I am glad that you are doing so well w/ the twins. I cut back my hours around 20 weeks to about 20-25 hours, b/c I started w/ Brackston Hicks contractions and decided it was better to err on the side of caution. I was not big at all while carrying twins. I pretty much looked like I was having a singleton. This time I am not big either. I just look like I put on weight. I don't think anyone would mistake me for being p/g. which is kind of a bummer consdidering I will be 17 wks. thursday. I am still waiting to "pop" as they say!!
As far as registering goes, I would definitely make sure you register for at least 2 gates and safety items. Having 2 running around w/o confinement will drive you crazy. Our two are quite busy, and I COULD not live w/o a gate. As far as exersaucers go, since they are expensive, I would see if the twins club has a fall sale and pick up two used ones in good condition. I received a new one and borrowed one. Developmentally, babies are only supposed to be in it for about 20 minutes a day, but truthfully I found them to be a god send when I needed to go to the bathroom or just had to get a few things completed. Another thing I could not live w/o were bouncy seats. When both got big enough I would prop up their bottles while they were in seats, or I would nurse one and prop the other one w/ a bottle in the bouncy seat. Probably something you are not supposed to do, but I am sure that most people do it all of the time!! You could also get those through the twin sale as well. I didn't register for 2 of everything. Some stuff I got one new and bought the other used and would alternate kids in the item to make it fair. (Pack and Play, swing, exersaucer) One other thing you might want to register for also are travel booster seats for eating. I began using these when the babies were about 9-10 months old. They run about 15 to 17 dollars. I keep them in my car and could not live w/o them.
I hope this helps. It can be so overwhelming knowing what to get and what not to get especially having two. Everyone has given terrific suggestions. I would just keep writing down what everyone says and add it to your registery. Since everyone was talking about themes, I did the kids room in Peter Rabbit. From my very first p/g I had always wanted Peter Rabbit and was so happy that I was finally able to do so
Take Care and I hope that you continue to do and feel so well. As always I am keeping all of the women here in my thoughts and prayers.
Meg, as always, you have terrrific advice. I really appreciate it. I went to the mall yesterday to add my email on my registry but I still couldn't get it online last night. I called customer service and all target stores are having this problem! She said 24-48 hours. OK.There wasn't a babyrus there. Just a vicious rumor! So I'll be waiting for that to come up so I can edit it and add those booster seats and the gates. I reistered for 2 bounceer seats. Those have come a long way my mom said. They have vibrators and music! I registered for 2 swings but I will change that to one. I forgot my girlfriend has one for me in case. I registered for 1 pack and play that has a bassinette? attachment. Should I ask for 1 more? When should i start registering for classes on childbirth and breastfeeding? Pardon all the questions meg! I can't wait for the next twins meeting so I won't have to bother you all the time! I am so glad you are doing well. At 17 weeks you are a month behind me. I am 21 weeks today! If the doctor says your weight gain is fine I wouldn't worry. Me, on the other hand and worried I will put on too much! When I found out I was pregnant I wanted to be huge. The reality is sinking in about losing weight after birth. Also during pregnancy I want to be healthy and fit as much as possible. I have a pysical job and standing all day will be a challenge. I haven't even felt them kick yet. That is something I am waiting for also. What do braxtonhicks feel like? I have had a pain but I looked it up and just my ligaments growing. I know I am rambling on. I just checked out books on twins at the library yesterday and started browsing. Funny stuff about grocery shopping. 2 carriages?! They said you'll get the hang of it. The idea of taking them anywhere by myself is terrorizing. Thanks again for letting ramble! Jenny how are you feeling? You are on the homestretch now girl! Is your baby face down now? ready to go? What is your due date again? Do you know the sex? Did someone throw you a shower? I hope so. I throw babyshowers for girls at work who already have children. Are you going naturally? epidural? After all the needles and drugs it took for me to get pregnant I have no qualms about taking epidural! I'm no hero! I hope heathermac, paige and elizabeth are doing well. Take care...cassandra
Cassandra - I am glad your boss is great. That sure helps. I did quit that one job and have been really happy about that. My new boss is great about pregnancy. She just had a baby at 41. She is keeping me closer to home and gives me long intravenous cases so I don't drive so much from home to home.
I feel young for my age so I forget that I am high risk.
My blood pressure has been really good so I hope that continues.
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
Hi fortyfour! Did you say your U/S was on the 10th? Let's see, that's Wed. Oh, I can't wait! How many blinkers? I can't wait! My heat rash is much much better! Yesterday I was leaving work at 4 (11-4) and my boss asked my coworker to work half a shift for me today. He said i have to deal with her situation immediately! Moi? After 3 1/2 hours of nonstop busyness at work I HAD to sit down for 5 min. I asked a friend there who kind of knows how to cook to cover for me. So, I am anxious to see what my schedule will be next week. Yes the long hours are starting to bother my back and feet. I just come home from work, prop my feet up on the couch and thats where I stay until bedtime. I am still waiting for babies to kick I just hold my belly all night talking to them. Dh has been great thankfully. Makes dinner and gets me whatever I need. I'll let you know exactly what the boss says. I wonder if his lovely wife has anything to do with his sudden urge to cut my hours? cassandra
Cassandra, I am soo excited to be near the end. It's a little more tiring second time. I guess running around after a 19 month old and being pregnant is a little taxing. I am going to have a repeat c-section and it's scheduled for October 3. I will be a little over 39 weeks. I wanted an October b-day b/c mine and a lot of my family members b-days are in Oct. I am all about the pain medication. I take something for a headache so naturally, I want something for LABOR ) We finished the baby's room this w/d which was our office. We did a lot of rearranging. We are having another boy are are very excited. Many of my friends asked me about another shower, but I said not necessary. With another boy, all I really want is DIAPERS, DIAPERS, DIAPERS )) I bought sooo many clothes with Mitch that I didn't even use them all:) I hope all goes well with you!! much love! Jen
Jenny, Hi! I,m still lingering around here putting off getting ready for work I'm so glad you are doing well. Oct. 3rd eh? Oh boy that's gonna be here before you know it! Have you decided on a name for him? I'm so excited myself to be having a boy! So, I assume you had a csection with your first? I wonder if I will have one. I hear 50% chance of one with twins. I think it's very cool to know the EXACT day you will deliver! I love the month of october here in new england. It's so beautiful. Take care...cassandra
Cassandra -- I cant imagine how tired you must be. I worked four hours yesterday and one house had no air conditioning. I left feeling like i had been wrung out like a wet rag and went home and slept for 2 hours. They say you get more energy in the second trimester. I hope so. Take care.
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
Fortyfour, in the beginning of this pregnancy I was extremely fatigued. It's all normal. Sleep when you can. My boss cut 10 hours off my next week schedule and I assume it is for good! No more 9,10,11 hour shifts! yay! I told him toadjust my salary and he said no. NO? I knew he was a good guy! Maybe he should be a godfather! Customers at work are commenting a lot now on my stomach. One guy said I was afraid to ask. Yeah, he must of been one from before. Remember me posting about the ones asking if I was pregnant when i wasn't? How upset I was then! I don't know if it was the hormones but I actually did the same thing to a girl I didn't even know. I almost started to cry. I tried to explain how sorry I was but the damage is done. I was miserable for days. That's my confession. Anyways, you know, I still can't belive I'm pregnant. The evidence is there but I am having trouble comprehending. I feel good. I look pregnant. I'm having 2 for goodness sake. It just seems surreal. I have bad dreams all the time. Babies taken from me. It seems so unreal. I haven't been depressed. I am very afraid of having postpartem depresion. I read and heard that Brooke Shields had it bad even after IVF. Just thoughts swirling around. Maybe it will seem more real if I can just FEEL them moving and kicking around! Waiting. That's what I'm doing. Yesterday at work a young mother was taking her son out of his highchair and he put his arms up to her and I thought, Yeah, that is what I want. It was so endearing to watch. Children of my own. Maybe because I've been childless for these 13 years of marriage it is hard to fathom. Am I normal? Has reality not struck me in the face yet? Am I unwittingly waiting for the other shoe to drop? I guess I'm feeling "emotional today". Thanks for letting be blather on...cassandra
33 yrs old married to dh 12 1/2 yrs. scarred fallopian tubes from laser surgery for cervical cancer cells 3rd ivf attempt in march, now pg. with b/g twins due 12/15/05
I still look at my 5 year old daughter and cant believe that she is a part of our lives. When I was pregnant with her I agonised every day, thinking I was going to lose her, never believing that I would have a child at the end of my pregnancy. Even after she was born and for a few years I never let myself believe that she would be with me forever. I guess we IVF'ers just get used to so much dissapointment. I did suffer with Post natal depression and was in a clinic for eight weeks when she was born. The good thing is that I got better and although it took me a while to want to go back to IVF, I am now 19 weeks pregnant with my second miracle. It is so different to my first pregnancy. I dont feel like it's going to be taken away from me, and feel very calm most of the time. I guess what I am trying to say is that I think what you are feeling is very normal and that you should continue to verbalise it. Your babies are very lucky to have you as their Mumma....
Married 10 years, 38yo, husband 36. Been on IVF for 10 years. Have had 9 IVF cycles with one pregnancy resulting in adorable daughter who is now 5yo. BFP April 05 - Due January 06 MF infertility. Live - Melbourne Australia
Cassandra - I am glad your are doing well and that you will be working less. I also worry about postpartum depression because of my age and the hormone problems I have already encountered with perimenopause. Does anyone know if breastfeeding helps or hinders the depression?
Take care all. Im off to my second nap of the day.
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
Fortyfour, I'm sure you will be taking lots of naps. For the first couple of months I was exausted all of the time. Thankfully it passes. I had a little nausea but if i ate something it went away. But now @ 5 1/2 mo. I really feel nauseas in the morning. I called the dr. because twice in this past weeek after eating my breakfast(same thing..raisin bran and english muffin) I have gotten sick to my stomach and violently vomitting the dr. says no more raisin bran. Babies just don't want it anymore! So far, that's been fine! Anyways, I hope you don't mind but I'm going to ramble for awhile...Yesterday at work I had to go home sick about a half hour before my shift was over. It was so stinkin' HOT and busy at the restaurant! The stress and heat made me sick to my stomach not too mention the feet are killing me now! I'm not used to feeling so vulnerable to everything! I was supergirl...working 11 hours without a complaint. Now after even my 7 hour shift on Thurs. ( I have another one today) I can barely get out of the car when I come home and my feet hurt soo bad I can't walk on them the rest of the night. Too add to my problems, my boss Michele asked me to talk to her brother(my real boss) to hire someone to fill in for me! I almost started arguing with her. She's telling me her new dh doesn't want her to work at all not too mention extra to cover for me! If it was a vacation she said no problem but this is permanent! Her daughter, who makes the schedule also complains to me she can't fill the hours for me! OK since when is it my problem??!! I told Michele yesterday (under duress) that I'm not going to be made to feel guilty about this! I almost started to cry but I just said I cannot talk about this now I'm going home sick! I was so stressed out! Apperently Michele and her daughter do not know how to communicate to Michael (my boss). He'll listen to you they said! Come on! So, as I get ready for work today I have to think of how to tell my boss that his sister and niece cannot help me out and he needs to hire someone. This is a family business but you wouldn't know it! I'm getting nervous at the thought of all this not to mention I need to cut my hours again in a couple weeks! Michele said when I come back she will be taking time off to fill any hours this person whoever it is that replaces me will have cut to accomodate me. Hidden agendas. Are you guys following me here? I know this is complicated but I am so angry to be put in this position. I am not a relative. I am not an owner. I am an employee. A soon to be disgruntled one. Yesterday at work the stress was so bad in the middle of lunch I had to go in the kitchen and cry. The cook back there says those raging hormones eh? I said no it is perfect chaos right now out there (with the sweat pouring off my face) We had a new computer system installed and there are problems. Not to mention a packed house with people lining out the door! My lead cook keeps disapearing to help the girls with overrides and the cashier can't find their orders on her screen. The orders are piling up and some people are walking out! I am not supergirl anymore. :'( Thanks for letting me vent. On the other hand when I come home my mom calls to say how much she loves me and thinks about me. She's planning my shower and is very excited about it. talks about all the silly games we are going to play and last night she told me my 2 aunts are flying in for it! From CO and SC. She cheered me up. I have to end this on a good note or I'll be an angry uptight witch all day. Thanks again for listening...cassandra
33 yrs old married to dh 12 1/2 yrs. scarred fallopian tubes from laser surgery for cervical cancer cells 3rd ivf attempt in march, now pg. with b/g twins due 12/15/05
Thanks Meg. I talked to my boss Mike yesterday and he was very nice. Told me not to worry about my shifts being covered. Everything will be fine. I won't allow Michele or her daughter to rattle me anymore. It was a hot one again yesterday with humidity made the 90's seem like the 100's! Work went well. Without the stress of working with his sister I was much more relaxed. What is pregnancy hypertension? Is it something determined or found when doing the no stress test? Congratulations on your "dream home"! I live in a 3 bedroom ranch in the rurals. There are some beautiful homes being built on my street and in the town. Coming from living in an apt. for the first 10 years of marriage this place is heaven! Neighbors are not too close and we have plenty of privacy. I can't wait to bring children of my own here! I especially love sunday mornings when people ride by on horses. I am going to have to look at my pg. magazines to see what kind of tests should be upcoming. They have been very helpful. I recently read I should be in classes by now and signed up immediately. I wonder why the docs didn't tell me? I guess I should be asking more questions instead of will my belly button go back in after delivering? Anyways thanks for letting me ramble again. Meg if you would, could you look at my registry and see if I should add anything? Target.com Hope Quinlan in Massachusetts? You don't have to I am wondering if I should delete/add. Thanks! cassandra (my middle name)
33 yrs old married to dh 12 1/2 yrs. scarred fallopian tubes from laser surgery for cervical cancer cells 3rd ivf attempt in march, now pg. with b/g twins due 12/15/05
Cassandra - women can be so fickle and unhelpful at times cant they. Take care of yourself first and forget those witches. When i was pg the first time my boss at the time would try to give me 12hour and more days. We only work 8 hours in homecare. I would have to call her almost everyday and say that I could not do that long of a day. When I m/c she called to say how much she "cared" about me. I was dumbfounded.
Its nice getting all this twin info from everyone. I do wonder how you grocery shop with twins though.
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
I don't mind at all looking at your registery. I will let you know as soon as I look. I am glad you are feeling better. It is hot here as well - I am in PA in the suburbs of Philadelphia - so I can relate to the sweltering heat and humidity. I can't wait until it cools off.
Fortyfour,
Grocery shopping is no problem Just make sure you get a big cart. When they were in carriers I would put one on top and one in the cart basket and pile the food around them and also bring bottles w/ of course. Now I just make sure that I get a cart that seats two up top and now I bring drinks and snacks. We have had our fair share of grocery store melt downs though.... I never let them hold me back from doing anything that I did before. I always tell people it isn't difficult having twins. And when baby blessing #3 comes we are still going to keep going out and doing what we have always done, just find creative ways to transport everyone together Sometimes it can be double trouble, but more times than not it is DOUBLE BLESSINGS. I still always thank God every single day for our little miracles
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So, as I get ready for work today I have to think of how to tell my boss that his sister and niece cannot help me out and he needs to hire someone. This is a family business but you wouldn't know it! I'm getting nervous at the thought of all this not to mention I need to cut my hours again in a couple weeks! Michele said when I come back she will be taking time off to fill any hours this person whoever it is that replaces me will have cut to accomodate me. Hidden agendas. Are you guys following me here? I know this is complicated but I am so angry to be put in this position. I am not a relative. I am not an owner. I am an employee. A soon to be disgruntled one. Yesterday at work the stress was so bad in the middle of lunch I had to go in the kitchen and cry. The cook back there says those raging hormones eh? I said no it is perfect chaos right now out there (with the sweat pouring off my face) We had a new computer system installed and there are problems. Not to mention a packed house with people lining out the door! My lead cook keeps disapearing to help the girls with overrides and the cashier can't find their orders on her screen. The orders are piling up and some people are walking out! I am not supergirl anymore. :'( Thanks for letting me vent.