Moving Forward When Infertility Treatments are Unsuccessful
There was a time in our not-too-distant history when couples who were childless had no options other than to live with the hand dealt by nature. With today's incredibly sophisticated and medically technical array of infertility treatments, couples have a vast array of options. The decision in today's world, is not to simply accept being childless, but rather when to stop infertility treatments. Because it seems there is always "one more thing" to try, this can be an incredibly difficult decision to make.
When is it Time to Stop?
How much is too much? When is it time, emotionally and financially, to stop, and what do you do if you and your partner don't agree on when that elusive time is? Perhaps you have set a time limit such as two years, three years, five years, or even ten years. What if you find that your arbitrary time limit is either too short (you are not ready to give up) or too long (you don't feel you can emotionally endure one more round of IVF, or one more miscarriage, or one more negative pregnancy test)? What if your spouse says it is just not financially feasible to undergo any more infertility treatments, yet you feel like you absolutely must try just one more time?
Determining when it is finally time to stop infertility treatments is a heart-wrenching experience, but following that decision comes yet another one-to try and adopt a child, or to accept being childless. Should you decide on adoption, it is well-known that adoption comes with its own set of ups, downs, and heartbreaks, not to mention that it is also something that can take years before you have a baby in your arms. Whatever decision you and your partner make, it now becomes necessary to emotionally deal with what is, essentially, the loss of the biological child you have long hoped and dreamed of.
Emotional Challenges You Face
Considering that one in seven couples have difficulty in conceiving a child, you are far from alone, however this fact is rarely comforting to couples who have been unable to get pregnant. Infertility is emotionally devastating, and couples who are unsuccessful after years of trying every single fertility treatment out there can feel depressed, angry and frustrated. Support groups can be helpful for some, allowing you a safe place to vent your feelings among people who have likely gone through the same roller coaster ride you have, although not all people are comfortable airing their personal problems to virtual strangers.