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Fortyfour
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Re:Forty-four or others in a similar situation, are you out there?
« Reply #15 on: 08/05/06, 21:30 » |
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I know its more expensive for California but in LA they have alot of donor agencies. I never had to wait on anything but my period when using a donor. Baby dust to all.
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Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
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Cost of infertality is making me depressed!!!
« Reply #16 on: 02/04/07, 20:44 » |
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I'm 44 and I'm totally lost....I have been looking and researching even tried to work with a Infertality Center, NCCRM in Cary NC but I have been getting prices and infertility cost that normal average working class people can't afford....I was told that my eggs are out of the question cause of my age and after infertility testing my doctor found that a large infective filopian tube cyst which was surgercial taken out however, it left me with a non-functional tube so my ovary on the ride side is not accessible. So I am working with one good side. As for the rest of my "equipment" everything else is fine. I have a 23 year old son but my current husband and I are desperate for a child and we want our own....I don't have a problem with another woman's eggs but I want my husband sperm to be part of it....
I have questions....where can I go for finding good but reasonable clinics. What happens to all those eggs that people get from the donor that the recipient does not use? Can those be present for sale? Where can I find out about shared donar programs? Has anyone gone to these clinics in other countries?
I am now so discourage... have now gotten to the point that I do not want to go out at all to the malls, shopping anywhere for the fear of seeing women with their babies and small children....it doesn't seem fair....I gave birth to a 10.3 1/2 beautiful baby boy and now I can't ......I just pray for one child that' all I want....please someone help with my questions and search....
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Re: cost of infertility is making me depressed!!!
« Reply #17 on: 02/05/07, 13:37 » |
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There's a woman who posts here from time to time as "laura" who has undergone a donor cycle at NCCRM. From what I remember, their prices were very reasonable as these things go--on the order of $10K for a single recipient cycle. The clinic I used charged $20K for a single recipient cycle and $12K for a double recipient cycle. Donors at my clinic receive $3K of the fee. Everything else is for meds, lab, and professional services.
At this point in technological development, there's really no such thing as EGGS that people get from a donor that the recipeint does not use. That's because insemination is attempted on all the eggs that are retrieved. Sometimes there are "leftover" EMBRYOS that people donate free of charge to others, but that doesn't really help in your situation, since you want your husband to be involved genetically.
I don't know anything about clinics in other countries, except that I've heard that the costs are significantly lower in some cases.
I'm sorry for your despair. This is a good forum for finding others who have first hand experience with it. I also found age-related infertility financially draining. I spent a total of about $35K to get to this point (which is between 16 and 17 weeks pregnant with a fetus that is the product of donor egg and donor sperm). That's about half our gross income for a year. My insurance covered nothing.
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« Reply #18 on: 02/08/07, 13:39 » |
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Laura, I am curious.... it's been several months.... how has your donor cycle gone? Well, I hope? (We're going to go this option if my bw next Wed. shows low HcG levels, which I know will mean misscarriage again.)
Love to hear your success story with DE!
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« Reply #19 on: 02/14/07, 13:33 » |
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HI ZoeCalifornia - I am in California also - North of LA about 40 miles. My last pg started with a 9.9 HCG and I am now 6 months pg. As long as it doubles you just never know. I will be praying for you today. Darcie
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« Reply #20 on: 02/14/07, 13:43 » |
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Oh my gosh!! That's terrific that that happened! 9.9 I would have said, "Pfft. No way." I mean, mine was 41 and the nurses already did the "touch on the arm" thing where they were already sorry. Hm. Well, I'm 43, I don't know how old you are, but we really, REALLY are playing the lottery with my eggs. Oh, well. Blood work done, now just sitting and waiting for that 3:00 pm call. My heart is set on donor eggs, and I have found at least 3-4 donors whom I'd just love to get, so I'm (telling myself) I'm fine with whatever the results are. 
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« Reply #21 on: 02/22/07, 12:16 » |
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Hey, 445. Well, I had gotten my first HcG of 129, which doctors said was great, and one week later (which was yesterday) turns out it never grew. So, chemical pregnancy again and now, onto donor eggs! I posted the below under another topic, but I would love to hear from anyone following this thread, as well, so I'll paste here. THanks for all your well-wishes!
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Good news is, I'm on to donor eggs and THROUGH with worrying about every little freakin' step of the way with my own eggs! Man, that's annoying! If we make it through one hurdle, there are 20 more down the road. It's the same result if you can't make it through the first hurdle as it is if you can't make hurdle 34, so it just feels like a big waste of time, worry, patience, and money. Ugh. HUGE relief. It's a strange feeling! I want to be like the two mothers across the street from me: they both decided to have a second child each roughly around the same time last spring (we were all at a barbeque) and then in about 2 weeks, each of them had taken a home preg. test and each were positive. They both said, "It took only one try, go figure," like it was no big deal. They are both in mid-30s. If they only knew HOW BIG A DEAL that is!! And... to announce you're pregnant at the first sight of a pink line!!! CAn you imagine the comfort? The confidence? We weren't even going to announce anything until we were like 6 months pregnant due to the possibility of Down's Syndrome! Ugh!
Okay, I'm off my rant and feeling so energetic now, and love looking over donors.
So, I'm ready to "take on" any and all advice about the donor egg process. Any tidbits you've learned that you wish you knew when you started? I'm a research freak and am on the Internet like 24-7, so I'm already doing and have done lots of homework.
Only down side is DH is sad that the baby won't be a "Zoe Baby" he says. He really wanted my genes. He said if there was any way for us to use my eggs and donated sperm, he'd totally go for that route instead. Awww!
Smiles and hugs to all who went through no luck with their own eggs! I'm ready to move onward and upward to better things!
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« Reply #22 on: 03/30/07, 20:16 » |
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Zoe - I am 46 as of this week. I had to use donor eggs at the age of due to no eggs produced by my ovaries. It is a relief to use donor and not have to worry about how are eggs are doing, will there be enough, will they be viable etc. Its sad the babies wont have our genes but when you carry them for 9 months they are definitly yours. Baby dust to you
Sorry about the chemical pg= I had 2 of them.
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« Reply #23 on: 04/30/07, 18:56 » |
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Hi Everyone,
445 are you close to delivery?
Teresa are you 30 weeks yet?
I am so exited for you both!!
Zoe I hope things go well for your donar cycle!
Well my donar FET was BFN. I have lost fath in my doctors at NCCRM. I feel like they don't like me asking questions; they would like me to do as I am told, pay the $$. I am toying with the idea of saving up and trying one more time at a center that I trust. Any thoughts ?
Laura
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I'm 44, DH 50. Married 2000. DD born 2002. TTC # 2 for 5 years with clomid, ovarian stimulation x3 (3 chemical P), 4 failed IVF. 1 failed DE cycle, failled DE FET, transfered 2nd fresh DE cycle on 11/23/07
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« Reply #24 on: 05/01/07, 17:23 » |
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Hi Laura,
I am soooo sorry about the BFN. So sad. After all us infertiles have been through.... it's so not fair.
What part of the country are you? We are traveling from Chicago to Denver to do our DE cycle. CCRM has the best rep in the country. 40% of their patients are from out of state. We went for our workup in January and are on the list for an anonymous donor. They have a really efficient program and it was a really good experience for us.
They have a wonderful program and my donor nurse that is assigned to me is AMAZING! I got connected with the center because I met 2 women that had done a couple of rounds of DE in the Chicago area without a pregnancy. They went to CCRM and both women had twins on the first try!
I have a lot of hope that this is going to work for me. My doctor in Chicago was not as good as I thought he was.... I put a lot of trust in him and found out I should not have trusted him so much. My new doctor is finding things that the other doc never thought to test for. The Chicago doc even removed part of one of my ovaries during my fibroid removal surgery and never told me. How do you like that? 
Well.... check it out for yourself... not to be pushy 
www.colocrm.com
Laura
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« Reply #25 on: 05/02/07, 15:10 » |
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That sucks, Laura! As far as what to do? My hubby and I really "can't afford" to do this $30K donor cycle, but we asked ourselves, if we quit now, will we be happy with ourselves? If we smashed one of our cars, we'd have to fork out about that much... so we consider this an emergency and just "make it work." (Besides, doesn't money grow on trees?!) Anyway, the money part sucks, but we believe it's worth every penny.
I can't wait to hear from 445... probably she's too busy for a forum now!
As for me, I had to wait about 2 months for AF to come! Ack! I must have had an ectopic because they could never find the sac but yet HcG kept rising! It was almost the day to take methodrexate (nasty drug) to induce misscarriage and then *boom* AF came the next day. Whew! When you take Methodextrate, you have to wait 3 more months to wait till it gets out of your system. (They give it to cancer patients: it stops any cells that are doubling from doubling.) Ugh!! No more waiting!! So, now we've been matched with our donor and we're lining up our cycles and we should be ready to go in about a month (meaning, transfer). Looking for a donor is fun! Good luck to you all!!
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« Reply #26 on: 05/02/07, 21:56 » |
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ZoeCalifornia,
You have been matched with your donor... that's great! Good luck with your cycle.
Laura
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« Reply #27 on: 05/04/07, 22:27 » |
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Hi guys - no baby yet - I am 35 weeks now. If I dont go by the last week of May they will induce me. I feel huge and baby is definetily out of room.
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« Reply #28 on: 05/09/07, 11:37 » |
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Hi all! I was just checking in to see what progress you've all made.
It's so great to hear that Fortyfourfive is at 35 weeks now! Why will they induce you at 38 weeks, if you haven't already delivered by then?
I'm just past 29 weeks. I feel as big as a house (and am about 23 pounds heavier than I used to be), so it's hard to believe that I've still got at least a couple of months to go, if everything goes well.
It's good to hear that ZoeCalifornia has found a donor and is only a month away from transfer. I seem to remember that your clinic offers some kind of guarantee that this will work. Is that right?
wantsbabytoo, do let us know how things go at CCRM. They have terrific stats, though an awful lot of twins.
Laura, I think there's a lot of truth in what ZoeCalifornia says about the way you'd find the money if you needed a new car. Still, it's not a decision to be made lightly. I bet you feel even more thankful after all that you've been through that you have one little girl already. Do keep us posted about your thoughts.
Teri
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« Reply #29 on: 05/09/07, 12:09 » |
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Hi-I am new here. I am 42 3/4 and just had a donor cycle. My donor eggs were not that great-hard to believe. You put so much faith that this is going to work. They transferred an early blast and a 2BB (4 being the best) and none to freeze. I have a week until my preg test. I was was wondering what clinic Zoe goes to that gives some kind of guarentee-I am in San Diego. I don't know what I'll do if I have to go through-financially or emotionally. It helps to read this and know there are others out there that have similar situations. Good luck on all the deliveries coming up soon. How exciting. Good luck Zoe on your cycle!
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