Working Moms
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BabyBound - April 26

Hi Ladies

I'm finally back at work full-time. What a bummer!! Little Taylor will be 4 months on the 30th. It's so hard to drop her off with the babysitter. She's o.k. because she's always smiling and cooing. That confirms I'm leaving her in good hands. I have her picture plastered all over my desk. Mondays are the hardest. I find myself daydreaming about her at work. Am I alone in having working mommy blues? I tried to get a part-time schedule, but my boss shot that down. However, I'm able to work from home on Fridays.

Cassandra and Heathermac, it's good to see you guys are still posting. I've been MIA...too busy to sit at a computer.

I've seen a lot of new babies have arrived. Congrats to all the new mommies!! Mommyhood holds a wide range of emotions. Take each one in stride.

 

baby4us - April 28

Hey Babybound.. great to hear from you! I can imagine how difficult it is for you to be back at work!!

I work for myself at home (writing and communications) and am hoping to be able to get back to work at some point after the baby is born (not too soon).. but I (perhaps naively!) think that by working at home.. I can do a little bit of work here and there at the beginning. I have such great clients and will really miss them.. so am hoping to be able to keep up even if it is a little bit at a time!

I did "fire" some of my more needier and demanding clients and have just kept the good ones.. who have all been really understanding.. and we are all just playing it by ear. I have someone waiitng in the wings in case I take on too much... but I am really just going to play it by ear!

My biggest concern were meetings.. but over the last year I have been doing a lot of Internet MSN meetings which have worked out well.. and I think over the next year I will just have to insist on that.. hey.. might as well use the technology!!

 

ElizabethS - April 28

Baby bound - so great to hear from you!! Can you believe how quickly the time has flown by since we had our babies? It was this time last year that we were announcing our pregnancies!

with triplets, it did not make sense for me to return to work. I wish you the best and keep us updated on Taylor

 

cassandra - April 28

Babybound, I know it's really hard to return to work. I unfortunately had to return when they were only 2 months old! I am still working only 25 hours a week but it is streched out over 5 days. It kinda seems longer I think because of that. I dread the day when they say "Mommy don't go!" I'm glad you are doing well. Take care!

cassandra

 

HeatherMac - April 29


BabyBound,

Like Cassandra, I had to go back to work when DS was just teeny. My poor baby was just 5 weeks old when I had an unreasonable client demand that I do my job. Hello?? So, in order to keep money in the bank, well, off I went. Cassandra, maybe that's part of our problem - going back to work so VERY soon?? Hmm. I work for myself, too, but it's hard to say no when the bills come due. We just sold our second house so we've been making TWO payments on EVERYTHING for A YEAR!! Ugh.

The biggest kicker, after I shlep to work when my dear little son is 5 weeks old and I'm unsure of what the hell is going on...the client decides to TAKE A BREAK! HAHAHAHA!! I was livid, but what are you going to do??

The problem is being self-employed, I have no income if I don't work. So, while I had a set time off I wanted to hold to, I had to readjust that based on the needs of my clients. I will FOREVER feel guilty that I put that over the needs of my bitty baby son. If God will bless us with another baby, I will take off as much time as I feel I need to take off...without concern for anyone other than the baby.

My advice, and what I will do next time: go on food stamps if you have to, but take as much time as you need with the baby. It's only fair to you, your baby/babies and your husband. No, your baby will never know if you took five days off or five months, but you will...and that guilt is a lot harder to live with. An old woman gave me that advice, about the food stamps, and I laughed it off when she said it. Now, I wish I had taken that advice. I worked to pay the bills, but I missed out on time I can't get back wtih my son. If I could have had help paying the bills, well, hell, I'd still be off.

There you go - my two cents. Might only be worth half a cent, but there you go.

I'm glad to hear you're well, BabyBound...though I'm sorry you have to be back at work. The worst is when people ask about the baby and the only think you can think is "I'D RATHER BE WTIH THEM THAN YOU!" but you smile kindly and say how sweet and wonderful life is now with baby to make it all better! Keep your chin up and know that we're out there with you, wanting to be home when we cna't be home. But, like someone here said - we're doing great as Mommy, home or at work...so don't beat yourself up too badly over it. You're providing for that baby, whether you're at home or at work, and that is the greatest gift you could give that baby.

Have a great day/night everyone!!

Love and hugs and encouragement to you all!!


XOXOXO
HeatherMac

 

BabyBound - May 2

Thank you ladies for sharing your stories. I think the biggest thing for me is...I don't like the company I work for. I started looking for a new job while I was out on leave. My boss (a new mom too) is crazy. She likes to slack on her work and eventually dump it all in my lap. I have a few leads on a new job. Wish me luck that one of those will work out for me.

 

shazz - May 5

Hey BB..... So good to hear from you. im glad that you and little Tayler are well.....It's a bummer about work, especially when you dont like the company you work for but sometimes bills need to be paid (unfortunately)....Dont worry to much, bubs will certainly know who mum is at the end of the day and I'm sure you are greeted with smiles and goos and ga's at the end of the day.

How lucky are we to have our beautiful babies. Elizabeth and BB, I cant believe we started this journey together all those months ago.....I am so in love with Mackenzie. She is such a delight and has an amazing calmness about her. My princess is a delight in every way and I thank God every day for my two amazing girls.........I'm even thinking about going back for another!!!!!!!!!!!! Notice I said "THINKING".......DH is so excited because Im just thinking about it.....but I am turning 40 this year and sometimes think I should just count my blessings........

I wish there was a section on this website that we could post pictures of our babies....I would love to see all of your miracles....

Take care all

Shaz

 

HeatherMac - May 5


Shaz,

YOU ARE SO POSITIVE!! I really envy that about you. You have such a positive outlook on life, you seem so grounded...every post of yours that I read is just so truly positive and inspiring. I wish I had that back. I'm not sure what happened to mine, but I miss it. And I'm thankful to have you around to keep the positive perspective in focus.

I'm glad you are well and look forward to reading more life affirming posts from you soon!


HeatherMac

 

shazz - May 6

Heathermac,
You are one of the most inspirational people I (dont) know..... Every single post of yours is so inspirational and honest. You have a wonderful quality in being able to express yourself. I can just imagine you as a very creative person.....I can also imagine how lucky your baby is to have you as it's mother......Just imagine going through life knowing that your mother puts everything into perspective...Just as you do for so many woman on this board.....I often think you must be a writer, you just have the gift to transfer throughts into words...How wonderful to be such a great communicator.

Thankyou for your kind words.....I try to stay positive but it's not hard when there is so much happiness in my life and so so much to be thankful for.

Take care...you are special

Shaz

 

Meg - May 8

Shaz and Heathermac,

You both wrote such nice and kind posts that I just had to say thanks for sharing. I am personally in a wonderrful and thankful mood as our little Patrick got baptized today and I am feeling so unbelievably grateful to God for our three children. To go from never thinking that we would never be parents to having 3... It is hard to put into words how thankful and blessed we are. It was a most beautiful day here in the East and at this moment in time I can't even express how thankful I am to God for all that He has given us.

You both are inspirational Mothers and I wish you both a very happy and most enjoyable Mother's Day, especially Heathermac, since it will be your very first :)

Take Care and know that you are always in my thoughts and prayers :)

Meg

 

HeatherMac - May 8


GREAT!

Now I'm BAWLING!

Ladies, Shaz, Meg...thank you SO much for your kind words. Sometimes a kind word makes all the difference in the world, and I thank you both so much.

Wow, I thought Grey's Anatomy made me cry a lot tonight, then I checked the posts...and...wow.

Again, thank you so much for your kind words and well wishes. I wish you, and all our Mothers here, much happiness and joy this coming Mother's Day. I know it will be a sad day for some, but, like Meg, I am grateful to God for the ability to celebrate this day.

MUCH love to you all.


HeatherMac

 

BabyBound - May 9

Hey Shaz, it's nice hearing from you. Yes, it was around this time last year that the Three Muskateers (me, you and Elizabeth) were comparing notes on HCG levels, cramps and happy stories. I'm glad your little MacKenzie is doing great. It's amazing how these little ones bring so much joy in our lives.

As for inspirational people, I would say Shaz and Heather are tied for 1st place. You ladies just don't know how reading your post can lift a person spirits. Heather I remember your special notes you would send me during my 2ww. I look forward to our one on one emails. I can tell you are very spirtual person and I am too.

Ditto on they happy mother's day!! Give those babies some extra kisses on that day.

 

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