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Aloha, ::)

I can definately relate to the bundle of nerves on the 2ww..We are on our 2nd round of IVF..our 1st time sadly ended in a miscarriage at 8 weeks. But we are praying that all will work out for us...our 2nd bloodtest is tomorrow...Our prayers are with all of you. We are so glad we found this web-site.

Hi Hawaii, I am sorry to hear about your first IVF attempt. Waiting is almost unbearable. Definitely keep me posted. I am looking to do IVF in April (the school teacher rush) and am a lil nervous about it. It seems to me it was always the last resort. Is it? Is it intense/time consuming? Does your insurance cover it? I believe mine does but I don't know how many. I am gearing up for my 3rd IUI. That in itself is stressful.

Sundance and Ivabies, I have been thinking about you both and send you positive energy. Never think it will never happen- I try to stay away from that thought- it is too big for me to wrap my heart around. Always think- it will happen when the time is right. It easy to start thinking negatively after being trained for so many months. After my 2nd IUI I had much cramping too- and the last two months very severe feeling of low cramps my Dr attributes to gas- I have been trying to eat better and work out more to try and relax. I also spot before my period which leads me to believe sometimes it is implantation- it seems to be for many people this way- so this could be your month- every woman is different. I do plan on looking into acupuncture. Has anyone tried this?

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Thank you Trababy for your support...I'm new to this ..What is IUI? I have read countless books on IVF. For my husband & I IVF was our only option besides a tubal reversal on both ends. Our RE advised IVF would have better results. I have children from a previous marriage. but now remarried and praying to have a baby. In Hawaii the law is your insurance will pay for 1 round of IVF..There are currently 15 states that have mandated insurance concerning infertility benefits. It worked out wonderfull for us...We went through round 1 of IVF then my employer changed our insurance keeping our situation in mind. so round 2 has also been paid for the co payment is 1500-2000. and travel it can get expensive...I have read many books about IVF. Try Tpicking up the book "The couple's guide t o In Vitro Fertilization" By Liza Charlesworth....
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HI VTB

I have been reading your post and as you know as you may have read I am now BFP and been on this site during my 2 week wait as I read your post I felt exactly like you same symptoms I still have them..cramping everyday for me since transfer some days so bad when I stand a shooting pain i get then it goes away, really weird and the other sensation I get that you mentioned as well feel like AF is coming PMS bad!!!.....I had a fresh cycle in Sept which failed and now just did a frozen transfered 3 waiting to see on Friday the first ultra sound very nervous nothing seems real yet until I see the sacs....but I just want you to know cramping is normal I have spoke to so many women during my last cycle as well and they felt the same....and when i stopped feeling the cramps for a long period of time I was nervous something was wrong lol..so we can't win take all your symptoms as a postive sign I am keeping my fingers cross.. if i had to guess with your symptoms you are prego....remember positive thoughts lead to positve results.....

P.s on my fresh cycle i had alot less cramps and AF feelings coming on and it failed..this cycle i feel the way you do and I am prego!!!...

Jan!!! baby dust to you...xoxoxo
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Hi Jan!

I was sooo glad to read your post. Now I think hmm...maybe I will get a BFP. I am soo itching today to do an early HPT. Those ones you get that can detect 4 days earlier....but I'm trying to hold out. My cramping is still constant today, but I feel fluish and I heard ppl say they have felt that way before getting a BFP - not sure how the two are connected...but I'm feeling that way today. My bbs are getting really sore today as the day wears on and I have had a headache since yesterday. It is all PMS symptoms also, so that is kind of a let down for me too. But like you said...positive thoughts lead to positive results and I promise to try to stay positive...
Sundance...how are you today? Haven't seen a post from you, hope you are doing ok.

VTB - Today has not been a good day for me. I've been overwhelmingly depressed and weepy. I know that lots of the women we've been chatting with have had similar feelings only to be blessed with a BFP, but for some reason I'm beginning to feel like this is not the month for me. I hate myself for being so negative, but the closer it gets to beta the worse I feel. DH has been gone for a week and I'm just feeling so alone. Besides the women on this site, I have nobody in my life that has been through this, so it's hard for my friends and family to understand the emotional and physical pain that accompanies infertility. Saying things like relax, your time will come, and if it's meant to be seem okay when you hear them from someone who has walked in your shoes, but not from someone who has no idea what it feels like to want a baby so badly and to not have it happen! I know they mean well, but.... Well, sorry to have invited you all to my pathetic pity party. I truly do still have positive thoughts for all of you that are waiting for BFP or just getting started on your wonderful journey to motherhood!!!! I've always found it a lot easier to counsel and support others than to take my own advice...LOL!

Estie - shouldn't you be having your beta in the next day or so? How are you feeeling? Keep us posted on your status. I really hope this is your lucky month.

Hi Sundance,

No worries, we all have our days. Don't you feel bad at all for letting your feelings out. We all feel or have felt the same way as you at many points in our lives. Remember, we are all in this together and there isn't one of us better than the other. Why are you feeling worst today? Did u have spotting or anything, or you are just feeling like this month isn't it. I know what you are getting at...I had those moment like 25 times today. My biggest thing that I think keeps me going is wishful thinking. I say hmmm I have cramps - AF is coming, then I try to quickly say well no - maybe it is a pg. symptom. I'm trying to keep my spirits high as I approach this weekend...but I tell you - if I get BFN or AF shows first, it will be definitely an upsetting time for me also. But, like I said....let's try to stay positive - we are in this together. If you are feeling low, just post if you want someone to talk to who knows what you are going through. I will check back later.
Keep your chin up! *hugs* We'll be ok :)

[quote]Aloha Sundance,

Keep positive althou it may be hard...positive thoughts :). I understand about family...although there intentions are great if they have not been there they do not understand. I'm new here but if you need some one to tt I'm here.

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VTB - Today has not been a good day for me. I've been overwhelmingly depressed and weepy. I know that lots of the women we've been chatting with have had similar feelings only to be blessed with a BFP, but for some reason I'm beginning to feel like this is not the month for me. I hate myself for being so negative, but the closer it gets to beta the worse I feel. DH has been gone for a week and I'm just feeling so alone. Besides the women on this site, I have nobody in my life that has been through this, so it's hard for my friends and family to understand the emotional and physical pain that accompanies infertility. Saying things like relax, your time will come, and if it's meant to be seem okay when you hear them from someone who has walked in your shoes, but not from someone who has no idea what it feels like to want a baby so badly and to not have it happen! I know they mean well, but.... Well, sorry to have invited you all to my pathetic pity party. I truly do still have positive thoughts for all of you that are waiting for BFP or just getting started on your wonderful journey to motherhood!!!! I've always found it a lot easier to counsel and support others than to take my own advice...LOL!

Estie - shouldn't you be having your beta in the next day or so? How are you feeeling? Keep us posted on your status. I really hope this is your lucky month.
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Sundance,

I read you post, you descibed my exact feelings/emotions just 9 days ago. I was 99.9% certain that this cycle did not work.
Jan inspired me by her positive thoughts and warm words. I took the beta and got a BFP on Valentines Day. This cycle I had cramping and spotting 2 days before AF, I thought it failed. I too was in such an emotional low, as in the last 2 failed IUI's. The 5 days before AF due date are the worst. You will get thru this regardless of the results. I hope you receive a BFP (and all others too) as we all deserve this!!!!

chris

Thanks everyone for your words of encouragment. It really means a lot to know that you all are out there and we are supporting each other. I really hope that we ALL get BFP's so we can spend the next 9 months together planning for our new additions!!!!!

Caab - I have been thinking of you actually today and knowing how down you were just days before your BFP did give me glimmers of hope between my tears. The funny thing is that I am usually not a weepy emotional person, even during PMS, so MAYBE my meltdown is a good sign....LOL. The good news is that I haven't had any spotting yet, and I usually do a few days before AF. The progesterone suppositories may keep that at bay so who knows if that's a sign or not.

Anyway, thanks for all the support and I'll check in again tomorrow. :-)

I am a new member to this website and everything I have read helps me deal with the disppointment and downright agonising wait of the dreaded 2 week. I am currently 6 days post 3rd IUI. I haven't really got any symptoms this time except for a few twinges on both sides of my pelvic region, no sore bbs this time. The other 2 IUI's which failed i had all those symptoms of cramping and very sore BB's, nausea and headaches (which is cruel to say the least as I thought I was pregnant and was checking due dates.

It is great to hear the positive stories and gain strength from the attitudes of everyone who has been through a failed cycle. Keep us all posted.

hi girls, sundance, i understand what ur feeling, so much so, i wish i were next to you when i read ur mail, that i can give you a big hug! me myself, not feeling good today. i've done a hpt this morning, as negative as negative can be, but still went for my beta, so as we're speaking, i'm waiting for them to call with the result, but after the big fat single line on that thing this morning, i don't have much hope, and beside that, i'm not feeling any pregnant either, so yeah... dunno what to say really, this is a frieken roaller coaster ride from hell! but nevertheless, you other girls out there must not loose hope. its so damn difficult to when reading everyones symptoms... any symptom can really go either side... hang in there girls! God made man with the function to become more on this earth...

Sundance and VTB - I hope you get the positive results this weekend. I will sending my Aussie prayers to you both xx

I know what you mean Estieh, reading and interpreting everyone elses symptoms can do your head in, but i guess one thing for sure is we are not alone because at times it feels like it. I hope you get some good news today. A friend of mine did 1 IUI and got pregnant. She felt nothing and the first 2 pregnancies tests were negative even 16 days post IUI. Every body is different. Good luck

You're giving me hope again Eddie... thanks!

Welcome to the site Eddie and thanks for your prayers. Seems like all I can do now is pray for positive results. I am feeling ok today, a little down as the time draws close to the weekend. I awoke with a few cramps this morning and I immediately ran to the bathroom thinking AF was here. I was wrong, yet again - it was just other cramps (sorry TMI)...I think my nerves are gone and I have my stomach in knots besides everything else! No headache today, and a few minor twinges that really feel like AF is coming...but who knows anymore. I'm really nervous as time is cutting down to the testing part. Scared for a BFN. Very hopeful for a BFP! Thinking of all of you!

BFN. Will chat again tomorrow, not feeling too good at the moment, have to keep my pose while at work.