Does He Not Care?
Many men who have partners' that have miscarried insist that the man's reaction isn't necessarily a sign that he doesn't care. One man whose wife suffered repeated miscarriages says that men are often taught from boyhood that they need to shake off feelings of grief and the best way to do that is by distracting themselves.
That's why it's common for men to suddenly be interested in cleaning out the garage when they find out about their partners' miscarriages. In her interview with Pregnancy Today, Swanson said that after the initial shock wears off about not being a new father, men who love and care for their partners are often more upset with how the miscarriage impacts their partner both physically and emotionally.
Keeping the Relationship Strong
The time after a miscarriage can be extremely hard on a couple. More tensions can arise after repeated miscarriages which can put a huge strain on the marriage. Both men and women need to work together to help each and get through the grief of the pregnancy loss.
Men need to acknowledge that the loss was physical and emotional for their wives. They cannot expect their partners to just get over it and move on. Men need to also realize that their partners may not want to have sex for a while. Sex after a miscarriage, for women, can become a painful reminder of the miscarriage.
Women, even in their grief, should try to remember that sex is more than making babies. It's also a way to express intimacy and intimacy is important to keep a relationship strong.
Men: show that you care
Men can help this feeling of intimacy by doing little things to show that he cares. He may not fully understand what his partner is going through, but he can be there to listen when she needs to talk about the miscarriage. He can be willing to listen even if he doesn't understand why she's grieving for so long.