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Hi, I am so sorry to gear for your loss. I also had a miscarriage on the same day. I am still waiting for my period. I talked to my fertility Dr. and my OB, and they both said that it could take up to eight weeks for my period to come back. My husband and I had unprotected sex as well, 7 days after. I had not gotten my period so I took an hpt that came back negative. I would say, if you think you are pregnant, get a blood test. Good Luck!

it is actually very easy to get pregnate after a dnc

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Hi, I am so sorry to gear for your loss. I also had a miscarriage on the same day. I am still waiting for my period. I talked to my fertility Dr. and my OB, and they both said that it could take up to eight weeks for my period to come back. My husband and I had unprotected sex as well, 7 days after. I had not gotten my period so I took an hpt that came back negative. I would say, if you think you are pregnant, get a blood test. Good Luck!
[/quote]That you for getting back with me. I am also sorry for your loss. I never thought I would participate in this type of channeling. My heart goes out to every parent who has suffered a loss as this, or any kind. This is never easy for the parents or the families involved. My daughter was so devasted she told me I ruined her life and that she hated me. Thhose words tore into me. I had to get it together and explained that mummy had nothing to do with this. She had heard me over the years say I did not want anymore children. WORDS I regret now. My husband, her father also explained things to her. She is hurting so. I have to put my pain and anquish aside to comfort her, but in doing so healed me some. She wants us to try again so badly.
My Dr. also told me it could be anywhere from 3 to 8 weeks. I called the Dr. and he advised if I had not gotten my cycle by the end of next week to come in for a blood test. I don't reallt want to have to wait 2 months, but if I must nothing I can do about it. He said I am either having implantation or my cycle is trying to come on. I am 40 years old and so afraid, but I really would like a chance at having another baby before it is too late for me. I was going to have twins. When I actually think of them I cry... I am also a twin, so it meant so muh to me. I am healing and I understand everything happens in life for a reason. I don't want to accept this reasoning, and I just want my twins..But it is what is it. I am moving pass this. I think it bothers me more so because f my age and continually hearing about being 40 and the great risk and chromosomal issues, which is what my precious babies had. I was about 14 weeks along, but, my actual pregnancy stopped at one twin at 6 weeks and the other twin between 4 and 5 weeks. My solace in this is that my babies were together and still are in heaven. I will meet them when it's my turn. I have a 18yr old and a 10. I had not planned this pregnancy. It was actually a shock, but this miscarriage changed my marriage for the better. Now I have re-evaluated my priorities and want another one. I am so scared of miscarring again. I don't know how I would take it. I pray every night to my lord & savior and pray he implants me with and delivers me a beautiful healthy baby.

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it is actually very easy to get pregnate after a dnc
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Hello there and thank you you responding, very much appreciated. Can you explain why is it and how is it easy to get pregnant after a D&C. Pardon my ignorance. I have never experienced anything like this. And as old as I am still hesitant to ask my doctor for Ijust met him in December when I found out I was pregnant. I had been under a great deal of stress with my 18 nyr old son, so stress can hinder your cycle. So, I so called technically 11+ weeks when I found out about being pregnant. I started to show around 12 weeks, had to wear maternity and then everything went to H_ __ _ !!!after I was at 14 wks. Sorry, got off the subject. It was 15 0r 16 days after the D&C that myhusband and I had intercourse what do you think? I know you are not a mind reader etc, but, just your opinion. Either way I have to go to the OBGYN. end of next week if my cycle is not on. Thank you

I am a Christian and do believe that I will meet my baby in heaven and I am not going to stop trying. My husband and I have been trying for almost 7 years to have a baby. We have wanted to be parents for so long and I was upset that God took my baby away, but I have Faith that there is a better plan for us.

Did you have a Karyotype when they did the D&C? (It's a test for abnormal chromosomes) I had one, and it came out negative. My baby's heart just stopped beating at 8 weeks.

For your daughter, maybe planing a tree (or two for the twins) in the Spring may be a good way to have her say goodbye. I am sure it is hard for her little head to grasp. My husband said that he didn't realize how much that miscarriage would hurt. We are planting a tree for our baby and I think that we may have a prayer with our family around for some closure.

I will be praying for you and your family.
Best
Kathy

I thank you for your prayers and well wishes. I will pray for your family as well. Pray baby dust comes your way as well as mine. Also, thank you about the idea of planting a tree.

Best wishes,
Pia

Well unfortunitly i feel like a verteran when it comes to miscariages. I have went through infertility off and on for 5 years i have been pregnate 7 times. I have a 3yr old little girl and due in three weeks with another, however i have lost 5 precious children. It never gets easy and you never get over it you learn to live with it. I was 19 yrs old when i found out that i would have to go through fertility treatments to concieve and was married at 20. I will be 26 in May so age really doent matter in all this believe me. However the reason you can get pregnate easily after a d&c, or a natural miscarriage is the same as after pregnancy your body is just primed for it. I have always been told to be very careful during sex after wards to not concieve right away. I understand the pain and the anger i have been through it all.If there is anything i can do answer questions or anything just let me know like i said i feel like a veteran at this.

Thank you for getting back with me. I am so sorry for sll your losses. I felt your pain as I read your message. Yes, I was angry, upset, and heart broken. I cried for days and stayed in a fetal position when my daughter was in school. I did not want to go on, but I had KC (abrv) to take care of and my son CH. My children are my world, that is one of the reasons I had not gotten ptegnant again. So much of me I give to them. I never thought of another child till this. My heart aches to hold my own baby again. I love children, I love being a mother. I really want this to happen. I had spotting for 2 days. and when I say spotting a drop on each day and that is it. It was brownish in color both times. Later in the afternoon watered out red..light..pale,.. nothing since .. I had the spotting on Jan. 18n and 19..exactly 2 weeks from the date of intercourse. My body and hormone is so out of wack, I don't know or understand what the heck zi am feeling within my body or is my mind playing tricks on me. I am clear fluid from my nipples which spooked me. But, I am guessing that was from the previous pregnancy? I have noticed that I am going to the bathroom frequently, but it bwould be too soon for that. Prior to D&C my count was like 59999 and when I went for my 1 wk follow up after D&D my count was 895 or 985 one of the 2 so my HCG went down pretty rapidly, I think.. based on the number..What do you think of all I have just said. Again, it could just be my cycle deciding to come on.

I would ask for another level? I always made them keep doing them until my level was under 5 to show a negative result. That way i knew my body was recovering. When are you dur to go back to the dr again?

Hi there,

Presently, I do not have a standing appointment with my OBGYN. He advised me that if by the end of the month my cycle had not come on to come in for another blood test. January 30th makes it six weeks since my D&C procedure. I am trying to think positive that I am, but in the same token I know it could just be that my cycle is doing its thing. It appears to have been exactly 2 weeks since my husband and I had intercourse from the date I had the spotting. I had never heard of implantation spotting till surfing the web, and then after speaking with my Dr. he used the same terminology. So, I am doing the waiting game like so many other mothers wanting to be. I look forward to your response.

Pia

i have had spotting during implantation stage and even very bad cramps.