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ZoeCalifornia
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Re:Forty-four or others in a similar situation, are you out there?
« Reply #30 on: 05/12/07, 13:47 » |
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Barbee -- that SUCKS about you donor! How old was she? How could they continue to go on with her if she wasn't stimulating well, etc? I go to the San Diego Fertility Clinic -- they have a success rate of 85%. They thoroughly screen their donors to the point of the ridiculous, which is wonderful. They have a success guarantee program (you must qualify by passing a bulleted list of about 15 items requirements, however). Anyway, I just heard yesterday that my donor passed all her physical exams (she ends up going through hours and hours of physical exams... about 6 visits in all!) and they are waiting for the results of her blood work, some results of which take 3 weeks. They screen for any known disease in the universe. They tell me that a donor can pass all their initial exams, psych tests, screenings, family history tests... and just one small negative and minor result can and has disqualified potential donors. They are very selective, thank goodness.
Well, I've read enough posts to hear that even a "medium" grade egg has made it to a perfect baby, so keep your faith up! If all goes south, however, there seems like the clinic should share some responsibility, or give you a future discount. I would fight it. Lord knows my husband would!
Anyway, I didn't want to make it sound like "money grows on trees," but I wanted to put the HUGE slash into our wallets in more of a positive light. I suppose we're looking at it like "it's all worth it." That being said, if this decision is going to put you in financial ruin, of course a lot of bad can come out of it. We're all assuming everyone has done a lot of weighing out expenses and risks before getting this far in such a life-changing decision. The best thing about money and people with steady incomes is that there are lots of places (even all the clinics so far that I've contacted) that will let you take out a loan so that the lump sum pain goes away and it's just a minor pain monthly.... albeit potentially for a very long time.
Teri-Chan... great to hear you're so big! You sound happy (tho uncomfortable). I know we're all looking forward to the day we can't see our feet and that none of our clothes fit! 
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« Reply #31 on: 05/12/07, 16:44 » |
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Hi Zoe-thanks for replying! I can't believe it-I was just at the San Diego Fertility Clinic yesterday at the Acupunture Spa right around the corner in suite 160, seeing Jeanne-they are wonderful and I know it is extra money but it is totally worth it. I haven't had my pregnancy test yet-still holding out a little hope. The thing was, the donor supposedly was stimulating well-I was told she had a ton of follicles. I don't know what happened. She was a first time donor though, only 25. I am going to have a follow-up with them if this doesn't work out. And if not, I am going to check into your clinic-I actually got their brochure yesterday. Earlier on I had seen them on-line. My clinic is Reproductive partners in La Jolla and both Dr.s are well known-one even got written up in People mag. But I wish I had researched harder. I went there because a friend had successful IVF there. Best of luck on your cycle and keep me posted on how it goes. I am excited for you-we will manage it we decide to do it again, Barbee
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« Reply #32 on: 05/23/07, 17:42 » |
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Hi Ladies!
Thanks Teri and Zoe for your support!
We have had a consult with North Hudson IVF (Dr. Smith's center). Call us nuts!(with airline fees I am guessing about $ 25,000) but I feel like we can trust them!!. The other centers near us are so big you cann't talk to them about their DE proticals. Dr. Miller and Dr. Smith I allready trusted (reading there posts for the last 2 1/2 years) and they talked to us! They talked about what they wanted to do and why. It was so refreshing! At my old center, NCCRM, I felt like I was irritating them everytime I asked a question. The search for a donar begins again! One last try!
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I'm 44, DH 50. Married 2000. DD born 2002. TTC # 2 for 5 years with clomid, ovarian stimulation x3 (3 chemical P), 4 failed IVF. 1 failed DE cycle, failled DE FET, transfered 2nd fresh DE cycle on 11/23/07
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« Reply #33 on: 05/23/07, 20:18 » |
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Good luck to you in your cycle, then. YOu should be in great hands! Any news as to why Dr. Smith stopped the forum? I learned so much from him... he was the best. If all goes well we might be cycling together... my clinic is getting the final blood tests this week from my donor and her boyfriend (they even test the boyfriend!). We should be cycling together soon, I'm thinking transfer end of June. Yikes! Do you get to pick your donor with Dr. Smith? I'm 43 as well, by the way, and my husband is 40 (I robbed the cradle!).
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« Reply #34 on: 05/25/07, 16:28 » |
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Good luck with your donor cycles Zoe and Laura. I just found out that miraculously I am pregnant with twins. It is too early to jump for joy but considering my cycle didn't go was well as planned right now I am thrilled. I still am cautiously optimistic. Keep me posted on your cycles. Barbee
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« Reply #35 on: 05/26/07, 22:41 » |
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OH my gosh!!! BOTH of your transferred eggs took!! Amazing! Keeping fingers and toes crossed for you, Barbee! Take it easy as much as you can!
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« Reply #36 on: 05/27/07, 00:38 » |
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Thanks Zoe. I am being as lazy as possible. This is the only time in life that I wish I could speed up time instead of the opposite. They only did an ultrasound this week and the sizes looked good. I don't have levels again until next week. I have cramps off and on but they are mild so I am trying not to worry. Let me know when you have a donor match and start your cycle. Take care, Barbee
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« Reply #37 on: 05/30/07, 13:12 » |
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Barbee- congrats on the twins. I am 46 years old and ready to deliver a little boy through donor egg. Keep on growing little ones.
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« Reply #38 on: 05/30/07, 23:09 » |
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Thanks for the congrats but I started spotting some today so I am very nervous. I go for an ultrasound tomorrow-I'll be crushed if if doesn't work out. Congrats on your little boy. Hold him dear always!
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« Reply #39 on: 05/31/07, 09:02 » |
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Barbee,
I wish you the best on your ultrasound. Congrats on the twins! I'm sure everything will be fine. It just HAS to be. I will say prayers for you and your little ones.
Laura
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« Reply #40 on: 06/05/07, 19:35 » |
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Thanks everyone for all the prayers and well wishes. At 7 weeks I have two heartbeats and things are progressing. I still have occassional spotting and cramps, which is nerve racking. Fortyfourfive, let us know when you deliver your sweet boy. Laura, Zoe and Wantsababy too, keep me posted on your cycles. The emotions are up and down through it all. Hope you have successful cycles. I just wish I could speed up time through this first trimester. Barbee
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« Reply #41 on: 06/08/07, 18:47 » |
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Barbee, your good luck/fortune/ and God's blessings are such a "sight for sore eyes" on this forum. KEEP posting to us, even if we don't ask. I know I check back often and love hearing such good news as yours.
As far as my donor cycle is going, things are looking up... I'm about to get on medication to cycle with our donor. Looks like retrieval will be JUly 3 and transfer (you know the drill) 3-6 days later. On my knees!! I'm currently accepting prayers of all types, and I'm keeping everyone in mine!
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« Reply #42 on: 06/19/07, 14:45 » |
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baby dust to everyone!
Barbee- wonderfull news!!
Fourtyfourfive- I hope you have an easy dilivery!
Zoe- good luck on your cycle! We are still looking for a donar.
Tereasa- I hope thigs are going great! (I can not seem to find your e-male address, please send me word)
Dr. Smith & Dr. Miller were so refreshing! They are currently surching for a donar that will produce 16 good eggs (My husbans sperm isn't the best). They also did immulogic testing and I had some positives. They will be treating me right before transfer ( IV immunoglobulens) and then dex after. I feel confident in them.
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I'm 44, DH 50. Married 2000. DD born 2002. TTC # 2 for 5 years with clomid, ovarian stimulation x3 (3 chemical P), 4 failed IVF. 1 failed DE cycle, failled DE FET, transfered 2nd fresh DE cycle on 11/23/07
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« Reply #43 on: 06/22/07, 18:41 » |
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Laura - I will pray that they find a donor for you soon. Baby dust
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« Reply #44 on: 06/24/07, 19:14 » |
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Laura,
Good luck with your donor search! I am currently waiting for my donor too. I will cross my fingers for both of us!
What positives did you have for your tests? After years of infertility treatments, my new doctor diagnosed me recently with MTHFR. Heartbreaking. Why my other doc never tested me I'll never know. I guess it's just another piece to the puzzle. It's difficult not to be angry at these doctors!
Keep us posted on your journey.
Laura (Wantsbabytoo)
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