I am so sorry to hear about your BFN. I had hoped that your symptoms were positive signs. I know you will struggle with the decision between donor eggs and adoption. Before I got pg with my dd, we had the check written to an agency (having already researched all the agencies etc) and were just wanting until I got my BFN. I have a co-worker that her daughter and husband are adopting from Ethopia and are currently waiting on a Court date. I think adoption is a great thing and you know, at least with international adoption, you are going to get a child. Keep in touch, you are in my prayers.
Lisa,
I gotta tell you, yesterday I called a radio station and won some free food from Arby's!. I cannot wait to go pick it up and eat it.
Hi guys. Thanks again for your support. Feeling better today. I know things happen for a reason, and one day I feel like I'll have that reason.
I'll try to answer all your questions:
Julie - my insurance covers IVF, but not egg donor. So, we have to pay the upfront part - the fees for the donor, for her meds, for her retrieval, but my insurance covers my meds, my u/s and bloods and the transfer. So, net net, we end up paying about $15,000. As for not trying again, it's not really the money (thankfully, dh and I both have really good jobs - and I actually got a promotion yesterday - how ironic -- all I wanted was good news and while I got some, it wasn't the good news that really mattered). It's more about he emotional rollercoaster and what I'm putting my body through.
Marina - my friends that adopted so fast did it via private US adoption - I have heard that it usually takes so long (at least a year), but they literally had their 1st within 8 weeks and 2nd within 7 weeks. Pretty amazing and hopefully we will have the same luck.
So many people tell us to adopt and that we'll end up getting pregnant on their own, but like you said, the older you get, the harder it is. I can't even produce more than 2 follicles on the highest dosage of stims, so can't really imagine that getting pregnant the "old fashinoned" way would even be a possibility (although dh still seems to think so - I don't think he realized that I'm 38 (will be 39 next month) and that's old for these type of things. And, now he realizes why I wanted to start trying the second we got married and not wait (we waited 18 months b/c he thought that was best). Not saying it would have happened, but we may have had a better chance...
As for having all the tests, we have except for a histerscopy (spelling) so I plan to do that on the 30th. He said it's minor surgery - I have to go under, but that it's not a big deal and will rule out any other issues. He said it will probably come out ok, but we might as well do that. I think if it comes out ok, then there's no explanation, but if he finds pollyps, scar tissue or abnormal cells, he can take care of it and mabye solve the problem. So, we'll see what happens...
And, lastly, we did a egg donor fresh cycle back in April (when I first joined this group), but that didn't work. And, we had 5 frozen to which 2 were good and transfered. We would defintely do another fresh cycle next time - and hope for frozens too (future siblings). This donor had 41 eggs (which we shared), so we got 21, fertilized 16 - 12 made it to day 5, transfered 2 and 5 made it to be frozen. So, we think she's a good donor (not to mention that she met almost all of our qualificastions, appearance (I wanted to make sure she had my coloring b/c dh is dark and I'm light and I wanted to have a baby that looked a little like me), personality (same reasons), athletic, education (she actually has a law degree), and religion (she's 1/2 Jewish). So, we think it would be hard to find someone else who "fits the bill". I think we'll end up using her again - hopefully we can try in the next few months. I will, of couse, let you guys know.
Enough about me...
Marina -& Lyly - where are you in the cycle?
JenFrancis - are your legs/ankles any better? Are you still drinking alot of water. I want to make sure you are taking care of yourself.
Julie - I can't believe you only have 35 days to go - so soon.
Lisa - I don't think I saw a post about what you ate yesterday - was it a slow day for you?
Reshma, Debbie, Ronda - hope you guys are doing well.
Sorry for the long post - but I wanted to make sure I answered everyone.
So happy it's Friday. I think we're going to go out tonight to celebrate my promotion (although bitter sweet b/c I would rather be celebrating my pregnancy). And, heading to the beach for the rest of the weekend.
You have a great attitude and no matter what you decide, each of us is here for you. I hope no matter what you always keep in touch with us.
yup 35 more days to go - i elt like this day was never going to come between puking for 27 weeks, having a bleeding cervix for 6 weeeks, hemmorhoids, post nasl drip, and everything else that has come my way. I will be so releived when Kaitlyn is in my arms and out of me. I still constantly fear something will happen from now until then as his has been one of the toughest journey's of my life - no correction this was the toughest 3 yr journey of my life.
Hey beth- I am so sorry you got bad news, but congrats on your promotion. I know that whatever you decide (try again or adoption) you are going to give a baby a great home! I think going for the scope may be a good idea. My RE mentioned trying that if my next cycle wasn't successful. As for me I have a few more bcps left and then I start my stims on the 25th of this month so its coming up. They have my estimated retrieval for the 6th of aug and the transfer for the 9th but we will see how my stims go. I am a bit nervous about this protocol since I am not doing lupron but that didn't work last time either, so we will see. Keep me posted on how things are with you and what you and dh decide to do. Talk to you soon.
Hubby had the day off and worked on our back yard(ie:laying out concrete, prepping for a nice brick patio). He worked really hard. I did the grocery shopping and bought a few more flowers to plant and tended to my garden in between resting and doing some artwork. We just got back from Bertucci's. I had the chicken(asked them to bread it), broccoli and rigatoni in a lemon creme garlic sauce~YUM. I saved a little to eat for lunch tomorrow. So listen to this. I am wrapping up rolls that were still on the table in a napkin to take home (like an old person does) ...and one of the waiters caught me and smiled and laughed when I said, "cut me some slack, I love them and I am pregnant" haha. SO my waitress comes back and gives me a bag of rolls to take home. how embarrassing haha. I am soooo full.
Reshma~ Hope to catch you on line later tonight. Miss you!
Ronda~ Arby’s? Excellent. We don’t have any around here anymore unfortunately. I used to love their roast beef sandwiches as they put a nice cheese on them that really melts and the fries are so good too. Think of me when you are eating it.
Beth... thinking of you honey. yesterday...hmmmm, you must have missed my post about the food I got at Angela’s Pasta shop. lol. I went to a Pampered Chef party last night and of course ate everything I could. She made some pepperoni and mozzarela stromboli bread, some chicken pita wedges and a pineapple sponge cake with coconut. I washed it all down with a lot of pink lemonade. Enjoy the BEACH!!!
Jenny~ can you believe I forgot about the cookies and realized tonight they are sitting in the microwave where we hide all of our baked goods and bread so Vinci doesn’t tear into them haha. I will eat them tomorrow for sure. they are soooo yummy.
Lyly, I really hope you have good luck this cycle. I will be sending you lots of baby dust on the 9th while I am at my shower. I still think that’s a sign of good luck.
Marina...HAVE A BLAST AT YOUR PARTY. MAKE SURE YOU TAKE PICTURES AND POST THEM WHEN YOU CAN!!!
Debbie, hope you are having a good weekend girl. Have you bought anything else for the baby?
Jules...you are getting sooo close. So excited for you!
Girls... ever heard of belly casting? I saw one at my friend's house last night and she offered to do one for me. I think I am going to have her cast just the belly and then I am going to paint something on it. She offered to paint it too but I think I want to do it. I am attaching a link for you to see some cool ones. You can click on each category: www.proudbody.com/bellycastgallery.htm
Jules, even at this hour of the morning. That sounds soooo delicious. I couldn't sleep at all last night. I was up until 1:45 and then we had a huge thunder/heatlightning storm. Needless to say I was up for another hour and woke at 7:30 when hubby left for work. May as well lounge on the couch. Babies were moving a lot last night. Must've been the Bertucci's.
I hear you with the babies moving a lot - When I fall asleep, Kaitlyn rolls in a ball and I try to get up and can't stand up straight because of the psoition she is in - I usually take several minutes readjusting her.. sorry you couldn't sleep. I only get about 4 hours a night. My body doesn't do much more.
Lisa- I have hear of the belly casting. I think they are beautiful. Even the full ones with belly and breasts look fabulous, but I love the ones done with the arm across the breast. I think they are so tasteful. I checked out your link, the belly bowls were so cute. If you do one are you going to wait until you get bigger?
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