Meg, I wanted to congratulate you on your pregnancy! I didn't even know that you were pregnant! When the heck did that happen? Was I sleeping the day you announced it?!!
I was completely baffled how you could be that far along and I was not even aware. Did you do another IVF or was it IUI? I am so happy for you! When are you due? Just amazing. I am so glad you get to experience being a mother again! Keep us posted girl.
38 yrs. DH is 31 yrs. Married November 2002. No children. TTC since the honeymoon. Infertility treatments 2 yrs. 7 failed IUIs. 3 cancelled IVFs due to poor response to meds. Poor ovarian reserve. DH has male factors. Chicago, IL Presently looking into adoption!
Arghhh I've had moments of regret too. When I saw that empty sac last week (a day before DH's birthday), I just lost it. I thought how in May 1999, I cried at the suspicion that I was pregnant. My husband (boyfriend then) simpy said "I know we haven't planned to have children yet, but if you are pregnant don't worry we'll both take care of the baby and it would be a blessing from God". That in itself freaked me out and I was happiest when the doctor confirmed I was not pregnant. Back then I didn't want anything to do with children. I had just been confirmed to go on a UN Mission in East Timor June 1999 and I wanted to chase the adventure and exposure. I regret why I put things on hold.
As for now, I feel really nasty, the uterus is taking its own sweet time to clear itself and I really don't want to rush for a D&C, I am in LIMBO and it hurts to know what could have been....
I found out back at the beginning of May (5/5). As you know Dh and I were trying on our own for a year, well it happened on its own - much to our surprise and our Dr.s surprise also. We had even gone back to the fertility Dr. and found out that I was p/g while we making plans to do a transfer. B/c of my miscarriage history, our fertility Dr. did follow me for the first 8 wks. and I had to take progesterone shots for low progesterone. I did not post the p/g b/c I felt guilty getting p/g on my own, and I know how everyone struggles, even though I have also been down that road for many years. Technically we have been having unprotected sex since 2000, so all in all we were completely surprised that it did happen on its own. I am still very nervous and can't wait until my 20 wk. u/s to make sure that the baby is okay and growing appropriately. I don't think I will stop worrying until the baby is finally here. My next hurdle is also to make sure I don't go early again, as the road of premature babies can be a little difficult. I am due Jan. 12. As for rude comments also, last week someone told me I was crazy for having another baby already having twins. I was very annoyed and told her we had been trying and also had planned to go to do fertility this summer and it was what my husband and I wanted more than anything. People just can be so darn annoying...
WantsBaby2, I want you to know that I am praying so very hard for you. I read your other posts and am glad that your Dr. has given you hope that you will still be able to have a baby by altering your protocol. I am hoping for twins for you You deserve to be a mom so very much !!!! Please take care and also thankyou for caring and it means so much to me - you are such a sweet person
Meg, I am so excited for you. It's amazing that you got pg on your own. When you least expect it they say! Congratulations! Do you know if you are having a boy or a girl? Try not to worry. I have a good feeling that everything will be just fine!
Thank you for all of your thoughts and prayers. I appreciate it so much. I am just so afraid of the same results when we try again in November. I am really trying to stay positive though. We are also doing some FSH testing (clomid challenge)with the next cycle, and I am really afraid of the results of that as well.
So keep us all posted on your progress. Thank you for being sensitive to all of the unpregnant girl's feelings. Although, I think I can speak for all of us in saying you didn't need to be so secretive! We all know how much you have been through on the infertility front. I think it's wonderful that you were able so conceive naturally! I wish I could have seen the look on your face when you found out you were pg!!!!!
Take care Meg. You are an amazing woman and a good friend!
38 yrs. DH is 31 yrs. Married November 2002. No children. TTC since the honeymoon. Infertility treatments 2 yrs. 7 failed IUIs. 3 cancelled IVFs due to poor response to meds. Poor ovarian reserve. DH has male factors. Chicago, IL Presently looking into adoption!
My aunt called me the other day. She just found out about my m/c in Nov. ( I didnt call everyone, just to hard and she makes stupid comments) She went on and on about how she wishes the ivf would work because I was too old to adopt because of agency standards and what do they do with people that wait so long for babies that they are too old to adopt. ( does she think I am too old to do it naturally then also?) I told her I had a better chance of having my own child than adopting an infant. She said nothing but I could just hear her doubt. She hopes that this baby will be ok. I would have liked to choke her through the phone line.
She adopted 2 children 20 years ago because her hubby was sterile. I guess that makes her an expert on my situtation. Are people stupid or just plain mean I ask?
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
You know, I honestly think people are stupid. They have NO idea how hurtful their comments can be, and I truly believe they think they are being helpful.
On more than one occasion recently, I have two friends who do not discipline their kids...and they're little...so there are lots of tantrums and screaming and sometimes it's quite unbearable. So, when these kids are out of control, both of my friends have asked me, "So are you sure this is what you wanted?" Like I could possibly regret any of the infertility treatments DH & I have done. Oh, and the one friend lectured me about how children are expensive. Like what we've been doing the past two years - paying for ALL our fertility treatments out of pocket - has been cheap??
Now, these women are smart women, but these comments are SO stupid! So, I just attribute these comments to sheer stupidity. I honestly do not believe they see just how hurtful their comments are...if they did know, I'm sure they wouldn't say it. Not only my friends and family, but everyone us infertilies come in contact with who are trying to buck us up...these "pep talks" are far more detrimental than they know.
Well, my dear friends, there is my two cents. I guess they can never know what we go through, and while the comments are so hurtful, I would not wish any of this upon them. Frankly, I wish none of us had to go through what we have been through and continue to go through. We're a great bunch of women and I'm sorry we're bonded through this shared experience. Though, I am so very glad to have this group along this path.
I am just tired of everyone telling me to be positive. No one was more positive than me going into my last IVF. Look what happened again! I am going to smack the next person who tells me to be positive!
38 yrs. DH is 31 yrs. Married November 2002. No children. TTC since the honeymoon. Infertility treatments 2 yrs. 7 failed IUIs. 3 cancelled IVFs due to poor response to meds. Poor ovarian reserve. DH has male factors. Chicago, IL Presently looking into adoption!
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
You are truly a rock ! I find myself so drawn to your posts because you've gone through so much and are still truckin' . Your story touched me deeper than most this morning perhaps it's one of my moody days that my hubby too is sooooooo exhausted with.
I wish you all the best in this agonizing path in life we've chosen to take.
And remember kick scream cry or yell do what you must to stay so human Because you are BEAUTIFUL !
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