misscarriage sucks
16 Replies
celia m - October 24

Hi all, I guess I'll start this board. I as you can see have had 4 losses. This has been the hardest time of my life. We can get pregnant, but they never work out, 7 weeks max. We will never be able to enjoy the joy of pregnancy from worrying the whole time. We are thinking of moving on to IVF, which sounds crazy b/c we can get pregnant, so do we continue on our own or move on??? Thanks for listening. Best wishes


baby4us - October 24

Celia .. I am so sorry to hear about your losses... have you done any testing to determine why you are unable (at this point) to carry a pregnancy to term?

There are just so many factors out there.. and unfortunately many unknowns... just wonderign what your doctor has suggested?


Fortyfour - October 25

Celia - Have you checked out Dr. Beers websit for additional testing for you? He has some great info. I wouldnt do an ivf until then. You have had enough heartbreak. There is so much they can find out.


WantsBaby2 - October 25

Sorry about all the heartbreak you have endured. I can't even imagine. It might be good to check into some additional testing like the other girls said. Keep us posted on your decisions. ((((((Hugs))))))



oneandonlymel - October 25

Celia -My heart goes out to you and what you are going through! I hope things work out in the end and you finally hold that bundle of joy you so desirve!!!


Karen123 - October 25

Celia, I'm so very sorry for all the devastating losses you have endured. m/c involves unimaginable pain. I too truly hope that you find the help you need and your dreams do come true for you. Karen


silli_kitti - October 26

Celia, I echo everyone else. Before you spend all that time, energy and money on IVF, please consider immune testing to see if they can't help you solve this problem of recurring miscarriage. There are medications out there to help you if you know what the problem is. Please, ask your RE about it, or ask about a referral to a reproductive immunologist. You need to do everything you can to help prevent another devastating miscarriage.

Take good care.


Debie - October 27

Celiam, again I am sorry for all the grief you have experienced with these losses and I agree with silli_kitti re: immune testing before IVF.

I was reminded of my two losses yesterday when I had to take my housekeeper to the gyn yesterday, she too had a blighted ovum. On monday I asked how she was doing coz she didn't look herself. She told me she had been bleeding for a week and having abdominal pain. I suggested she speaks to her husband and we all go together to the doctor. I couldn't contain myself when the loss was confirmed, and they did the evac immediately...Talk about constant reminders.
I was really depressed last night and kept thinking of how far I would be had I not lost my babies.



celia m - October 27

Thanks ya''ll for the incouraging words. 44, where is the website for Dr. Beers? Also anyone else, do you have info on the immune issues?


Fortyfour - October 27

Hi celiam - www.repro-med.net is his website. Dr. Beers site has all the info you need to get started. It explain everything. There is also a support groupt that you can sign up on to give you more info. Take care.


Ashley W 20 - April 1

I miscarried when i was 6wks i was so ready to have a baby so bad i was the happiest person in the world my boyfriend was very very happy it was 3wks ago today and im still heartbroken even though i was only 6wks it still hurts i wana try again but im so scared


Tiffany F. - April 2

Ashley W 20, I miscarried at 6 weeks about a month ago, usually you get your period 6-8 weeks later, I did'nt want to wait that long so I took Provera to bring down my cycle so we can try again, I'm scared also but I believe what is meant to be will be.

So if you feel your emtionally ready give it another try! Is this your first miscarriage? Just believe and pray God will work it out for you, but you must believe, and I have had several miscarriages.

Take Care, I'm here if you need someone to chat with!


fiso - April 10

Ashley W 20, be good to yourself. It takes time for your emotions to calm down after a m/c. It took me a good 3 months to get over mine. I noticed that when I thought I was OK about it, there would be always be something to remind me of it untill I reached a point when I actually acknowledged the sad feeling but I wouldn't let it drag me down anymore.
Just take good care of yourself and talk to your boyfriend about it. You should be a team in this adventure.
Keep the faith and baby dust to you.


brandy - April 20

Hello ladies
I also just had a m/c on april 15th. first one. it is so disappointing, husband & i have been trying for just about a year. i dont know how people go on after more than one! my heart is breaking & i'm so scared its going to happen again. to all of you i feel your pain & wish you all the best.


babymags - May 30

After 2 failed cycles of fertility, the 3rd time must have been a charm. I finally heard the news that I had been waiting for... I was preganant.... finally! I could tell that I was, not just from the 3 tests that told me I was pregnant but the other symptoms as well (sensitive breasts, extreme exhaustion and sick to my stomach half of the day). I have an 8 year-old daughter and experienced some of the same symptoms with her but not as severe. I was so happy and shared my news with everyone I knew. I have a great, supportive group of friends so I had to share this with them. Unfortunately, it was merely days from the time I told them to the time I had to tell them that I had a miscarriage. My levels were normal and increasing everday and then they crashed for some reason and I spent the next 3 days between the bedroom and bathroom. I have NEVER seen anything like this before in my life! I bled as if I was dying (and I thought I was). I guess my body chose to handle it on its' own and in some ways for that I was grateful but still disappointed. My husband wanted to cry with me and try to "fix" things and I told him (in a not-so-nice voice) that I wasn't broken!!! Yes, I did want to share this moment of sadness with him but I did not want to dwell on it because it would be that much harder for me to start my next cycle, which I did several days later. I am not in the waiting phase of this cycle and will not know if I am pregnant or not until June 4th. I know what each of you is going through, I also had a miscarriage 11 years ago which took me a long time to get over. I have to believe that everything happens for a reason. I know in my heart that my time will come. I am a loving and caring mother to my daughter and was a teacher for 10 years and treated each of my kids as if they were my own. I stopped working over a year ago and miss it terribly because I was able to love those children and they love me back unconditionally everyday no matter what. My heart is not full yet, there is still room inside for more children to love and cherish. I have to believe that I was put on this earth to have some effect on children whether they are my own or not. Keep your spirit going and stay focused. Take time for yourself. It may be easier said than done but it will help the healing process. Good Luck to all.


fiso - May 31

Babymags, my heart goes out to you. I've been on that road too and it's hard. Even now, that I am 5 months pg, I realized that this baby will be born around the time I lost one last year. It's a a weird feeling even if I'm happy.
Hang in there. Do as much as you can to be good to yourself. I guess husbands feel helpless and they want to help somehow. You can't blame them, it's just that what a woman feels and what a man feels is very different.
I have to tell you that I bled for the first 3 months of my prg. It wasn't spotting, it was heavy. That was really scary. But it's something that happens.
Come back to this site to share good news or sad ones. It's such a supportive and caring group of women, they always have the right word to confort you or to be happy with you.
Baby dust to you.


iluvbabies7 - July 2

Miscarriage does suck. i have been pregnant 2x in the last 6 months.Lost both 12-05 and 6-06. And Baby dust to everyone that is on the board. I hope all your wishes and dreams come true.
Babydust 10x fold and God bless.



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