New here and needing support...
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Hi everyone, I have belonged to a few other boards and have found some great friends however in my journey they seem to move on while I remain in the same place...empty armed and broken hearted. I found this site and thought it might bring me the comfort and/or support I need during this difficult time that women on the other boards don't quite seem to understand because although maybe they have experienced loss or some struggle, they've all moved on to be pg or have a baby by now. My Dh and I jhave had 3 m/c's (one pg was twins so we've actually lost 4 babies). I have had 2 surgeries to correct the problems in my uterus that caused 3 of the m/c's...the 4th was caused by a car accident almost a year ago :'(. To top it all off my dh has low sperm count (he is a cancer survivor and his sperm count is low as a result of chemo and a bone marrow transplant). We have been ttc naturally for 4 months since the RE gave us the go ahead from the last surgery (June 06) and we have not succeeded in getting pg. Every month is like a punch in the gut and a rip in the heart. I break down at least 3 days a month where I am just inconsolable and completely debilitated. I don't know how much more I can take. DH and I are going to do IUI next cycle if we don't get pg again this month. I'm not anticipating it happening naturally because nothing can go easy for us...it's just not our way. I've prayed and tried so hard to give this up to God but nothing seems to work.
I just need to talk with some people who really "get it" and where I don't feel like such an outcast. I hope you don't mind me jumping in.
Thanks for listening.
A new friend to all,
Rina
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 | liz - December 28 |
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Hi Rina,
Welcome to Shared Journey. This site has been such a blessing for me through my journey. The women here ae very compasionate and understanding. We share the same goals and sometimes the same difficulties when ttc. I truly hope you can find comfort in others here and know that you are never alone.
I am sorry to hear about your previous m/c. Having been through 3 myself and the loss of one of my twins in my current pregnancy I can honestly understand how you may feel.
There have been many times where I broke down and felt that it was hopeless to continue trying. No matter how hard it was for me I would pull myself up, dust myself off and keep moving onward. I knew that ultimatly I could never reach my goal if I did not stay focused, keep the faith and continue to do everything in my power to achieve a pregnancy.
Are you currently taking any medications to help you conceive or are you just natually trying right now?
I wish you the best of luck and if you need someone to talk to, keep posting, we are all here for you!
I look forward to hearing from you.
Take care,
Liz
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Hi Liz, thanks for taking the time. I am sorry for your losses as well. Right now I am doing something a friend online came up with called a "cocktail"...it's a b complex vitamin, folic acid, prenatal vitamin, baby asprin, and an herb called Vitex. I called my RE to make sure it was ok to take and he said he was fine with me trying it this month. If it doens't work this month then next month when we do IUI we will have to do Clomid. ovulation itself is not my problem. I O every month on cd 14 or 15. We got pg the 3 times before naturally...but now, when everything is suppose to be "fixed" inside of me to help me carry to term, we can't get pg! it's frustrating to say the least. I am also having Dh take something called a fertility blend that I got at GNC which is suppose to help increase his sperm count. He is also a smoker and has been trying to quit cuz as we know this also leads to sperm count being lower and his is so low already...we don't need anything else contributing to that problem.
I literally know 12 women who are pg right now. I don't thinkI've ever known 12 people in my lifetime who were pg...and now when I'm going through this...it's all so much. I do dust myself up after every breakdown...they're just getting longer and harder to get through as the months pass on. I'll be 31 in a month and this whole process began at 28...I ahte that time keeps going on...people around me are getting the family they want, and here we are.....stagnet...inmoblie...helpless. I hate it.
Thanks for listening and being there.
R-
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Are you sure this cocktail is correct? Wouldn't the b complex vitamin clash (or too much B vitamin) with the prenatal vitamin? Because isnt there vitamin B in a prenatal vitamin? I know the baby aspirin is great because of improved blood flow. Also, I would try dark chocolate (high percentage of cocoa). Studies have shown that dark chocolate improves blood flow. Also, try acupuncture is said to help blood flow and improve the uterus lining. Husbands should do it as well to improve sperm count.
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Hi Liz, thanks for taking the time. I am sorry for your losses as well. Right now I am doing something a friend online came up with called a "cocktail"...it's a b complex vitamin, folic acid, prenatal vitamin, baby asprin, and an herb called Vitex. I called my RE to make sure it was ok to take and he said he was fine with me trying it this month. If it doens't work this month then next month when we do IUI we will have to do Clomid. ovulation itself is not my problem. I O every month on cd 14 or 15. We got pg the 3 times before naturally...but now, when everything is suppose to be "fixed" inside of me to help me carry to term, we can't get pg! it's frustrating to say the least. I am also having Dh take something called a fertility blend that I got at GNC which is suppose to help increase his sperm count. He is also a smoker and has been trying to quit cuz as we know this also leads to sperm count being lower and his is so low already...we don't need anything else contributing to that problem.
I literally know 12 women who are pg right now. I don't thinkI've ever known 12 people in my lifetime who were pg...and now when I'm going through this...it's all so much. I do dust myself up after every breakdown...they're just getting longer and harder to get through as the months pass on. I'll be 31 in a month and this whole process began at 28...I ahte that time keeps going on...people around me are getting the family they want, and here we are.....stagnet...inmoblie...helpless. I hate it.
Thanks for listening and being there.
R-
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| liz - January 3 |
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Hi Rina,
Sorry I am just getting back to you! The holidays had me in a tail spin.
When I was ttc it seemed that everywhere I turned there was a pregnant women. It would drive me absolutly crazy and then I would feel so guilty for being jealous. Since I got pregnant I really don't notice as many pregnant women. I really believe it was something I was so focused and I noticed every single one of those pregnant women around me.
When I was ttc I was taking 100 mg of b6. I was taking mainly for the mood benefits since I was suffering badly with depression because I could not get pregnant. I like your cocktail. :) If you don't mind me asking where are you at in your cycle?
Oh, I was also on a prenatal vit when I took the b6 and my re's office was ok with it so I am not sure about the clashing effect. Quite possibly if taken in extreme dosages. The best bet would be to check with the doctor but I believe you did and they said it was ok. I would not be too concerned if you got the ok.
Well I hope all is well and I hear from you soon.
Take care,
Liz
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Hi, i too am new here. i am also on folgard(a bcomplex vit plus prenat) and 81mg asa, vit.c, and cranberry pills for uti problems too. i don't know if they will help, but hey it can't hurt! i have had 4m/c, but i do have 1 8yr old son, whom i am sooo grateful for. i know that's more than alot of women have. Its just that me and my new huband would really like more, at least 1. It is so frustrating and time-consuming ttc and STAY pregnant. I feel burned out alot. hang in there, there are others out there just like or similiar to you and your heartache.
Alaine.
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