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Its so nice to know there are other's out there that are feeling the same way I do. I am 29 yrs old and my youngest child is going to be 9 this year. I still feel there is something missing in my life. I am with a wonderful man that has no children of his own. We are trying to save money to have my tubal reversal. Anyone have any good advise about who to go to or what else I can do other then spend lots of $$$$$ to be able to have another child?

hi I had my tubes tied cut burned whatever you want to call it about 4 1/2 years ago. I am 32 and have been feeling a little different with my body. I have had my cycle normal but this month it is crazy How can I know that i am not pregnant or could it be premenapause please respond if you know what I am going through. I feel bloated dont want to eat and have been really tired . ??? :-[

[quote author=jacqueline link=board=12;threadid=581;start=15#15403 date=1140712277]
HI! GOD BLESS YOU ALL. I WOULD LIKE TO SAY I ,TO HAD A TUBAL LIGATION DONE AFTER MY FOURTH CHILD. I'M MARRIED TO MY SOUL MATE , HAD 2 BOYS AND 2 GIRLS TOGETHER AND HAVE BEEN MARRIED 9 YEARS NOW. IM 28 , MY HUSAND 29. WE THOUGHT OUR FAMILY WAS COMPLETE UNTILL I GOT REALLY DIPRESSED, DEEP INSIDE I FELT SAD AND ANGRY THAT I CAN NOT HAVE ANY MOR CHILDREN. I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING W\ THIS DIPRESSION FOR A GOOD 4 YEARS AND COUNTING . FINALLY I JUST HAD TO GIVE IT TO MY LORD , I CAN NOT CARRY IT ON MY SHOULDERS ANYMORE. I ASKED GOD TO FORGIVE ME FOR TAKING THE CONTROL OUT OF HIS HANDS AND TAKING IT IN TO MY OWN HANDS IN DETERMININIG HOW MANY KIDS I WOULD HAVE. I WAS WRONG . THE LORD KNOWS HOW MANY CHILDREN HE WANTS ME TO HAVE. I GAVE BACK THE CONTROL TO HIM. FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SO DESIRE ANOTHER BABY. I KNOW GOD GIVES US THE DESIRES OF OUR HEARTS. IM BELEIVING IN A MIRACLE BECAUSE I KNOW AND BELIEVE THAT MY GOD IS A GOD FULL OF MIRACLES..... SO I SPEAK TO THAT MOUNTAIN FOR ALL YOU WOMEN WHO ARE ALSO DESIRING A BABY I SPEAK MIRACLES AND BLESSINGS IN YOUR LIFE.. GOD SAYS ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE .NOTHING NO, NOTHING IS TO IMPOSSIBLE FOR GOD . WHAT IS IMPOSSSIBLE TO MEN IS POSSIBLE TO GOD. SO TO THOSE WHO ASK ''COULD I BE / OR GET PREGNANT AFTER A TUBAL''? AS FAR AS GOD'S CONCERN ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THERE IS HOPE LADIES. ITS ONLY A PRAYER AWAY. THE LORD IS A FORGIVING AND MERCIFUL GOD ..... THANK GOD HE IS...... SO I WILL CONTINUE TO BELIEVE IN THE MIRACLE GOD HAS ALREADY ORDAINED FOR ME.........GOD BLESS
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hi everyone, i'm 23 years old i've had 3 pregnancies 1 when i was 17 i miscarried and then had a lil boy when i was 20 and a lil girl at 22 after i had my c-section with my daughter i had my tubes tied. my husband and myself thought it was for the best. since then i've had problems i have hot flashes, my periods are 10 times worse and now i'm late with all the signs of being pregnant. i've taken 2 test they both was negitive but i'm getting bigger, and my belly looks just like i did when i was with child along with at times i feel like i'm being kicked. is it really possible to get pregnant? my dr. told me i would never be able to have kids again. and my husband thought he was suppost to cut the tubes so there would be no chance. please help i'm going crazy with no one to talk to about this.

HI! I WOULD LIKE TO SAY I am new here and that I ,TO HAD A TUBAL LIGATION DONE AFTER MY FOURTH CHILD. I'M MARRIED TO MY SOUL MATE we Have 1 Girl (9) and 1 Boy(3).... I know I at least wanted 2 boys and 2 girls.. . I have 2 other boys (that are from a previous marriage that are older) .. my husband AND HAVE BEEN MARRIED 10 YEARS NOW. IM 34 , MY HUSAND 35. WE Both THOUGHT OUR FAMILY WAS COMPLETE UNTILL I GOT REALLY DIPRESSED, DEEP INSIDE I FELT SAD AND ANGRY THAT I CAN NOT HAVE ANYMORE CHILDREN.... that i really knew i wanted to have but went threw with the Surgery anyway for Birth control.... I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING W\ THIS DIPRESSION FOR A GOOD 3 YEARS AND COUNTING . I finally found this site [link]http://www.tubal.org/ovarian_isolation.htm [/link] I ASKED GOD TO FORGIVE ME FOR TAKING THE CONTROL OUT OF HIS HANDS AND TAKING IT IN TO MY OWN HANDS IN DETERMININIG HOW MANY KIDS I WOULD HAVE. I WAS WRONG . THE LORD KNOWS HOW MANY CHILDREN HE WANTS ME TO HAVE. I am trying to decide what to do now as everyone i see keeps telling me my problems are from DEPRESSION... and had i have known abotu the SIDE effects of a TL i would have never had it done.. I got the Tubal cause at the time i didnt want anymore kids and neither did my husband.... I come to realize now I do want another child mybe 2 that way we have 2 boys and 2 girls of our own.... but not sure if he does... I know and believe that my tubaligation has alot to do with what has been happening in out life and I just want it fixed... and want my life back... I have been sad and unhappy and angry.. alot and im sorry.. to all i have hurt....

I am new to this site and I have to say that the possitive and God believing attitudes are a blessing to me. I am having the same thing right now as Jaquline I am leaving it up to the Lord. I too had a tubaligation 6 years ago after three beautiful children. I so desperatly want to have another child. I at the time was not where I am today with my walk with the Lord and took it upon myself to try and controll how many children I would have and I regret it and have prayed for forgiveness and hope that one day soon I may be blessed with another child. In fact I have an appointment today. I am on day 41 and have not had a period but my home test was negative. I feel in my heart that I am but I'M scared of the dissapointment that may follow. Please give me lots of prayer. :)

I am a 26yr.old with 2 beautiful little girls ages: 7 & 9 yrs. old. I just got engaged to my fiance on December 15,2006 but my wedding day would really be fulfilled if I could give him a baby. I had a tubaligation done 5yrs. ago when I thought that I wouldn't have anymore children because I had to raise those 2 by myself and I didn't want to have children by every man that I dated, so I thought that the best thing to do would be to have a tubaligation. My children ask me every day to give them a baby brother and I would if I could afford it but I can't. My life just isn't the same anymore and I have really been emotionally torn inside and out. 2 all you ladies out there and 2 the ladies messages that I have read I hope you all get what it is that you truly want and deserve cause I feel your pain. Don't give up on your ambitions.

hello everyone, i just wanted to share my story and my support. i had my tl 8 years ago, like some of you i was in a bad relationship and thought a tl was the best thing for me to do . i cried on the or table before they put me to sleep but went through with it because of the things that were going on in my life at the time. well 5 years ago i meet my new husband and he has no kids of his own but came in loving and accepting my two kids with open arms he has been daddy to them for 5 years now and he is all they know. my son is going to be 10 tuesday and my little girl is 8. well my husband came into the relationship knowing that i could not have any more babies put at the time loving us was enough for him.
well i always knew i wanted to have a baby for him and have talked about it for years now. we planned to go to mexico with our tax money this year and right before it was time to get them i lost my job was fired after 7 1/2 years. i was so upset because i knew this was going to ruin our chances of going to mexico.
but my husband was not going to let that stop us!!!
we got our tax money which wasn't even as much as the surgery and made or plans and or appointment and went. we had no money for our trip we had to take the bus because we couldn't afford to get there any other way and our cars are so old the would of never made it!!lol!!but we went. we stepped out on faith and knew that the lord would take care of us and get us there and back and he did. my tubes are togheter again and after my two months are up that i have to wait we are going to be able to start trying for a baby!!!the trip to mexico really put us back and we are still trying to catch back up. but sometimes you just have to make sacrifices and just step out their and do it. it took me 4 years of wanting this everyday to finally be able to get it.but its not over yet . now i hope i can get pregnant after 8 years you never know.
i just wanted to share my story and let every one know that it is possiable just don't ever give up hope!!!

Hi I'm new here and I'm looking for information. Does anyone have opinions on Dr Perez rio bravo mexico? And for those who have had a reversal how long did it take after the reversal to concieve? You can e-mail me directly. Thank you

Hello everybody im new to this so bare with me. I myself had a tubaligationin 1999 and now i am re married to a wonderful man who raises my three children and now we want a child of our own. I started the ivf procedure about three months ago and now i am on lupron waiting for day one of my cycle. Im getting very excited they say my retrival is on or around april 16th i can't wait....... I haven't had any side affects from it yet at least i don't think i did. Anyway i wish everybody good luck and hopefully i'll have somebody to talk to now... :)

oversoon,
I wish you all the best in your journey. I myself am just starting my research. I also want to wish everyone all the best! It seems like this is a long journey for us all but it is worth it!! ;D

I want to first thank you so much for letting God use you mightly to speak to women of Faith. Yes, we know the world has options to try and reverse the process but where does your faith really lie in the world or with God. I was so greatly encouraged by your email which I already know life is in God's hand and not man becuase even if you get a reversal if God does not put His hand on us to bless us with another child after taking matters in our own hands then it won't happen. Without faith it is impossible to please God and we can't waver or doubt. Look who we are talking about a God that created you and I and can He not open our womb again after we repent as you said for taking matters into our own hands. Thank you my Sister in Christ for such great encouragement as the Lord used you for all of us that will believe God for the IMPOSSIBLE!!!! I turned 40 and had a dream I was holding my son, I had a tubal ligation done not wanting any more children but if God so ordains me to have another child let it be done unto me and my husband which is always been my desire to have a son. God bless all of you richly who desire another child and stop listening to the world's advice and trust and believe God. Amen.

HI EVERYONE IT GOOD TO READ EVERYONES MESSAGES WELL BARE WITH ME I'M 35 AND I HAVE TWO KIDS FROM MY FIRST MARRIAGE AND DECIDED TO HAVE MY TUBAL DONE THE CAUSE WAS MY BAD RELATIONSHIP I HAD IT DONE IN 1998 AND FOUR YEARS AGO I MET MY SOUL MATE AND HE HAS TWO KIDS OF HIS OWN WHICH HIS EX DOES NOT LET HIM SEE THE KIDS NO MATTER WHAT AND WE WANT TO HAVE MORE BUT ITS JUST SO EXPENSIVE WE CANOT AFFORD IT I FEEL VERY DEPRESSED AND ANGRY AT MY SELF I PRAY TO GOD FOR A MIRACLE SO THAT I CAN HAVE MY HUSBANDS BABY I CRY ALL THE TIME IT IS SO SAD THAT I CANT GIVE HIM A BABY WE BOTH WANT ONE REALLY BAD HES SO GOOD TO MY KIDS HES LIKE A FATHER TO THEM MY KIDS BOTH LOVE HIM CAN ANYONE GIVE ME ADVICE CAUSE I'M SO TORN APART OVER THIS

Hi, Iwas reading your post and your situation is exactly the same as mine was. I had a tubal in 99' because I was in a bad relationship. A few years later I meet the love of my life who took me and my two kids in and we all love each other so much we've been together for six years now and he is all my kids know. He doesn't have any kids of his own so I knew one day that I was going to want to get my tubes untied. We were both working but it still seemed like we would never have the money to pay for the operation, in my town it starts out at $5000. But I had researched going to Mexico to have my reversal because cost was so much cheaper only around $2665 for everything. Well in February of this year we went to Mexico. we took a bus, took our tax money and left not having hardly any extra money with us but we set out on our adventure in Gods hand. We were going to do this and we weren't letting anything stop us.
It's been nine months since leaving Mexico and I am proud to say that I am 33 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby boy!!
If you want to ask me any questions or need any info please contact me and I will tell you all I can.
http://www.riobravoreversal.com/

First of congrats!! I am 30 years old and I have meet the man of my dreams. Now that we are engaged to be married the idea of him never becoming a father is too much for me to handle. I am planning on getting my reversal done in March by Dr. Roberto Perez. I live 15 hrs away and I am planning on driving there. What I would like to know is how did you feel after the surgery and if you have any advice for me. I am so nervous. :)

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I HAVE HAD MY TUBES TIED FOR 23 YEARS. BUT RECENTLY I HAVE HAD SYMPTOMS OF PREGNANCY. MY STOMACH LOOKS LIKE I'M PREGNANT. BUT I HAVE HAD MY PERIOD. I READ ON A FORUM THAT A GIRL WAS 7 MONTHS PREGNANT AND HAS HAD HER PERIOD THE WHOLE TIME AND SHE HAS HAD HER TUBES TIED FOR 6 YEARS. I FEEL MOVEMENT IN MY STOMACH AND ACTUALLY SAW MY STOMACH MOVE THE OTHER DAY. IS THERE A CHANCE I COOULD BE PREGNANT? IF ANYONE OUT THERE HAS BEEN THROUGH THIS, PLEASE LET ME KNOW ::)
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I have the same syptoms. I am 35 I have had 5 children and after my fifth was born I had to have my tubes tied. This was 8 years ago. Now all of a sudden I have alot of stomache movement, it feels just like a baby moving. I bought a over the counter test and it came back negative. I have put on about 10lbs, but over the past 8 years my weight changes from time to time. I really don't know if this is common. None of my friends have had there tubes tied.