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Hi girls sorry it has been a while since I have posted. I have been busy at work and not much is going on with me. Just waiting!!!!!!!!
Julie- I am glad to see you are doing well. I wish you all the best at your next appointment. I am sure everything will be fine.
Marina- How are you feeling? I know it is such a terrible thing to deal with. You have every right to vent. What harm does it do? and all of us on here understand the struggle. It is funny how it is so easy to talk to all of you about what is going on, but I hate talking to even my close friends about it. I don't having an easy time discussing my personal life as it is, but I feel like everyone on here understands somewhat. I remember when I lost my last pregnancy, a good friend said to me "well at least you already have one child". This coming from a psychologist! I could not believe how insensitive people could be. So if you don't want to discuss it with people then don't.
Any idea about your FET? I spoke with one of the RE's in my practice( not my usual guy since he is away at a conference) and he told me they still don't have official dates when the embryology lab will be up and running. He said either the 2nd or 3rd week in April. Dh and I are anxious to get started, so I may have to go back on bcp to manipulate my cycle to coincide with the lab. I really don't want to wait for my April period to come to get started since the FET is scheduled about 2 weeks after. That would put the actual transfer at the end of April beginning of May! So at least with the bcp I can just stop taking it and get my period and get started. It would be nice if we can both go through it together and get a bfp.
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Hey Lyly - welcome back! It's good to hear from you. I don't blame you for getting anxious since April isn't here soon enough! How many embryo's do you have left for the FET? How are you holding up?
I am OK - just threw up my dinner. I thought I was doing better but I guess not.
On a good note - my daughter is just about potty trained 8) she was a late bloomer in that department but I am so proud of her. She only pees in her sleep but other than that she uses the potty!
Julie
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hi girls,
lyly,Julie-I'm glad we understand each other so well!Thanks for being here for each other!
Lyly,past 2 days I feel completely normal(physically) and belive it or not-I'm ready to go for FET-didn't think I ever will a week ago.I'd do it tomorrow,but unfortunately,I have to wait until march 31 for the follow up after my D@C and April 7 for my appt. with RE and all the test results on a baby-and my period to come back.So,they do FET 2 weeks after your period?Did yours come back?Hopefully, mine will too,I'm still spotting very lightly on and of.
Julie,my son is almost 13 and I had no problem conceiving him back than.He is from my previuos marriage.This time, 2 years ago when we start trying,my husband went and checked himself first and his sperm was normal,I couldn't belive that it took us 2 years-and no results.I was buying ovulation tests every month and had my period like a clock.Finaly went for HSG-and what a surprise- both my tubes had scarring in the very end by the ovaries and that liquid didn't come out!
Well,my doctor recommended IVf-it took me some time to recerch and agree to do this.Ecpecialy after my friend went through IVF with every possible side effect and trouble that might happen,I "lived "with her day by day all 38 weeks of her pregnancy,I was terrified to do it myself. Can you blame me?And when we finaly went and they checked my husband's sperm-another "surprise"was waiting for us-he has very low count-100 000( from 20 mil normal).They told us -it's impossible to get PG naturaly and only way ICSI,even if I was ok.I was confused-how come a year ago his sperm was normal and now no good at all?But at this point it didn't matter because I had blocked tubes.
So ,this is my story.But you know what?We'll be there,may be not as fast and easy as we wish,but sooner or later -will be.I just wish I start doing this a little bit earlier,because we still have to have time to raise this child!
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Marina -
I completely understand what you are saying about your husband's sperm - my husband went from having a low count with low mobility to a normal count and normal mobility within 9 months???? I somethings think it has to do with diet... they say caffeine can affect ones sperm count. so when I was going through IVF, hubby stayed away from the caffeine and his count improved. I also think someone can get pregnant with a low spem count and I am living proof. Hubby had a vericose vein which resulted in shooting sperm that couldn't swim... needless to say, after his surgery they said it would take me 6 months to get pregnant and for his sperm to possibly (surgey only 50% success rate) swim to me... well, on only a little amount of sperm, he got me pregnant - you know why??? because we didn't expect it to happen so there was little pressure. sometimes I think we put so much pressure on ourselves to get pregnant that we stress making it harder to get pregnant. I admit with your scarred tubes it may be impossible to get pregnant - however, I have 2 friends who were adopted because thier moms were told they could never get pregnant - well, both moms got pregnant after my friends were adopted and the pressure to conceive wasn't there anymore.. you just never know. I truly believe in miracles and the unexpected. Keep the faith!
Julie
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Julie- I am happy to hear about your dd using the potty. It is such a great milestone. Now you will only have one in diapers! As far as my FET, we have 3 embies left. We are planning to put all 3 in this time. My RE at first recommended only 2 again. However, when I brought up the fact that we only have 3 he said if we put 2 and it doesn't work the likelyhood of the the single transfer working was minimal. So he said it would be okay to transfer all three. He said hopefully we will get at least one to take, but there is the possibility of triplets!
Marina- They told me it takes about 2 weeks to prepare the lining. Once the lining is ready they thaw the embryos. So the FET will take place within a few days of that. I have not gotten my March period yet. If my regular schedule is not thrown off from the IVF I should get it by next Thursday or Friday. I may have to go on birth control so we can time my cycle with the lab opening. I don't want to wait until the middle of april to get my period and then another 2 weeks after that. I too wish I could do it this cycle, but I can't access my embies. You should defintely give your body time to heal. When I had the miscarriage and had the D&C I spotted on an off also, but I had heavier bleeding within about 6 weeks. They told me that was probably my normal period. I assume they were right because I started to regulate somewhat after that. It did take a few months to get back to my usual 31 days though.
We also had pretty much the same thing with the sperm going from normal to not. Dh and I had 3 pregnancies within a year and half (all happened quickly). Then when we did the clomid had 2 normal post coital tests indicating normal sperm. Then all of a sudden we did another post coital test when I did gonal-f and they said there was no living sperm. What? How could that change so much from a few months ago? After that he went for a Sperm analysis and it was terrible. We were told we could try IUI but I read a lot about it and didn't want to waste any more time. So we went straight for IVF with ICSI.
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Julie,
It's so funny,I hear stories like this all the time!Even my friend who is a doctor ,told me that pregnancy can dissolve some scarring and cysts(well,that I know for sure-I had a cyst on my ovary before my son and they told me they'll take it out during c-section,but it wasn't there anymore by that time)Well,I'm afraid,even if mirracle happens and my DH sperm changed from 4 months ago, that I might end up with an ectopic PG if my egg will stuck in a tube and do more harm.
and Lyly,I'm afraid that my waiting time could be longer than I think-from what you said,what if my period will not regulate?Or it doesn't matter and they can put me on a bcp?Anyhow,I know I can't jump over my head and still have to wait for my appt.!
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Marina -
Either way, I wish you the best of luck and hope you can start soon. I am here for you whenever you need to talk.
Julie
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Marina- I am not sure, but I don't see why your periods would have to be regular to go ahead with the FET. I think you just need time to heal and have one normal period. I was told to wait at least one cycle. I needed to have 2 total periods ( the first one after the d&c then the next one. After that I was okay to start trying again. My m/c was long. They left fetal tissue after the d & c and I went into labor and delivered the rest myself. So it took about 6 weeks to get the first one, but you may get yours within 4 weeks. Then you may have to wait for one more period. They usually say a total of 8 weeks before you try again. Mine was about 10 because of the problems. As far as your periods being regular, there are many women with irregular periods who do IVF so don't worry about it. You can talk to them about bcp but I don't think it is necessary. I may just use it so I can get my april period sooner than the 13th. Just let yourself heal and if the spotting turns heavier or more consistant at one point count that as your period (Even if it is lighter than usual since you have been spotting on and off you may not have a thick lining to shed). At least that is what they told me.
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Hey Lyly,thanks for the information.All we have to do is wait.I'm so busy at work now,because from my absense all the appoitments moved to this and next week.May be time will go faster!
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Hey guys! Quick e-mail. Had my 16 week OBGYN appointment. They changed my due date again to August 22. They could not find the heartbeat for a while and I completely panicked! I was almost crying. The baby is VERY low. I am a little nervous because they are scheduling me for a Level 2 ultra sound for high risk pregnancies. I am a little freaked out why they decided to do that... So I will know the sex in 2 weeks!
Julie
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Julie,thanks god,don't scare me.I honestly don't know what it means-maybe you'll have to be on a bedrest?Did you ask?whatever you have to do-do!
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Marina -
I guess they decided not to do the Level 2 yet. Apparently they consider any IVF patient a high risk and it is not uncommon to do a level 2 ultra sound when delaing with someone who has done IVF.. So, for now I guess I am doing OK. Thanks for caring.
Julie
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They definately didn't think this way with me,she kept saying that it doesn't mater any more,I'm like everybody else.Maybe it is true,but they have to be a little bit more attentive to women like us only because how we got there to be like everybody else...
but anyway,I'm glad you are ok!
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Marina -
How are you ding these days to occupy your time? Is it getting any easier? Any signs of your period yet? How is your hubby holding up?
I have been sick. Sinus infection went to my lungs so I was back at the doctors again.
Julie
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julie,
I'm busy at work,and of course,all my thoughts -when can we start FET.But Iknow I can't jump over my head,we have appt.with ob(who was in the hospital with me) on March 31,for a check up post 6 weeks and results on a baby,and after that April & with my RE-I hope they can do FET in April,but it depends when my period comes back.Yesterday I felt something familiar inside and bought ovulation test just out of curiosity to see if I'm ovulating-and to my surprise I'm!Two lines.So it means my body getting back to normal and probably in a near feature my period comes back.
My DH had to fly in Florida for 5 days(not a good time for us to be away from each other),his stepdad passed away,but I guess people never die in convenient time,and it wasn't a surprise,and his mother promissed she'll wait with memorial service for 3 weeks when we can buy free ticket and use our miles,and not to pay $500 for the last minute trip,but I guess she changed her mind...Not to mention that my DH was flying in Florida 3 times for the past 4 months to say goodbuy everytime when she thought it was the end,including the time when we were about to have IVF done on the next day and I was a nervuos wrack,because we didn't exactly knew the day.O well,enough wining.
Julie,are you taking antibiotics for your sinus infection?
Try old remedy-flush your nose with warm solt water,I know it's not fun,but it helps with congestion.And also,if you can handle it-make a nose drops:1 tsp of water and few drops of garlic juice-natural antibiotic.
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Julie,I just wrote you a long message(2 times!),but it doesn't show on a board,but you can see it if you go to my profile and show all messages from the person.Wierd
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