyone) about my business and how she thought I was crazy to have a baby with him. Anyway regardless of that it is not something I like to discuss with people I am close to let alone people I don't really know. I was so angry with her and we eventually had a huge blowout (not just over that, things have been accumulating). I didn't talk to her for months and she actually moved out of the apartment in my house. I am still angry and resentful, but trying to ignore her negativety and just move on with my life, regardless of what she thinks. I have not discussed anything about the IVF with her and refuse to tell her anything now. That really stinks that your sister was spying on you that way. And the fact that she was telling other people (even your parents) about your business is terrible. I guess she knows about the websites and your username.


Jules614 - December 10

Lyly -

I am no longer speaking to my sister. I told her she was dead to me. WE had problems even before this and this was he icebreaker - she is a moocher, needy, her and her husband lived with my parents 2 times - the past time her and her family (kid too) moved in for a year ad a half - she dragged them into all her personal business - always making demands blah blah blah - she finally moved out now that her house is built and still coming to the house asking for things.. she is a leach and has no independence ever!

Sorry to hear about your sister. I guess you can really relate... Glad you forgave her but people forgive they don't forget right?



lyly14 - December 10

My sister said the same thing about me! Now she wants to talk. Dh is mad that I am speaking to her, he is angry about a lot of things she said about both he and I. She says many mean and cruel things when she is mad and expects it all to go away when it suites her and she had cooled off, but I still have not forgotten. We have never had a good relationship, always fighting, but this was the worst fight we have had. My sister has difficulty standing on her own two feet too and my mother has always enabled her. My mother is always there for all of us, but for my sister it did more bad than good.


Jules614 - December 10

Lyly - I hear you! Is your sister married, children etc..
I am so sorry you have a selfesh sister as well... I know how hurt she has probably made you in the past and your hubby probably has reasons to feel the way he does. You know what, you ave your hubby and you WILL have a child and you won't need her down the road!



lyly14 - December 10

Thank you for the positive thoughts. She isn't married but is living with someone. They have a little boy together. She means well at times, can be thoughtful one minute and selfish and nasty the next. She is very moody and depressed and takes it out on the world which is why most of the time I choose to ignore it. Now that she lives far (40 minutes away), maybe we will get along better. I don't have to deal with the moodiness day in and day out !!!!!!!!


Jules614 - December 10

You sure my sister and your sister aren't related? Sounds like one person.

Where do you live again?



lyly14 - December 11

Today is a bad day for me emotionally. Yesterday I was told to go off the BCP and take a break and go back to recheck the cyst in a few weeks. I don't know if that is better or worse. I feel like I am never going to be able to do this IVF procedure. I have been waiting since August to try this and feel so discouraged! I keep feeling like we are not meant to have a baby together.

How are you doing? Beta is Thursday right? I would have probably POAS already. It is so hard to wait.


Jules614 - December 11

Lyly -

I am so sorry. Ever considering changing facilities? I was never put on BCP's at mine. I have a PMS headache today which is not a good sign.

Do something fun to releave some of the stress. Treat yourself to a massage or something. I know easier said than done. Let me know what I can do.



lyly14 - December 11

Julie- Sorry to hear about your headache, but maybe it is all the hormones they are pumping you with. Are you on estrogen and progesterone?

I really like and am comfortable with my RE. He doesn't always use bcp, but originally put me on them to avoid having to test for ovulation and manipulate my cycle to coincide with certain dates. He put me back on them hoping they would control the cyst. I am not quite sure if it was working but the cyst did get smaller in the past week and half on the pill. He just said to me to take a break and see what happens with the cyst. I am not feeling bad about his protocol or anything, just feel like this cyst is not going to go away on its own. I know that everyone says they do go away on their own, but it could take a few months. I am just so frustrated because I have already waited almost 5 months and now it can take another 1-3 months before this stupid thing goes away and we can try again. Right now it just feels like an eternity!!!!!!!!!


Jules614 - December 11

Lyly -

I remember it took me 4 yrs to get pregnant with my first. It felt like eternity and now after everything is said and done - it seems so long ago. You will have your moment too where this will all be a faint emmeory and the 3 months extra won't make that much of a difference. It so hard being in the situation and each week feels like forever. I felt that way at the beginning of the IVF and I can't believe 6 weeks has paased bye.

My head is KILLING! I am ready to puke. I hope your day is better.



lyly14 - December 11

Sorry you are not feeling well. When I first read your post I thought 4 years was a long time, but I just realized that it has been 3 years already with 3 pregnancies the first 1 and 1/2 and now nothing for 1 and 1/2. With my dd it was a one shot deal! I guess if it wasn't so easy with her, I might have more patience (or not).


Jules614 - December 12

Here is a little inspirational message:

George Carlin on age.
(Absolutely Brilliant)


George Carlin's Views on Aging

Do you realize that the only time in our lives when we like to get old is when we're kids? If you're less than 10 years old, you're so excited about aging that you think in fractions.

"How old are you?" "I'm four and a half!" You're never thirty-six and a half. You're four and a half, going on five! That's the key

You get into your teens, now they can't hold you back. You jump to the next number, or even a few ahead.

"How old are you?" "I'm gonna be 16!" You could be 13, but hey, you're gonna be 16! And then the greatest day of your life . . Youbecome 21. Even the words sound like a ceremony . YOU BECOME 21. YESSSS!!!

But then you turn 30. Oooohh, what happened there? Makes you sound like bad milk! He TURNED; we had to throw him out. There's no fun now, you're Just a sour-dumpling. What's wrong? What's changed?

You BECOME 21, you TURN 30, then you're PUSHING 40. Whoa! Put on the brakes, it's all slipping away. Before you know it, you REACH50 and your dreams are gone.

But wait!!! You MAKE it to 60. You didn't think you would!

So you BECOME 21, TURN 30, PUSH 40, REACH 50 and MAKE it to 60.

You've built up so much speed that you HIT 70! After that it's a day-by-day thing; you HIT Wednesday!

You get into your 80's and every day is a complete cycle; you HIT lunch; you TURN 4:30 ; you REACH bedtime. And it doesn't end there. Into the 90s, you start going backwards; "I Was JUST 92."

Then a strange thing happens. If you make it over 100, you become a little kid again. "I'm 100 and a half!"
May you all make it to a healthy 100 and a half!!

1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay "them."

2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.

3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. "An idle mind is the devil's workshop." And the devil's name is Alzheimer's.

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.

6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround yourself with what you love , whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.

8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.

10. Tell the people you love that you love them , at every opportunity.

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,but by the moments that take our breath away.


lyly14 - December 13

Hi Julie- How are you doing today? Is today your beta? I really hope you get a bfp, but if you don't I am here for you. Lots of baby dust to you.


Jules614 - December 13

Thanks - I will know my fate in about 3 more hours.. it is killing me...



Brianandjena - December 13

Jules.. Please dont forget to log in and let us know.. Baby dust to you. ~JEna


Jules614 - December 13

I am pregnant - but there is concern about my numbers -- they are a little low - have to take another test in 2 days.




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