Egg Recipient question for fourtyfour & others
14 Replies
laura - November 8

I value your wisdom. We have the finances to try one donnar cycle. How would you make sure that one gave it the best possable chance? I am happy with my current IVF center. I have fillled out the Recipient egg papers and they are currenly looking for a donnar. I have also loocked for donnars on the innernet. Many wont a fee before hand(I yust dont trust this). I know you have been through a lot!! I have so much respect for you. I would like you to share your wisdom!




Fortyfour - November 17

Sorry that I did not see your question until now. I have had the flu for a few days. I would not go with an agency that wanted a fee before you even see any pictures or potential donors. They will request a fee if you have picked one and start the donor process. I found that if I called centers they would give me their pass code so I could look at donors online. What state are you in? I am in California. Good luck with your search. I actually had alot of fun looking. The most stressful part was when she was stimulating and I didnt know if she have many eggs. I would pick one in her early twenties, hopefully one that has donated or had a child before.

Take care and baby dust to you.


laura - November 17

Thank you !

I hope things turn up for you! Sometimes this stuff makes me go nuts. I never thought we would even consider useing a donar but when faced with "the end" of tring with my old eggs, things change. On a positive note, my 4th and last IVF cycle with my own eggs I did get a BFP!! However the levels are not doubling every 48 hours like they are suppost to. This is driving me nuts also. 13dpt 74, 16dpt 145 and 18dpt 252

baby dust

Thank you so much again!



Fortyfour - November 18

Congrats on the BFP. I hope this is the one for you. Keep in touch.


Leslie - May 15

Is this a place to meet others that used DE to get pregnant?


laura - May 16

Dear Leslie,
Yes! This is the place. I have currently found a DE. Her only drawback is she is 31 yrs old. We will soon be starting BC pills to get our cycles together. I have had 4 IVF cycles. this will be our last chance.

babydust, laura.


jacki04 - May 20

Hey Ladies
What's the cost of a donor through a reputable agency?


laura - May 22

Dear Jacki04,
The price estimet is the once with a Donor found at my current IVF center:

11,300 $ Includes donar compensation, monitoring, retrieval and anesthesia.

Donar mediations are billed separetly (2,000-3,500 $)

This dose not include recipient monitoring (525-700$)

Dose not include additional expenses for medicatlon, screening, recipient medications, semon analysis and freeze, ICSI, cryopreservation, confermation of pregnancy, treatment associated w/hyperstimmulation.

I hope this helps!



octoberbaby - May 24

wow.. well im 29 and i have been told that i need a donor... this is quite rough but i have known this since i was 14. i never got periods so they told me this at an early age..i thought that god willin my body would do it on its on... 1% of people in my position has gotten prego..on their own.. im new to the board so please feel free to give me as much information as possible and help with abbreviations


Misscleo - June 21

Hi, everyone. I guess I came to this board for not only support but also for help.

My husband and I were just told by a urologist that we are going to need IVF to have children. I am 22 and he is 24 so this was devastating to us. We had an idea that this was a possibility. My husband as atypical cystic fibrosis and 95% of men with that disease are sterile. I guess you just always hope you’re in that 5%, which is why we went to see the urologist. That’s when we got the news. He has Bi lateral absence of the vas deferens.

The worst part about it is that we are so young; we just got married and bought a house. Were already up to our eyeballs in debt. We just can't afford IVF; in our case it is even more because we need ICIS.

I have a daughter from a previous relationship (which I consider myself blessed to have), but my husband and I want to have a child together more than anything.

I am considering doing a donor cycle to get the money to travel to the Cooper center in NJ to do a shared cycle. I live in Michigan, they only give you 3,000 a cycle and that's not even 1/3 of the cost for my own IVF. I'm at a loss, $3,000 isn't even enough to cover our time off work and traveling expenses to go to NJ to get it done. The Doctor told us not to wait, the younger the better he said. I want to have a baby ASAP as well.

I don't want to cross any lines on this chat group, but I as I said above I am looking for support, but help as well. I am looking for someone to share a cycle at Cooper in exchange for help with the costs on our end. I talked to a rep. from Cooper and she told me that she thought with my profile I would be one of the first one's chosen off the donor list when it goes out to waiting recipients. That doesn't help me if I can not afford to get to NJ or take the time off work, you know? I have an appointment scheduled for Thursday of this week to talk to a fertility clinic about my options, but the consultation alone is $175. I don't know really what I want to do. I don't really like the idea of just basically selling my eggs to a stranger, you know. They get to pick me, but what do I know about them? I just think I would be more comfortable at least meeting or having dinner with the person/persons receiving a part of myself.

I think the shared cycles are great because everyone involved gets something good. I get help with my IVF costs, the recipient gets my eggs, and hopefully we both get babies!!! Nobody is in it for finical gain; it's only for the good of both parties.

A shared cycle to me seems safer to the recipient for several reasons!!!

-First being I have as much invested in the process as you so you know that the vitality of my eggs is top priority, I will take my meds as prescribed and abstain from things as needed to produce a good amount of eggs and good quality. (I have a two year old daughter so my fertility has been established)
-Second I have experienced that Dr. appt where they tell you, you can't have children naturally and I'm willing to share my eggs not only to help my family but also to help another family overcome infertility, and if requested to be an open donation we can provide support to each other through this difficult time, because we would be cycling together.

Well just in case anyone may be interested here is a little about me

I am 22 Years old
I have brown hair, very thick was straight to wavy/after baby went to spiral curls ??
-Brown eyes
-medium complexion
-dimples both sides (to some people it's a favorable trait) my daughter also has them.
I am 5'1
small/medium build
I have a mix of 25% Irish, 25% Hispanic, French and Hungarian
O+ blood type
I am currently a Nursing student and have always carried good grades and never had a hard time learning or catching on to things.
I am very active and healthy, my husband my daughter and I take a two mile bike ride almost every night.
I love to swim and my daughter does as well

I don’t want it to seem like I am on here trying to sell my eggs. I’m on here because I want to have more babies.


Annie - August 15

my husband and i are just coming to terms with the idea that we need to use a donor in order to have child. We have had 3 unsuccessful IVF rounds. I am 41 now. We have been trying for over 3years now. I am very disallusioned with the donor programs. I am already nerveous about how donors are screened and how invested in the process they really are.

I am interested in your idea. Where do you live? I am in the Chicago area. I am similar in physical description. Lets talk some more.



Misscleo - August 25

I live in mid-michigan area. We are looking to do a shared cycle in Aug 07, but we are willing to do one locally in March 07. If you are intrested you can e-mail me at [email protected]. Due to our school schedule we don't have much flexability


loubeebs - August 30

I am 38 have a 7 year old(without trying). My fsh is now 16. So, I have decided to go with donar egg. I just registered with a program. I actually do not get to view a picture of the donar. It is anonomous. I choose to split the cyle with another person. So I am waiting for the call that everything is set up. Does anyone have any tips for me.


uapril968 - September 10

Dear Laura,

I was reading your cost quote from your present IVF center for a donor cycle, and was wondering what's the name of the center. That cost is a lot better than any here in the NY area, and with that much of a difference, it would be worth it for us to travel.

We've tried 3 ivf cycles so far and are about to embark upon a 4th, but I'm not hopeful. I'm only 34, but the emotional rollercoaster of failure has beat most of the hope out of me. I just want to be a parent, but it's important for me to experience pregnancy and have a baby that's genetically linked to to my husband if possible (I think that I feel guilty that this whole infertility thing is my fault).

Anyway, I'm a newbie, but it's good to find other women who understand.



laura - September 26

Dear Uapril968,
Sorry for my delay in posting; for some reasion I could not post. The center is called "NCCRM = North Carolina Center For Reproductive medicine located in Cary NC. 1 (800) 933-7202 or 1 (919) 233-1680. My donor fresh transfer was a BFN. I do have 3 frozen blasts. We will attemped a FET in Nov.
Take care! Babydust!



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