I am doing all I can to keep my stress at a minimum for my ivf in July. I dealt with the daughter thing and feel better about it.
I worked at a job where we had to get our supervisor fired. It was an ugly thing and I would not want to have to do that again. My new boss asked me into her office and told me that she was thinking of hiring this women as the director of nurses for our department and asked how I felt about it. She knows that I was part of the group that fought to have her fired. I almost fell off my chair. I told her that I was doing an IVF in July and did not want to work under that kind of stress. If she felt that she had to hire her than I would have to leave for health reasons. I can find work as a nurse without a problem but I am just shocked that she would think of doing this.
I could not imagine coming into work everyday with my stomache in knots, not knowing what was going to happen. Especially with all the hormones on board.
WHy, why, why I wonder is this being thrown at me. I just want to be happy, work and get pg. Arrgghh!.
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
Fortyfour - What on Earth was she thinking? That just makes me sit here and shake my head. I hope that it all goes the way it should and you won't have to worry about the stress. I can imagine those knots....not a good thing during IVF. You know, I'm faced with a high level of stress all the time from my children's father. He now just skipped a week of child support and refuses to pay it - says I have to take him to court. Well he took me to court trying to reduce the weekly amount 3 months ago and lied on his financial afidavit. I refused to sign it and said I needed a lawyer to represent me. Well the next day he said he "made a mistake" on his income portion (yeah, ok!) and realizes the amount they suggested was too low. Well each week he threatens to take me back. Now I know he can't lower it but he knows it cost me $1,700 the last time we went to court (about 6 months ago-this is an ongoing battle with that jerk) and I can't be missing more work right now since I'm missing so much with the IVF appointments and now I've missed time since DH is in the hospital. I emailed him asking how he can be so cruel - even explained that stress must be avoided and told him about our IVF plans. Well, he not only wrote back that he will not pay it, he also wrote me a check to cover an expense I paid on his behalf up front and the check bounced! I'm constantly shaking from anger from him and he's NOT worth it. You are so right to leave if that woman gets hired. We need to protect ourselves. I am trying so hard to just let it go with that man but it kills me that he can just skip a payment and there's nothing I can do without paying far more than the skipped payment amount to a lawyer. Arghhh!! And now that DH is out of work, he's not making a dime. We're hoping he'll be back within a couple of weeks but the point is, people are idiots. We have to do what we can to try and avoid stress. It sure isn't easy!!! I truly hope this works out for you and you will have nothing to worry about. Like another post said, when it rains it pours. We just HAVE to have great news ahead! Karen
39 years old. Divorced at 26, 2 teenage daughters from that marriage. 3 devastating miscarriages. B/G twins born 1/23/06 after IVF at 29 weeks, 4 days.
Sandra - A permanent LOA would be great at this point.
Karen - I understand the exhubby child support nonsense, My ex ran off to Alaska and moved from job to job for 8 years before we caught him and made him pay. He was so mad. His interest alone was $10,000. I cannot talk to him about anything because he is so wacko and I end up shaking and homicidal. I do hope your husband is getting better every day and that your baby is right around the corner. As my grandma would say, " this too shall pass."
One day I would like to say this whole infertility trip was well worth it.
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
i guess i'm late reading this, but i did talk to you, 44, and you mentioned the situation. i wonder if you have decided what to do (job-wise) next. it would be great if you could take some time off until august before looking again... i am also under a lot of stress. i support 5 people in the legal department of a fairly large corporation. i'm about to shoot all of them. i do have a few people there are are supportive, but sometimes i just want to go postal. on top of all that, i got a bill for the pgd ($4000)... i realize many of you pay for the whole thing out of your pockets and i am sorry for complaining about this, but it kind of took me by surprise as i thought my insurance was covering everything... anyway.... it is well worth it. any suggestions on remaining calm after the transfer? doc is putting me on bedrest for a week after the transfer, so i imagine i'll be in a progesterone-induced sleep... but thought i should stock up on chamomile tea or something to keep me calm... much love to all of you.... trish
Age:35, DH-38, Married- 1 1/2 years. TTC entire time! 1st m/c Jan 2001 - unknown reason; 2nd m/c feb 2005 - chromosomal defects; got pg w/ clomid last time; waiting for new cycle and will do endometrial biopsy; fertility diagnosis- Low Morphology
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