Hi guys, I just came back from the hospital. I lost my baby suddenly at 16 weeks. Last thursday we went on my regular appoitment and the doctor didn't hear the heartbeat,she sent me right away to have ultrasound-and it confirmed no heartbeat. I didn't see it coming,they send us to the hospital,indused me and I had my baby boy 24 hours later,folowing d@c,lost 2.5 litters of blood,got blood transfusion,fever105,infection.They put tons drugs in me. They don't know what happend,took tons of tests.
Marina- I am so sorry to hear what happened to you. I completely understand what your are going through, as I went through a very similar situation with my last pg at 11 weeks. I don't even have any words to give you comfort. This is such a terrible thing and I am truely sorry. I hope you are feeling okay physically. How are you and dh handling everything? Men and women react so differently so be patient with him and be patient with yourself and the grieving process. Again I am so sorry. I hope you can get some answers. If you need to talk I am here.
I am truly sorry for your lost and thank God you are alright. Such a high fever and complications. There are no words for your lost. Keep the faith, at least you know you can get pg. Its such a long journey to get to the end. We are all here for you and my prayers go out to you and your dh.
Congrats on the BFP, it propably is a true positive. Can't wait to see what your beta is. I am so happy for you and hope the best for you.
I think I need to ask more questions to my dr. I have been just doing what he says and not really asking anything since I am knew to this thing. I guess I will find more tomorrow and I will ask more questions. I think I messed up my post coital though, was suppose to wait 3 days to bd and we bd last night, make-up bd, had an arguement. Oh well he still will have plenty in the am for sure. He has no problems...lol...
Marina I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure there are no words to describe how you must be feeling. I hope you feel better physically. My prayers are with you.
Thank you guys for your support, I've been through this before with my first pregnancy,only difference was i was 18,it was unplaned,and I was 32weeks and my baby girl lived for 4 days. I was young and stupid,my ex husband didn't care much and we had all life ahead of us. Now i'm 37 and have a wonderful 12 years old son and married to the best man in the world (who was ready to pay any money to have a child together)and we were soo lucky to get pregnant with IVF from the first try...only to get this far?! I think it would be easier for us to get BFN or m/c in early PG,not now when we thought we are safe after 12 weeks...All your life wraps around one thing now-your baby.And when you read about other people loses,you feel for them deeply,but ,yes you can't possibly know how they feel,until you get in this situation yourself. Lyly,I'm a strong person and I'm not going to let myself or my husband to get depressed ,because we are happy and have a wonderful child and my husband loves him dearly,we just wanted to add more joy to our family and we still might do this. I need some time to recover physically(I feel weak and dizzy after all) and emotionaly and get the answers(if they 'll give us any).The day it happened,when I wasn't able to lift my head off the pillow,I didn't think I could do this again.We do not have much time,I'm 37 and my husband 50,we got to have some time left to raise a child.But the ironical thing is-now I want this more than ever.
Marina: sorry i havent been around. I just got to read of your loss. I have been in your shoes too and there is nothing to say or do to help i know that. However if you need to vent or just talk im here. You can e-mail me even. When i read of your loss i cried, Over the last few months you and everyone had become part of my life closer to me then friends i have had for years. I felt as if a long time friend needs me, and s a bad place that i know is dark. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.
Hi Beth, I know you've been busy with your girls,and it's so true that everybody here became part of your life and we all here live one day at a time and cheer for each other.When I looked at your and other girls tickers I was dreaming to be that far with you and was counting every single day on my ticker.And finaly when I was a little less stressed because I passed that 12week mark and start looking at baby stuff and plan in my head-it happened to me.No signs,nothing,was feeling good.I 'm in shock and like everybody else can't belive it happened to me at 16 weeks. My DH is very upset and crying too,worry about me like crazy,calls me every hour.He was so exited and happy. But i'm not going to let myself or him to get depressed,we still have 6 frozen beauties there,I just need to recover physically and get answers why it happened. You know how hard for me to go back to work and see all my clients?I hope it won't affect my job because people will think I'm too upset to do my jod good-the real thing is-they are sympathetic,but care about themselfs and how they look.I'm so glad that many of them didn't know I was pregnant,I didn't want people to know that I might be off work soon and look for another person to do their hair.The same with my husband because we work together and all his clients know me very well.
Marina: I read your post on the lovenox site. I was on lovenox for Angelina but only the first trimester. I do not have a clotting disorder it was a preventative they wanted me on it until after the baby was born but i didnt like how i felt on it so i stopped it knowing the risks. Thankfully nothing happened. I have lost one at 15 weeks but also at 13 weeks and 3 others earlier. They have never found a reason. they have done pleny of tests with no answers. The wait for answers sucks and it said but you want them to find a reason unfortunitly they have never found one for me. If there is anything i can do let me know.
So my dr. appointment yesterday was interesting, no O happening but my dr. feels positive about the first cycle. I had no eggs in the left, and some in the right. The right ones are not very big. My dr. is happy because at least there are some and I responded to the clomid at 50 mg (developed eggs). He is going to keep me at the same dosage and we will repeat this cycle again with provera to bring on bleed on the 11th of March. He said the eggs that are in the right ovary will still be there and should grow from the 2nd round of clomid and I should get a better response and O. It is so hard to have to wait cycle after cycle. My BF is so excited about the results, said they are very positive and we are on the right track. I also lost 4 pounds since my last visit, so that was nice. So I guess I won't be in the 2 week wait after all.... My breasts are getting really sore though, is this normal from the clomid?
I also had a bit of success with my 1st cycle of clomid at 50mg. Not enough though and my re just continued the dosage, he did not make me have af and then start again. Not sure why everyone has such different procedures. Anyway at least there was progress, I have had some cycles that the progress seemed like it would never happen. Did you ask RE about ovidrel to trigger O when the time comes?
I am so nervous, I have my beta tomorrow. I have taken about 6 hpts because I cannot believe BFP!! I hope beta is good because the last time this happened I was so excited and then m/c. The beta numbers never got higher and it was a long drawn out m/c. Four weeks after we knew there was notgoing to be a baby it finally happened.
Does anyone know when RE usually does 1st u/s. Since I had so many follies, just wondering how many fertiliZed.
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