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celia m
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Hi all, I guess I'll start this board. I as you can see have had 4 losses. This has been the hardest time of my life. We can get pregnant, but they never work out, 7 weeks max. We will never be able to enjoy the joy of pregnancy from worrying the whole time. We are thinking of moving on to IVF, which sounds crazy b/c we can get pregnant, so do we continue on our own or move on??? Thanks for listening. Best wishes
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Age 32, DH, 34. Married 4 years, TTC 3 yrs.. 1st m/c Jan 03-unknown reason. 2nd m/c-blighted ovum, chromosomal defects. diag- luteal phase defect, anticardiolipin antibodies elev, endometriosis. 4 IUI /Clomid,2004. 3rd. loss 7/05, 4th loss 9/05, BFP 1/02/06, due 9/09/06
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Celia .. I am so sorry to hear about your losses... have you done any testing to determine why you are unable (at this point) to carry a pregnancy to term?
There are just so many factors out there.. and unfortunately many unknowns... just wonderign what your doctor has suggested?
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37 yrs. old, DH is 39 -- TTC for a year and a half.. One blocked tube. Completed two IUI's (both on 1050 iu's of Gonal-F). BFP Sept. 28. Annabel born on June 7th - 1 day after my official due date!!
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Celia - Have you checked out Dr. Beers websit for additional testing for you? He has some great info. I wouldnt do an ivf until then. You have had enough heartbreak. There is so much they can find out.
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Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
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Celia,
Sorry about all the heartbreak you have endured. I can't even imagine. It might be good to check into some additional testing like the other girls said. Keep us posted on your decisions. ((((((Hugs))))))
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38 yrs. DH is 31 yrs. Married November 2002. No children. TTC since the honeymoon. Infertility treatments 2 yrs. 7 failed IUIs. 3 cancelled IVFs due to poor response to meds. Poor ovarian reserve. DH has male factors. Chicago, IL Presently looking into adoption!
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oneandonlymel
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Celia -My heart goes out to you and what you are going through! I hope things work out in the end and you finally hold that bundle of joy you so desirve!!!
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35 yrs old, dh is 38,married for 5 years on May 20th. have been ttc for 3 years, 3 miscarriages diagnosed with homo MTHFR and factor II mutation, trying on our own, did have one IUI but failed. BFP 7-21 05
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Celia, I'm so very sorry for all the devastating losses you have endured. m/c involves unimaginable pain. I too truly hope that you find the help you need and your dreams do come true for you. Karen
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39 years old. Divorced at 26, 2 teenage daughters from that marriage. 3 devastating miscarriages. B/G twins born 1/23/06 after IVF at 29 weeks, 4 days.
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silli_kitti
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Celia, I echo everyone else. Before you spend all that time, energy and money on IVF, please consider immune testing to see if they can't help you solve this problem of recurring miscarriage. There are medications out there to help you if you know what the problem is. Please, ask your RE about it, or ask about a referral to a reproductive immunologist. You need to do everything you can to help prevent another devastating miscarriage.
Take good care.
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37, unexplained infertility (no M or F factors), TTC for 1 yr, 3 failed cycles of Clomid 50 mg + IUI, 2 failed cycles of 5 mg Femara + Gonal-f + IUI, having extreme difficulty coping, esp. with all the blissfully new moms around me
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Celiam, again I am sorry for all the grief you have experienced with these losses and I agree with silli_kitti re: immune testing before IVF.
I was reminded of my two losses yesterday when I had to take my housekeeper to the gyn yesterday, she too had a blighted ovum. On monday I asked how she was doing coz she didn't look herself. She told me she had been bleeding for a week and having abdominal pain. I suggested she speaks to her husband and we all go together to the doctor. I couldn't contain myself when the loss was confirmed, and they did the evac immediately...Talk about constant reminders.
I was really depressed last night and kept thinking of how far I would be had I not lost my babies.
INFERTILITY TRULY SUCKS.
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35 yrs. Married 3years. BFP on 25/04/2005. ~~AngelBaby 6 May 2005~~. D&C and Laparoscopy: stage 2 Endometriosis 12/05/2005. BFP 29 June = Blighted Ovum - d&c August 2005. Conceived 11 March 2006 and had beautiful and healthly BabyGirl at 33wks on 10/10/06.
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celia m
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Thanks ya''ll for the incouraging words. 44, where is the website for Dr. Beers? Also anyone else, do you have info on the immune issues?
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Age 32, DH, 34. Married 4 years, TTC 3 yrs.. 1st m/c Jan 03-unknown reason. 2nd m/c-blighted ovum, chromosomal defects. diag- luteal phase defect, anticardiolipin antibodies elev, endometriosis. 4 IUI /Clomid,2004. 3rd. loss 7/05, 4th loss 9/05, BFP 1/02/06, due 9/09/06
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Hi celiam - www.repro-med.net is his website. Dr. Beers site has all the info you need to get started. It explain everything. There is also a support groupt that you can sign up on to give you more info. Take care.
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Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
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Ashley W 20
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I miscarried when i was 6wks i was so ready to have a baby so bad i was the happiest person in the world my boyfriend was very very happy it was 3wks ago today and im still heartbroken even though i was only 6wks it still hurts i wana try again but im so scared
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Tiffany F.
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Ashley W 20, I miscarried at 6 weeks about a month ago, usually you get your period 6-8 weeks later, I did'nt want to wait that long so I took Provera to bring down my cycle so we can try again, I'm scared also but I believe what is meant to be will be.
So if you feel your emtionally ready give it another try! Is this your first miscarriage? Just believe and pray God will work it out for you, but you must believe, and I have had several miscarriages.
Take Care, I'm here if you need someone to chat with!
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Ashley W 20, be good to yourself. It takes time for your emotions to calm down after a m/c. It took me a good 3 months to get over mine. I noticed that when I thought I was OK about it, there would be always be something to remind me of it untill I reached a point when I actually acknowledged the sad feeling but I wouldn't let it drag me down anymore.
Just take good care of yourself and talk to your boyfriend about it. You should be a team in this adventure.
Keep the faith and baby dust to you.
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41. DH 38. TTC 2 years. 2 failed IUIs, 1 IVF resulting in a m/c.
2nd IVF. BFP 02 03 06!!!! Due date 10-13-06. Julia arrived on Oct. 23 2006. 10 days late but healthy and beautiful! A miracle. PG again, and this time all natural! Due date 07/11/08
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Hello ladies
I also just had a m/c on april 15th. first one. it is so disappointing, husband & i have been trying for just about a year. i dont know how people go on after more than one! my heart is breaking & i'm so scared its going to happen again. to all of you i feel your pain & wish you all the best.
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After 2 failed cycles of fertility, the 3rd time must have been a charm. I finally heard the news that I had been waiting for... I was preganant.... finally! I could tell that I was, not just from the 3 tests that told me I was pregnant but the other symptoms as well (sensitive breasts, extreme exhaustion and sick to my stomach half of the day). I have an 8 year-old daughter and experienced some of the same symptoms with her but not as severe. I was so happy and shared my news with everyone I knew. I have a great, supportive group of friends so I had to share this with them. Unfortunately, it was merely days from the time I told them to the time I had to tell them that I had a miscarriage. My levels were normal and increasing everday and then they crashed for some reason and I spent the next 3 days between the bedroom and bathroom. I have NEVER seen anything like this before in my life! I bled as if I was dying (and I thought I was). I guess my body chose to handle it on its' own and in some ways for that I was grateful but still disappointed. My husband wanted to cry with me and try to "fix" things and I told him (in a not-so-nice voice) that I wasn't broken!!! Yes, I did want to share this moment of sadness with him but I did not want to dwell on it because it would be that much harder for me to start my next cycle, which I did several days later. I am not in the waiting phase of this cycle and will not know if I am pregnant or not until June 4th. I know what each of you is going through, I also had a miscarriage 11 years ago which took me a long time to get over. I have to believe that everything happens for a reason. I know in my heart that my time will come. I am a loving and caring mother to my daughter and was a teacher for 10 years and treated each of my kids as if they were my own. I stopped working over a year ago and miss it terribly because I was able to love those children and they love me back unconditionally everyday no matter what. My heart is not full yet, there is still room inside for more children to love and cherish. I have to believe that I was put on this earth to have some effect on children whether they are my own or not. Keep your spirit going and stay focused. Take time for yourself. It may be easier said than done but it will help the healing process. Good Luck to all.
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