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galaxaura
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So after 10 years of marriage my husband and i finally go get tested for our fertility issue. (yeah I know we're slow) but we never tried not to get pregnant during our marriage. We just thogh it would happen and 10 years flew by. I'm 32 now and he's 36. I am healthy and he was born with agenetic abnormality. No epididymis. He can't mature his sperm so he basically has none in his ejaculate. We are told our best bets are in this order:
Adoption
Sperm Donation
IVF
We're waiting to see if we can retrieve immature sperm from him to develop in lab conditions but we're not sure if that will be possible or not. I think we get results tomorrow.
Through a ll this I m so sad. The one thing I wanted in this world and thought I could have was a child eventually. I was ready all this time and to find out I can't have my husband's child is such a shock to us both. Since his first sperm analysis we haven't even made love. I love him so much I want to stop all this crazy testing and talk about kids. I want him to feel like a man. I want to have a family with him.
He doesn't want sperm donation. I don't either.
IVF is scary and expensive. So is adoption.
I never thought something like this would be true.
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desertnonnie
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Dear Galaxaura,
That is truly heartbreaking news. My DH is only 24 now, 21 when diagnosed with really low sperm counts. With us, it is a combined factor, but I know my husband had a period of time where he felt like 'less of a man' because of his sperm count. Worse, people who knew about it have made the dumbest comments imaginable! I highly recommend you keep the reason for you infertility to yourselves and your most trusted family and friends.
Our sex life suffered terribly, too. But I think you'll find that is normal for many couples newly diagnosed with infertility. Your marriage will change forever no matter what choice you make. If it survives, it will be stronger than other marriages you see! This journey is not for the faint of heart. I can understand your hesitation about donor sperm even though my husband is not opposed to it. We are now in our first cycle of IVF, waiting for a pregnancy test on May 7, 2008. It has NOT been scary. It HAS been emotionally taxing, though. You will find yourself more angry and worried than anything else. I will keep an eye on your posts.
By the way, please tell your hubby that I find my husband to be ten times the man others are! He has submitted to humiliating tests, painful surgery, and in-depth 'grading' of the contents of his body. He thinks about and plans what kind of father he will be when and if the time comes, and has stood by me and supported me through this crazy mess so tenderly I feel bad for every other married woman I know, whether or not they have children!
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Me-33, Systemic Lupus, left tubal ligation after unsuccessful surgery to unblock
DH-24, varicocele repair/2006, continued male factor
TTC for 4 years
6 IUI's (1 with injectables)
1st IVF/ICSI
ER-12 mature, 10 fertilized 4-22
ET-2 perfect 8 celled embies 4-25
0 embies suitable for preservatio
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