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Baby4Us,
You're already a GREAT mother!! You've already taken steps to care for a precious baby that isn't even here yet.
It IS scary...there is a lot of unknown to worry about. Will it hurt? Will I make it?? Am I ready?? Well, not to be crass, but you're ready. You were ready the day you got your BFP. Trust me - the second your eyes meet, you will never know the pain and agony you would willingly suffer for that tiny little baby.
So, right now, it is all unknown and and it is all terribly scary. But you'll be fine. Trust me, you'll be fine. LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE AFRAID when you get to the hospital. LET THEM KNOW. The nurse I had held my hand most of the morning during preparations for the c/s. Without her, I'd have been a COMPLETE mess. She was there when DH could not be, and it made ALL the difference in the world. Also - TELL YOUR ANESTHESIOLOGIST!! They have things that won't make you groggy but make sure you don't throw up. They are really great, but you have to communicate with them. If you don't, they won't notice that you're scared or about to puke...so tell them. They are there to help you, and they can also make or break your delivery.
BRIBE YOUR STAFF!! When we arrived for our c/s I had one pie, three coffee cakes, two dozen donuts...and I put it all on the counter and at Labor and Delivery and then introduced myself...then I handed that crap out like CANDY!! Trust me - I got treated like a QUEEN!! I also had coffee cakes for each nurse on each shift for the first day in hospital. I never once waited for drugs. So, before they help you, SHOW THEM YOU APPRECIATE THEM!!
Once baby is here - take the help you're given...ask for help when you need it. It's hard, yes, but if you don't, you'll end up in an uneasy place.
As you've read from Cassandra and me...our posts on Being a Mother...it is a whole new world. Sometimes it's very hard because the image we have in our head and the reality is vastly different. I think I read somewhere that every mother dreams of a wonderful, happy baby...but the baby we all dream of is a 3 month old. The beginning is very hard, it's an adjustment for you, for baby, for DH...and it's difficult because one of you can't communicate what they want. There will be nights where you cry just as much as baby cries, and you're just as frustrated as baby. There will be long nights, there will be nights that are far scarier than the anxieties you're feeling now because you have no idea what to do...but you'll survive. You'll make it. You'll be great. Because you made a commitment long ago to that baby - and to yourself - to do everything necessary to make life good for both of you. So, while it may get very, very hard, you'll make it and you'll amaze yourself. Just remember to ask for help when you can - it's hard because you're knee deep in poop with a screaming baby who's cried all night and you have no idea what to do...it's hard to pick up the phone and ask for help. But, please, when you have a second, call someone and ask for help...so you can take a nap, take a shower, take a walk...just get a second to pull yourself together and refresh yourself.
The thing is - the second your eyes meet that precious baby you've dreamed about...and your first thought is: "How do I thank God for a blessing such as this?"...your anxiety will change, there will be new things to worry about, but none of it matters. Feed that baby, hold that baby, love that baby, look at that baby, wonder at that baby...and don't worry. Like I said, you're already a great mother.
So, rub your belly, nap often and relish the last bit of pregnancy...it goes by so quickly. Soon, you'll have a sweet little baby to rub, nap with and relish.
HeatherMac
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