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Hi everyone
I have had something on my mind and I am wondering if any of you have some words of wisdom to share with me?
My sister has secondary infertility. She has a 13 year old son. She is 40 now. When her son was 3, she wanted another one, it didn't happen and she got resentful and jealous of other women who got pg easily. (I can relate to that part) When her son was 6, I did my first try at IVF w/ ICSI and conceived my son. She was a tad jealous, I could tell but she knew how we had waited 10 years for a child and she was also happy for me. It inspired her to try IUI with injectibles. Well, she and her DH are type A all the way and when the injectibles didn't work, she just dropped everything and said forget it. It was too much stress, she didn't respond, it wasn't working, forget it. (her words) I tried so hard to encourage her to keep trying! Well, fast forward a bit. My son is 7 and wants a sibling so badly he prays for it every night. I want to at least try to give him one...dh and I actually wanted another one for years and we can finally try. I have talked to my sister about it and her reaction is as if I told her I won a dollar on a scratch ticket. We used to be so close, talked for hours on the phone and we live only 20 minutes apart by car! She really doesn't call me, I have to call her all the time and when I do, she acts disinterested. (I don't even bring up what I am doing until the end and she never asks) It hurts a lot.
I guess I am wondering what you guys think? I feel like it was her choice to stop trying after only one protocol didn't work for her and she has been angry at the world ever since. It isn't my fault but I am thinking that my trying for another one might be opening a wound for her. I can't really confront her as she is the type to get mad and avoid me even more. I want to share my journey with her like last time but maybe I shouldn't? Should i just avoid the subject altogether? How bad am I because I am mad at her for resenting me after she knows how hard it is for us too. *shrug* Sorry this is so long. Any advice would be appreciated everyone.
Meridith
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