Hi guys. Thanks again for your support. Feeling better today. I know things happen for a reason, and one day I feel like I'll have that reason.
I'll try to answer all your questions:
Julie - my insurance covers IVF, but not egg donor. So, we have to pay the upfront part - the fees for the donor, for her meds, for her retrieval, but my insurance covers my meds, my u/s and bloods and the transfer. So, net net, we end up paying about $15,000. As for not trying again, it's not really the money (thankfully, dh and I both have really good jobs - and I actually got a promotion yesterday - how ironic -- all I wanted was good news and while I got some, it wasn't the good news that really mattered). It's more about he emotional rollercoaster and what I'm putting my body through.
Marina - my friends that adopted so fast did it via private US adoption - I have heard that it usually takes so long (at least a year), but they literally had their 1st within 8 weeks and 2nd within 7 weeks. Pretty amazing and hopefully we will have the same luck.
So many people tell us to adopt and that we'll end up getting pregnant on their own, but like you said, the older you get, the harder it is. I can't even produce more than 2 follicles on the highest dosage of stims, so can't really imagine that getting pregnant the "old fashinoned" way would even be a possibility (although dh still seems to think so - I don't think he realized that I'm 38 (will be 39 next month) and that's old for these type of things. And, now he realizes why I wanted to start trying the second we got married and not wait (we waited 18 months b/c he thought that was best). Not saying it would have happened, but we may have had a better chance...
As for having all the tests, we have except for a histerscopy (spelling) so I plan to do that on the 30th. He said it's minor surgery - I have to go under, but that it's not a big deal and will rule out any other issues. He said it will probably come out ok, but we might as well do that. I think if it comes out ok, then there's no explanation, but if he finds pollyps, scar tissue or abnormal cells, he can take care of it and mabye solve the problem. So, we'll see what happens...
And, lastly, we did a egg donor fresh cycle back in April (when I first joined this group), but that didn't work. And, we had 5 frozen to which 2 were good and transfered. We would defintely do another fresh cycle next time - and hope for frozens too (future siblings). This donor had 41 eggs (which we shared), so we got 21, fertilized 16 - 12 made it to day 5, transfered 2 and 5 made it to be frozen. So, we think she's a good donor (not to mention that she met almost all of our qualificastions, appearance (I wanted to make sure she had my coloring b/c dh is dark and I'm light and I wanted to have a baby that looked a little like me), personality (same reasons), athletic, education (she actually has a law degree), and religion (she's 1/2 Jewish). So, we think it would be hard to find someone else who "fits the bill". I think we'll end up using her again - hopefully we can try in the next few months. I will, of couse, let you guys know.
Enough about me...
Marina -& Lyly - where are you in the cycle?
JenFrancis - are your legs/ankles any better? Are you still drinking alot of water. I want to make sure you are taking care of yourself.
Julie - I can't believe you only have 35 days to go - so soon.
Lisa - I don't think I saw a post about what you ate yesterday - was it a slow day for you?
Reshma, Debbie, Ronda - hope you guys are doing well.
Sorry for the long post - but I wanted to make sure I answered everyone.
So happy it's Friday. I think we're going to go out tonight to celebrate my promotion (although bitter sweet b/c I would rather be celebrating my pregnancy). And, heading to the beach for the rest of the weekend.