Fortyfour, how are doing? I'm glad you found your donor. What's the next step? Is she from AZ?Please keep us posted. I hope she is the ONE! Good luck.......cassandra
33 yrs old married to dh 12 1/2 yrs. scarred fallopian tubes from laser surgery for cervical cancer cells 3rd ivf attempt in march, now pg. with b/g twins due 12/15/05
Hi Cassandra. THe next step is to find out what her schedule is and if it matches with my needs. She is actually in California and lives in a town about 20 miles from me. Unreal. I put a deposit down to "secure her" and then the blood work and meetings with docs and such begins. We all have to fill out legal agreements and then we are all good to go. I am getting excited again so that is nice. Take care and keep in touch.
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
35 yrs old, dh is 38,married for 5 years on May 20th. have been ttc for 3 years, 3 miscarriages diagnosed with homo MTHFR and factor II mutation, trying on our own, did have one IUI but failed. BFP 7-21 05
Now you can breathe one sigh of relief. One decision down. That must have been a huge decision for you. Good luck with all the legal stuff, that can't be fun either. Do you get to meet her?
38 yrs. DH is 31 yrs. Married November 2002. No children. TTC since the honeymoon. Infertility treatments 2 yrs. 7 failed IUIs. 3 cancelled IVFs due to poor response to meds. Poor ovarian reserve. DH has male factors. Chicago, IL Presently looking into adoption!
YEA!! Fortyfour I'm so thrilled for you!! I pray this one will be the one!! I know this has been a huge worry for you, so this is one stress off your mind. I hope get to meet her and I hope she is wonderful and I hope she is on your schedule and I hope you have great success with her!! I'm praying for you and rooting for you!!
Again, congratulations on finding your new donor!!
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
DH and I are 36. Married 10 yrs. p/g 4/01 m/c @ 9 wks. DH dx w/ severe mf - told best chance of conception was IVF. 1st IVF 5/02, m/c @ 7 wks. FET 5/03 conceived triplets and lost triplet at 11 wks. gestation. Had B/G twins @ 32wks. ++ p/g 5/5/05 conceived nat. much to our surprise
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
44 - I've been off the boards for a while, and I am so happy to hear that you found your donor. It does seem like all the planets are lining up perfectly with her being so close and all. That is a huge and exciting step. Keep us posted on your progress. You are the greatest.
Fortyfour, I agree with Meg, I think this is the one for you too. A nice young donor with nice young eggs! It will increase your chances that things will go more smoothly with hopefully, less worries. I wish you tons of baby dust as you begin this next chapter on your journey! Good things are in store for you Fortyfour! God bless your determination!
38 yrs. DH is 31 yrs. Married November 2002. No children. TTC since the honeymoon. Infertility treatments 2 yrs. 7 failed IUIs. 3 cancelled IVFs due to poor response to meds. Poor ovarian reserve. DH has male factors. Chicago, IL Presently looking into adoption!
Thanks ladies. I filled out the paperwork this weekend and hubby and I had to do a bio for the donor to see. She needs to "accept" us also. I hope she doesnt think I am too old. We find out by next week what her decision is. I had a rough week with depression and anxiety and then got a surpise period 4 days before my packet of bc was to be done. I think my ivf in March really screwed up my hormones. I do not want to feel that depressed again.
Take care all and thank you for all your well wishes.
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
44 - I am sorry to hear about your depresion and anxiety. This process is like a giant trigger for those symptoms. I used to suffer from panic attacks, and they made their presence known again yesterday. It is so not far. It is hard enough to wait, and then to feel like you can't get yourself out of the funk.....or bed.
I hope your hormones calm down soon.
If your bio reselmbles what characters you display on this board, the donor will have no problem accepting you. You have so much love to give everyone, especially a baby.
Good Luck with your wait. May baby dust be with you!
38 yrs. DH is 31 yrs. Married November 2002. No children. TTC since the honeymoon. Infertility treatments 2 yrs. 7 failed IUIs. 3 cancelled IVFs due to poor response to meds. Poor ovarian reserve. DH has male factors. Chicago, IL Presently looking into adoption!
Elizabeths. I was curious about your panic attacks. I had them in my late twenties and then again in my early 30's and then not again until now. I never have had one during the day but only at night between midnite and 2 am. I hate them because i do not feel anxiious or worried during the day and then pow I wake up in a tizzy. Did you take meds for yours. I have xanax but half only 1/2 a pill left and hate to have to rely on them to get calm. Does your heart pound and do you get sweaty and feel real scared. I could not tell you exactly why I feel afraid except that everything at that time feels ominous? I am starting to dread going to sleep since I dont know when it will happen. They have been off and on since the end of march. Oh well. Another challenge in life. Take care all.
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
44 - I started having my first panic attacks in my 20s. (this is when they start if you are going to have them) My first one was around the time that I was being transferred from Chicago to Seattle and was leaving my boyfriend (now my dh) behind. I have had all sorts of symptoms similiar to what you are experiencing...never at night. I have tried cognitive therapy, paxil, but got the most relief from xanax....which I don't like taking either. (very harmful if taken while pregnant as well)
It has been explained to me that these attacks occur when you are experiencing major life changes. I guess I am bit of a control freak, and things like IVF are somewhat out of our control...which brings on the panic. It is the worst and you will do anything to avoid having another attack....even not sleep. At one time in my life, I found it difficult to drive three blocks to the grocery store. This was during another transition in my life, and very scary because my career is in outside sales.
I haven't been on meds for a few years. I hope that once we get results, good or bad, then I will adjust back to my regular self. Our bodies are just trying to get us to admit that what we are going through ( infertility) is a big deal and a big stressor. As if we didn't know that already.....
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We find out by next week what her decision is. I had a rough week with depression and anxiety and then got a surpise period 4 days before my packet of bc was to be done. I think my ivf in March really screwed up my hormones. I do not want to feel that depressed again.