|
Home
| Home | Help | Search | Login | Register |
Abbreviations |
Author
|
Topic: 4 close friends pregnant while I'm TTC for 2 years! (Read 642 times) |
|
tinkerbell
Full Member
 Offline
Posts: 45
View Profile | E-Mail |
|
 |
Re:4 close friends pregnant while I'm TTC for 2 years!
« Reply #15 on: 04/07/05, 15:28 » |
| Reply with quote |
hello all..
one of my pregnant friends, let's call her preggy-1 (damn! too many of them pregnant!) wants to go to my house this weekend for a gathering... i'm sure we'll talk about her pregnancy, and how she enjoys her 2 kids.. i love this friend dearly, but at this point in time (after receiving news from other 4 pregnant friends) I'd rather spend the weekend with DH, do some gardening to relax and unwind.
These 5 pregnant friends of mine are not friends with each other, so they don't know about each other's pregnancies. I can't believe that having such a huge circle of friends can be a curse too, especially at times like this. :'(
anyway, what should i tell her? she is excited to see me and have a long talk about her 3rd pregnancy... but seriously, i want to run away from her (from them!) for a while! Next weekend, preggy-4 is inviting me to her child's first communion... i'm planning of getting sick around that time 
|
I'm 32. DH is 36. TTC for 3 yrs. Had 3 clomid/IUI cycles with no success. Going for the next step, when suddenly got BFP (9/6/05). Due date 5/13/06
|
|
|
meridithhasfaith
Gold Member
Offline
Posts: 343
Believe with all your might.
View Profile | E-Mail |
|
|
Re:4 close friends pregnant while I'm TTC for 2 years!
« Reply #16 on: 04/07/05, 16:09 » |
| Reply with quote |
Hey Tinkerbell
You could try to say that another weekend would be better as you aren't feeling like you would be good company at the moment. Nothing wrong with telling her that 5 friends including her have become pg in the last month and you are still trying and it has you down. Let her know you love her and will be feeling better soon enough and that you hope she understands. Then the ball is in her court to be a good friend and understand.
Good luck!
Meridith
|
36 years old. Married for 17 years. 1 son, 7 years old, conceived w/ ICSI. 2nd IVF w/ ICSI in June=No Fertilization. August cycle cancelled for poor response. Considering options.
|
|
|
Fortyfour
Gold Member
Offline
Posts: 990
I'm a llama!
View Profile | E-Mail |
|
|
Re:4 close friends pregnant while I'm TTC for 2 years!
« Reply #17 on: 04/07/05, 22:03 » |
| Reply with quote |
I would let her know that you have other plans. If you give in to her and others you will end up resentful and angry. There will be plenty of time to talk about babies with her. Especially when you are pg. Take care of yourself. Noone else will. Keep in touch.
|
Forty Four years old, hubby is 52 married 4 years, TTC 4 years with this hubby, 14 years with first hubby, One adopted daughter, 2nd ivf done, 1st one pg with m/c, second no pg. Uses egg Donor. PG with twins on 3rd IVF mc twins on 8/25/05
|
|
|
maria32
Jr. Member
Offline
Posts: 18
I'm a llama!
View Profile | E-Mail |
|
|
Re:4 close friends pregnant while I'm TTC for 2 years!
« Reply #18 on: 04/07/05, 22:13 » |
| Reply with quote |
I happen to agree with Meridith. Be honest. Explain to them how your feeling at this point. Honesty is the key. True friends stick by you no matter what. Lay the cards on the table and then let them decide what they want to do next. Don't stress over it. Don't feel guilty if you just want to spend the weekend with your honey.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| Shared Journey Community | Powered by Yabbse |
|
|
|
|
Shared Journey Community
Logged