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Yessss!!! yahoo!!! congratulations to you Sue, a boy and a girl, wow!!! it's so wonderful!

Like you, my doc told me to drink lots of fluid. I feel that my big tummy is filled with half water heheh..

It's truly a Happy New Year to you! have great months ahead. This is great!

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How perfect!! congrats!

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sms1129,
I'm thinking about breast feeding my twins when they are born. I read so many books stating that it's not that hard. They talk about different positions you can place them. They said you should do both of them at a time or you will be breast feeding all day if you do one at a time. They give so many good reasons to breast feed, I would at least try it out.

And congrats on the finding out on the sexes! How exciting!!

Cindy

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Sue,

Congratulations on your boy and girl twins :) I have b/g twins and they are so much fun :)

I did breastfeed or did my own version of breastfeeding twins as best as I could. Since our twins came 2 months early, breastfeeding from the start wasn't even an option. Our twins spent 32 days in the NICU. I pumped from the time that my milk came in, and that is what the twins received from a feeding tube until they could learn how to suck from a bottle and also nurse. We also had to supplement my milk w/ formula, so as to put weight on the babies. I breastfed each baby when they came home at least once to twice a day, and gave them pumped milk in a bottle the rest of the time. I rented a pump and could empty both breasts in about 15 minutes. I felt as long as they were receiving breast milk, I was all right w/ them not being exclusively fed from a breast. Besides I could never get the hang of feeding them both at the same time. They would freak out too, probably b/c they sensed my uneasiness at doing it. My son had breast milk until he was about 5 and 1/2 months, and our daughter had breast milk only until she was 3 and1/2 months old, due to reaction to something in my milk. After that they both were on formula and seemed to adjust fine. Whatever decision you make, it will be the right one.

I am glad that your twins are doing well. I know you have had a rough beginning, so it is so nice to read things are going well and that you hopefully are enjoying your pregnancy :)

Take Care,
Meg

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I personally have not breastfed twins, but have several friends with twins. The 2 friends that were successful, were very determined moms and did feed them both at the same time. There is some type of double/twins boppy style pillow you can buy to hold them both up there at the same time. Best of luck!!!!

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Sue, I'm SO glad to hear that your twins are doing well!! And to have confirmed that they are a boy and a girl....well, I know the feeling! It's wonderful! I'm now 27 weeks with my b/g twins. I'm so big now! I feel like I did right at the end of my singleton pregnancies. My feet and hands are so swollen! But so far so good with blood pressure and like you, I have heard that my twins look perfectly normal and that is just the greatest thing ever to hear. I get to go next week for my 28 week u/s (u/s #11!) and I'm anxious to go. Well, take care of yourself and congratulations once again!! Karen

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A boy and a girl how exciting!

I have a friend who had twins and she successfullly breatsfed... she said it was a bit of an adjustment at the beginning.. but you will easily find out which position suits you best.. and don't give up..sometimes the going gets tough.. but well worth the rewards!

Good luck to you.

Also.. how interesting... do you gals notice that most of the twin pregnancies during fertility treatments result in a boy/girl .. I find that very interesting...

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I am going to try to breastfeed them both and see how it goes. I don't mind alternating between the breast and pumped milk to keep my sanity, though. I know some people think it is confusing for the baby, but I think it would be necessary for me. Besides, DH wants to feed also. I also saw this great (new??) bottle that has a detached nipple with a thin hose going from the bottle to the nipple. The baby actually has the nipple part in her mouth and is sucking away while the bottle sits next to her. It's a great way to feed an infant hands-free. The woman I saw in the mall said she got it at Babies R Us.

Karen, I am also quite large at 21 weeks. My maternity large button shirts are getting tight already. Time for X-Large... Certain things like putting on socks or stepping into pants are hard too. I also have swollen hands and feet, but everything else seems to be fine.

I also signed up for classes (layette, lamaze & breastfeeding). We'll see how that goes. DH didn't last long at Babies R Us, I can't see him in 3 hour classes...

Thanks for the advice everyone and take care,

Sue

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Sue,
OUr first pregnancy, my husband wasn't into the classes at all! He went, but he found them boring. I enoyed most of it and learned a lot! I guess it all depends on whose body it is happening to!

Justme

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Sue, I bought those bottles you are talking about! I ordered them on line. I just figured that with me home most of the time alone with 2 babies, I could use any help I could get! I sure hope they work as well as they seem like they will. I'm in large maternity tops, too. My pants are all getting too tight and actually there are several pairs I can't wear. I'm only 5'3" so I can't really buy large pants or they will be a foot too long! I don't know what I'll do towards the end...seems a shame to keep buying clothes when there's such a short time left. That's great that you are taking classes. I wanted to take Lamaze (even though I'm having a c-section because I was told you learn about those and the labor I'll be in beforehand and ways my husband can comfort me) but now that DH is going in for another surgery on MOnday, the classes will be impossible. I had a visit with a prenatal nurse yesterday who terrified me. I wasn't all that afraid but she told me things that I wish she hadn't. I cried all the way home and at night explaining stuff to DH. Well, whatever happens, I know I can get through it and in the end, I'll have my miracle babies and know it was all worth it. Now if I could just use a wheel barrow to lug my big belly around..... Karen

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This is so exciting, it seemed like yesterday when you guys found out you were pregnant and now your talking about classes and wearing bigger maternity clothes, how time flies. I'm almost there and I'm loving every minute of it! We heard the heartbeats for the first time last Tuesday, it was so amazing. It will be 13 weeks this Saturday, I want to find out the sexes but dh wants to be surprised at the hospital. So I'll be patient and wait also. Boy is that going to be hard....

I'm so glad you guys are sharing your experience with all of us, it gives us something to look forward to.

Cindy

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Cindy, You heard the heartbeats? That is so awesome! That is the GREATEST sound in the world!! I know I've mentioned this before but I still rent a heartbeat monitor and it's been terrific. It's $20 a month and I can't tell you how many times it's made me feel better when I was nervous. Something to consider anyway. But that is so great that you heard those little beating hearts and I wish you well going forward. It's true, time flies so fast. Even though I'm anxious and uncomfortable, I know when I look back later this year I'll be amazed at how fast it all went. I just can't believe how lucky we are to be having a baby at all never mind two of them! Karen

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Karen,

Where did you find those bottles?? I checked Babies R Us, like the woman I met said and couldn't find them.

Thanks-
Sue

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Sue,
http://www.twinstuff.com
/twinstore2004_20.htm

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called the podee feeding system. You may find it on more than one website but it's from the same maker so I'm pretty sure the price is the same everywhere. I haven't tried it yet of course but it seems cool and seems like it'll be a lifesaver in those times when both babies are hungry and you are alone. Karen

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Sue - congratulations on the boy and girl twins. I can't believe you are already past 20 weeks. Time flys - take care of yourself and rest whenever possible.

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Hi Elizabeth!

It is great to hear from you. I can't believe your babies are 3 months old and doing so well, that is fantastic. Keep us posted, I love hearing about it.

I will be 29 weeks on 2/28 and time is flying by. It's very exciting!! I hope I can go to 36 or more weeks, we'll see.

Take care,
Sue

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Congratulation Ladies,

I am new to this group. I have been TTC for 1 year and 3 months. I found this site while up very late one night. From what I have read, this seems to be a very supportive and encouraging group. Right now I really need the support of others who have gone through or are going through the same thing. Most of my friends (all with children) don't understand what I am going through. If they did, they wouldn't tell me to "just relax". It is not that easy.

I have gone to the fertility specialist and my husband is currently going to a specialist/urologist, because the doctors can't seem to find anything wrong with me. I really hope to one day have a child because I am an only child and I have always loved children.

Well, congratulations again and I look forward to keep you up to date with my progress.

Cupcake

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Cupcake welcome to the boards. You have come to the right place for strength and wisdom during this emotionally and phyisically daunting journey. I hope your stay here will benefit you as much as it has me. I still don't have a baby yet but I'll keep trying until I do.

All the best.

Debie

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Welcome Cupcake..t his is indeed the place to come and share stories and gain strength...

What hav eyour and yrou dh's docs said about your fertility "challenges" and which treatments are you pursuing?

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Welcome Cupcake,
We are all here to give you comfort and support. You need to go through fertility w/ people who understand. You came to the right place. This could be a short journey or a long journey, it all depends on how your body is reacting. Don't give up when it seems to be going slow. Every body is different and it can take a few tries to get it right.

Good luck
Cindy

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Good Afternoon Ladies,

Thank you very much for the very warm welcome.

I've done the basal body temps for a year, Clearplan Monitor for 6 months, progesterone test and HSG. I am ovulating and there's no blockages. The fertility specalicist wanted to proceed with clomid and intrauterine insemination, but decided to refer my husband to a urologist first. We are now waiting for his 2nd appointment.

Do you know if anyone else's husband has had fertility issues?

Cupcake

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I do!

My husband had low motility and a low sperm count. He did also have a varicocel (sp??) which he had operated on during our TTC-ing... which helped immensely. His varicocel was basically 'heating' up the sperm.. and killing them off.. and about 6 mos after the operation we started to finally see an increase in his counts. Although it was around that time that I found out I had one blocked tube...

It will be good to hear what your husband's prognosis is... that will help a lot with your choice of fertility treatment. By the time we started our IUI's... it had been a good 10mos since DH's surgery and the sperm count was increasing steadily... which was obviosuly a great sign. I don't think we would have had the success we did without that surgery.

When is your husband's 2nd appointment with the Urologist? I'll be interested to hear what he says.

IUI with Gonal-F worked for us... but that was only after a few years of figuring out what was possibly "wrong" with us.. as well as DH's surgery..

Good luck and let us know what happens with your husband!

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Hi baby4us, just wanted to let you know that everythignis fine. In fact, the IVF center discharged me! This is it, not more visits over there (eventhough everyone was soooo nice), I can now go to my regular OBGYN. Such a good feeeling. Also, I had an u/s and the baby is growing fine. The cramping and the bleeding can still happen but nothing to worry about now. Also, no more progesterone!!!! That will help my ovaries to shrink a little. They are so painful now. I'm sucking on my ginger chew right now, trying to get rid of nausea but feeeling happy!

But enough about me, how is everyone?
I feel like a big weight is off my shoulders. I know, I could end up back at that place again (the IVF center), but I want to think positive and about the future.

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Fiso.. GREAT news.. wow.. what a relief!

Did they give a reason for the bleeding though? I guess it is just one of those things... just remember to listen to your body and take it easy!

It is great to get off the progsterone... and in a way it is nice to be "released" from the clinic.. but also bittersweet in a way - as it becomes such a huge part of your life!!!

Glad you saw an ultrasound.. that is always reassuring!

Take care and keep us updated with your progress!!!

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Hi baby4us. No reason for the bleeding, it could happen. At least now, I know it can happen, I won't freak out if it happens again. I wish my doc told me that after the first time. I wouldn't have worried so much.

I feel so much better with the idea of not taking any kinds of meds any more. One lady at the IVF center told me that their patients suffer from withdrawal syndroms after they leave! No more going there every other day, seing the baby at least once a week. You are more or less on your own for several months until your reach the end of the pregnancy!

I went to the grocery store yesterday afternoon and I was waiting in line at the cash register. There were some cooking magazines on display with pictures of food. Oh boy, that was the thing I shouldn't have looked at! It triggered major nausea, I thought I was going to throw up on the cashier! But my ginger chew came to the rescue!

Feeling slow today.

Fiso

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Fiso.. sorry to hear about your nausea.. but seems that your ginger chews are helping...

I know how you feel about feeling slow... and the weather hasn't been helping much!!

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Hi baby4us,

On my husband's 1st visit he was told that he didn't have varicocele. His next appointment is March 22nd. We're just waiting which is so hard. I hope whatever the problem is, it can be resolved.

I'll keep you posted.

Thanks for your concern.

Cupcake

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Good news so far Cupcake! Keep us posted after the 22nd... in some ways you hope they do find soemthing (maybe low motility) with your DH's sperm.. which is very common and that way you know what your obstacles are.

So I am keeping my fingers crossed for you!

How are you doing otherwise?

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Hi baby4us,

I am just fine, but it seems like everyone around me is pregnant. I am just waiting patiently for my day.

How are you? I see your special day is coming in June. Do you know if you are having a girl or a boy.

Hope to hear from you soon.

Cupcake

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Hi Cupcake... I guess you will hopefully find out next week what the urologist says about your DH??? I'll be interested to hear!

We don't know whether we are having a boy or a girl.. I wanted to know at the beginning.. but my family and DH overruled so I had to give in and actually now I am glad I don't know.. although I keep seeing these really cute little girl outfits.. and am so tempted to buy them.. oh well.. I'll know for sure in the next coupel of months!!!

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Hi Baby4us,

Another long wait! The doctor had to go out of town, therefore cancelled appointment and he won't be back until April 13th. I'm just trying to hang in there.

Hope you are feel great!

I'll keep you posted and thank you for the concern.

Cupcake

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