Post-miscarriage cycles
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Slatka - May 22

I'm totally new here, so please forgive me if I'm going over old ground. I miscarried March 1 of this year (we'd been trying for a year and I was 6 and a half weeks along). I'm almost surprised at how my pain lingers, how my anger and sadness keeps rearing up, even though I should be "better."
Anyway, my question is this: in the three cycles I've had since the misc., I've starting cramping (mild) on day 10 -- this continues until I start my period on day 30. So about 3 weeks of mild cramping. My OB says it is ovulatory, but I can't believe I'm ovulating for 3 weeks! We are trying to conceive again and I worry that this is interfering with ovulation/conception. Is this normal after a miscarriage? My OB seems dismissive...
I never thought my body would "fail" me like this; I keep thinking I waited too long. Reading some of the messages here helps me to see and understand there are others like me -- I am, perhaps, not so alone. Thank you for listening.


hsn2006 - May 23

i am so sorry for u i also had a miscarriage in march so i know how u feel i am not over mine yet either but dont give up and maybe u need to switch drs.


SHELLY - May 23

Hi there Slatka !

I think you are justified to still be mourning your loss.
That is a hard thing. I am new on this forum too.
I have been ttc for 4 years now. I spent 2 years trying to get pg on my own and with some help from my ob/gyn with no luck at all. I am 38 and I am now under the care of a RE ( reproductive endocrinologist) for about 6 months now. I wish I would have done this 3 years ago. They discovered that I have a big cyst on my left side and removed it. They also discovered that I have endometriosis and have cleaned that up and put
me on meds for that. They have been very aggressive in treating my trouble while trying to help me get pg.
You may want to look into a specialist if you don't conceive within the next several months. I don't know how old you are. I just wish someone would have given
me this advice. You hang in there and keep you chin up!
I will be praying for you! ;)


Slatka - May 23

For hsn2006 and Shelly -- thank you so much for your words of kindness and advice. I haven't spoken to anyone who has gone through this (miscarriage and endlessly ttc) -- I can't believe how much of a relief it is to hear similar experiences and know others are out there who are "surviving" this journey. It's funny: I spent the last decade avoiding getting pregnant and was taught how easy it was to get pregnant. Now it seems the hardest thing in the world, when for others it seems to come so easily.
Both of you recommended perhaps changing doctors/going to an RE instead of an OB/GYN. I, like you Shelly, had been trying on my own (well, with husband's help!) the past year and a half, then the misc., now trying again on our own. I have an OB appoint. next week. Anything in particular I should ask? I have had some fertility testing (hormones) and my husband has been tested (all fine). I'm 33, and, for the first time, feel old...
I appreciate so much you sharing your stories -- I feel your sadness; I know it. Shelly, you seem to be on a good, more hopeful (and hopefully productive) path; I'm so glad.Keep us all posted.
Again, I wouldn't have believed how nice it feels to know of you all; miscarriage and infertility are such hushed topics.


SHELLY - May 24






Slatka - June 15

Hi Shelly -- Been a long time since I've been on this forum it feels like. I'm getting to the end of yet another 2 week wait -- I've been cramping (mild) since day 19 with no spotting. I'm on day 25 today...I just wish I would get my period and be done with it. It's torturous to be uncertain (is the cramping a good sign? a bad one? just a really really early start to my period? ugh).
I spoke seriously with my OB at the end of May. Based on all the tests, I'm "normal" -- nothing appears to be interfering with conception. She said Clomid wouldn't help me as I seem to be ovulating. I conceived once (then m/c), so the idea is I can do it again. I took your advice and was assertive about wanting help getting pregnant; if I don't conceive by the end of July (roughly), I head over to the Fertility Center. Yea.
How are you doing? With your cyst gone and the endometriosis under control, how are your cycles/ovulation? What's your plan for the next few months? I wish you much good luck -- it sounds like everything is in order with your body. Now you just have to be patient (impossible for me, I know!) and let it do its thing!


SHELLY - June 15

Well a BIG HOWDY to you Slatka !

The 2ww is always a bummer. Your up and then your
down. You feel like your pg then you feel like your
not pg. MIND GAMES :o !!! The cramping can go
either way I think because of coarse we always
cramp prior to AF and I have a 9 year old son and
I remember so clearly having AF cramps but AF never
came ;) that is why I was shocked when I found
out I was pg. I was only 28 then and wasnt even
thinking about trying (of coarse). I am proud of
you for getting assertive. YOU GO GIRL !
I had my 2nd failed IUI last month soooo I am taking
this month off so I can hit the coast for a week of
vacation. I'm leaving out on Saturday....yippy !
I will go for another IUI next month but this time
my RE is starting me on the BIG injections. I'll be
doing either gonal-f or follistim for the first time.
I'm really a bit nervous about it but IF I have a better
chance at the bundle of joy I'm willing to cowboy up :D
Hang in there and you keep busy and try not to
think about AF ! Let me know your outcome.
I'll be praying for you and DH.



babycasey - June 21

I just miscarried on the 13th of June. I have been reading all of the woman that r pregnant again so soon after miscarring. Is this ok??? I have been told to wait 3 months for my body to recuporate. (Also was told I need to heal emotionally too.)Will it hurt to try sooner?? Will I miscarry again if I try to soon(I know that it could still happen even if I wait the 3 months) I am afraid cause it took 7yrs to be blessed with the miracle I just miscarried that I wont b able to get pregnant again for a long time. My husband was told now is the best time to try again?? Can someone please give me some insight. Thank you


Slatka - June 21

Hi babycasey --

I'm so sorry about your loss; I miscarried on March 1 of this year and it took awhile to even achieve that pregnancy -- many of us on this forum know how you feel...

Here's my story/info: my OB told me it was best to wait until your period returns before trying to conceive again. Your body/hormones are still "out of whack" and you need to build up your uterine lining again (at least once or twice, I was told) in order for it to be hospitable for another implantation. I got my cycle back 28 days after my m/c, but I know it sometimes takes a few months for it to return normally. I had no complications from the m/c, no D & C, so my info is based on those circumstances. At the very least, you should wait until your HCG levels are at zero (this took me about 6 weeks, though they lowered very fast, enough for me to have a normal period in 28 days. Sometimes, the HCG levels linger for quite awhile). My OB did tell me (because I asked -- like you, we wanted to try again right away) that there is a slightly higher risk of another miscarriage for pregnancies conceived within a few weeks of m/c -- again, because the uterus is not quite ready in some women to sustain a pregnancy yet.
My husband and I are still trying to conceive (we started that second month/cycle after the m/c: we didn't wait 3 months because the Ob said it wasn't necessary in my case); my doc says this is normal and, if we did it once, we can do it again. I'm 33, so I am anxious about my age, but people have been encouraging that we can do it again -- so I would say the same for you. Remember, this is just my info and experience. I would check with your OB, see what she says. Much good luck to you and happy to have you on this forum.
Shelly -- I know you're on vacation...enjoy it! Thinking of you as you relax and prepare for your IUI next month. Keep in touch.


babycasey - June 21

Thank u so much for responding. I m sorry to hear of ur loss as well I know it's not easy. I am 31 now and have wanted to have my family all finished by the time I was 30. Well that never happened, but I am hopeful now that I now I can still get pregnant. I am so glad u didn't have a complications with the m/c and didn't need a D&C. My m/c went the same way, no complications and no D&C. I pray that I can start again sooner than the 3 month period they gave me. I am praying as well as crossing my fingers! I go for a follow-up August 1st. Hopefully I'll get a green light so to speak. How do u know when your HCG levels r back to normal?? I pray God blesses u and ur husband with a little soon.


Slatka - June 22

Hi Babycasey -- your situation sounds a lot like mine: I, too, just assumed getting pregnant would be easy, I had all the time in the world, I would easily have my little family all started by the time I was 30. As we know, our plans don't always work out...
That's what my family and docs have been saying, too: if you guys did it once, you can do it again. It means our fallopian tubes (at least one) are not blocked, the egg is traveling as it should, and we can conceive. Sometimes, though, as was probable in our cases, the body takes care of genetic problems on its own. I try to focus on the fact that this little life would have never come to term anyway; it just wasn't healthy enough; it was a mercy to me (and it) that it didn't grow any bigger.
After my miscarriage, my OB/GYN had me do weekly blood tests (I believe this is routine, from what I've heard, after a m/c) to see if the HCG levels are dropping. Blood testing is the only way to find out the HCG levels. If they do not drop (over time) that means that there is still some fetal material left in the uterus that needs to be removed -- but this shouldn't be a concern until many weeks have passed and the HCG is still the same. It sounds like your doc is just going to wait with the HCG testing until August (hopefully, they will be down by then) -- but if you feel any pain, anything "odd" you must call your doc before then. I had a two-week follow-up post-m/c with my OB and she said I was ovulating; and - bam - 28 days after the m/c I had my period.
I'd wait until you have your first period (has to be more than 21 days post-m/c for it to be considered a real period), then perhaps call you doc and see what she says about trying again.
Sorry I went on and on -- I remember so well I was in your position 3 months ago. Your body will recover itself; it just needs time. There was nothing you could do, take a deep breath and let yourself heal.
Take care -- Slatka


babycasey - June 23

Slatka, Thank you so much for responding. It was hard at first when I found this website to write my story, but I am feeling better everytime I read a reply. It does alot of good I feel for women out there to know that they are not alone in any of the situations that we go through. And thank you for sharing your story. It truely does help! You could have gone on and on and on and it would not have bothered me. I am glad to know they test the HCG levels through blood, cause I started thinking that maybe it was done through the urine that they have u bring in for every visit. So thank you for clarifing that for me. And I know my body will recover. I started doing postpartum exercises in hopes to heal quicker, but I think I will back off some cause I can feel my muscles ache and don't want to push it. I just want to heal quickly, watch next month go by in a blink and practice the fun in making a baby again!! I am taking one day at a time, but some days I think I get ahead of myself and hope that I am not the only one that does this. I am just so excited that I know I can have a baby that I want to believe it won't take as long this time(took 7yrs). Well I pray every night for all the women in the world(cause I know and they know what we have been thru) that we all get the little miracles God blesses upon us. Thanks again Slatka, BabyCasey


Slatka - June 26

Hi BabyCasey --
Just keep yourself busy -- doing some gentle exercises again will help not only physically, but mentally. I do yoga, kickboxing, and fast walking; though it took awhile to get back in the routine (you had such a recent loss -- give yourself time), it helps immensely to feel good about myself again. To get my body in shape for the next time (which will come, we have to believe).
I still totally get ahead of myself, though I tell myself not to. When I get my period, I automatically count out when the next should come, when I can do a HPT, when, if I conceive, I will be far enough along to risk telling my family, etc. I think, oh, the baby would be here before Easter, or whatever. I had hoped this past Father's Day to be telling my husband some good news, but it wasn't the case.
But, there's something in most of us that keeps us optimistic, even in the face of months and years of disappointments. Faith, perhaps, in god or nature or good. Don't know, but without it, I would be crushed.
Well, you have a little over a month to go before your next check-up in August. It will go fast. Hopefully, even, your cycle will return before then.
Take care everyone -- Slatka


Fortyfour - July 5

Hi all - Sorry for all your losses and emotional ups and downs. I know it is hard to wait but if you wait at least 6 months after a m/c it is alot easier to handle trying to conceive again. I have had 2 miscarraiges. The body may be ready but the heart is not. Take care all.


Slatka - July 11

HI babycasey --

Haven't heard from you in awhile...just wondering how you are doing, how you are recovering. Feel free to check in; I know -- and all these women on here know -- how difficult this all is, how overwhelming and, at least for me, lonely.

Hope you are doing well and feeling good. Take care --



babycasey - July 11

Actually I hope everyone is doing well. Thank you though for checking up on me. It helps to kknow others care too. I have found peace through God and am doing better. I will admit it is still hard sometimes when I see a woman that is showing a belly. I am a little confused right know to tell the truth. On the 4th of July it was 21 days since I m/c. I started cramping that night, but did not get my period. I have had cramping on and off all that week and still havent had a period. My husband and I had sex on the 30th of last month and did not use protection. I keep thinking that maybe I m pregnant again??? I had taken a pregnancy test a week ago just to see if there was any hcg levels to be detected. and it came out negative(my prenatal doesnt test to see if your hcg levels are going down) So last Thursday or Friday I took a cheep p/t and it had a really faint line on it. So still unsure I went out today and bought a E.P.T and took it this morning. It also came back with a very faint line showing, so I need to know if I am pregnant for sure again, cause I am going to visit my little brother in Philly and he wants to go out and party like we do when we get together(He was out the week before I m/c and ofcourse I couldn't party) But I DO NOT want to hurt a miracle growing inside me by chance I am. Not sure exactly what I am going to do. I may wait and next week before I go to Philly and visit family take another test and if still unsure go to prenatal and have on done there. I have also thought that maybe there is still some hcg left in my body from m/c but why did the 1st test I took a week or so ago come out negative. Very confused right now. and scared cause I know that I am at a higher risk of m/c again if I am pregnant again so soon after m/c. I don't even know how soon u can check after possibly conceiving for pregnancy. Am I losing my mind???? Well I have gone on enough. My heart goes out to all of u! It is very difficult but your not alone I will keep you all in my prayers. God Bless, and Thanks for checking on me Slatka!!! BabyCasey


Slatka - July 11

HI BabyCasey --

I'm stuck inside the house today since it is about 100 degrees here in DC, so I just read your post (I'm spending valuable quality time onthe internet! oh, yeah).

Huh, I'm not sure what to say about your current experience. I can say that, yes, over the counter pregnancy tests will detect residual HCG in your blood within quite a few weeks after a m/c. There's a little bit still there, that's why the line you see is so faint. ANd the first test you took that was negative, that could just be because the test wasn't sensitive enough. See, my guess is that if you are pregnant, the pregnancy test line might start out faint, but the one you took this morning (several days after the one you took last week) should be much much darker as the HCG would have increased if ther ewas a pregnancy.

It's tough to guess when it is the best time to test for pregnancy since you have not had a period since the m/c; therefore, there is no date to start counting the days or figuring out ovulation. I know I ovulated about 2 weeks after my miscarriage because I had an OB/GYN exam that day as a check-up, and the doc, as she was examining me, said she could tell by what she saw that I was ovulating. So it is perfectly possible to ovulate within 2 weeks post-m/c.

My overall suggestion is to call the doc; perhaps even over the phone they can tell you whether you are probably not pregnant or if they want you to come in for a blood test. See, if you are pregnant -- and I hope you are if you want to be! -- the HCG levels should be getting stronger and stronger with each passing day (hence, a darker line on the test stick). But please check in with your doc, especially if you have travel plans.

Good luck to you!!!! I'm glad you're doing ok -- and I hope you get to the bottom of this issue. It must be nerve-wracking not to know.
Take care --



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