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Fortyfour,
It would just make sense to me that doctors would choose to do some extra testing if the patient requests it. I wonder why they don't? It's so frustrating. I don't blame you for being angry.

Just go ahead and let it all out for as long as you need to. It helps to let yourself fall apart for awhile. I know the feeling of feet being stuck in mud. Our whole lives are controlled by infertility. I wish you and hubby brighter days ahead.

Wantsbaby2

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Thanks ladies, My first phone call this morning was from my father in law. He first told me about his medical problems that we have been helping him with and then he began to tel me that: I had no reason to be sad because I have no right getting pregnant at my age. Do I know how old I will be when my kids are teenagers? I lost it. I told him how rude that was and that I am still a young women and have the right to have children if I want to. His son has the right to have children if he wants to. I told him I didnt appreciate anything he was saying and was going to let Leigh know what he said. I told him to have a nice day and goodbye. This is a man who left his young children to marry another women with 4 children and never took care of his kids. I dont think I need parenting advice from him.

I found a Doctor who will test the fetus's for immune problems and evidence of blood clotting. TTCinsoCal was great to give me his name. I will probably send tissue from both pregancies to him. Dr Beers is who it is. The regular labs just checks for infection and chromosome stuff. It will be interesting to find out.


Take care all and thank you for your support.

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44,

I just got back on line and saw your heading and I just couldn't believe it. I sat here crying reading all the replys, this is so unfair!! There are so many women and teenagers out there getting pregnant that don't want them and all of us want them desparately and can't. WHY IS LIFE SO UNFAIR!!! It makes me so angry!!!!

There are no words to take away the pain. Just know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband.

ps. I am glad your cat found his way home.

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Fortyfour,
Shame on your father in law. People are so willing to dole out advice on this subject. I think it's wonderful to have a dream. It's amazing that you have a partner who is willing to help you make that dream come true. I believe that fortysomthing is still plenty young to have a baby.

I know a couple of women who had babies in their mid forties that were conceived naturally. My grandmother was born when her mother was 48 for pete's sake! It happens. Nobody ever says that these women are too old. People drive me crazy. Hang in there fortyfour!

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Thanks Trying in NH and wantsbaby2- I would be wacko without you guys.

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Fortyfour,

I hope you get the answers that you need. I completely agree w/ you - if men were having m/c's we would have answers after the first one or even before we would even have a first one.

I am sorry that your father-in-law is giving you such a difficult time. My aunt was 42 when she had her daughter and I believe it keeps her young. Sc**w all of those people who keep trying to bring you down and trying to give you unsolicited advice.

I am still praying and thinking of you daily. Please Take Care,
Meg

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OMG 44 I am so sorry. I have just logged in after a week away and I cant believe what I am reading. I am so sad for you and can only imagine what you and DH must be going through......I cant stop the tears!

I dont know why some of us have such a hard time with things in our lives all I know is that we can only be stronger from them. I am so amazed and in awe with the amount of positivness (is that a word) that you still have. Dont let anyone shatter your dreams....

My heart aches for you.

shaz

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44
My heart goes out to you... I am so sad for you.. for us all to have to go through all the waiting and heart break.. again and again and yet we are all so strong to go through this and to even get back into the saddle to try again. I think that says a lot about our character!

So be strong... cry... and you have every right to demand answers from your doc. If you don't get them.. move along (I know that is easier said than done).. but I am so happy that you are able to send your tissue off for sampling.. let us all know what the outcome is.

Baby dust to everyone!

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44,
Don't let your father-in-law discourage you! Keep your head up and continue to keep doing what your doing.

A lady from my church got pregnant in her fifties, and the baby was fine. You are never too old to have a baby! You can be young at heart.

Cindy

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Meg, Snindy,Baby4us,shaz, - you gals are so sweet. Thank you for your kind words. I feel so young at 44 that I guess I am so surpirsed that so many people think I am ancient. I am like my Grandma. At 93 she was still young at heart and kick in the pants.

I dreamt last night that I found my first baby that I m/c under a high chair. He was sitting right there and smiling at me. My sis was there and I told her look, I finally found my baby. I felt good when I woke up.

I think I pushed it too hard this morning. I walked my dogs and then washed my truck and now I feel crampy or something inside. They say you dont have to restrict activities on your d/c restrictions. Oh well. Rest I will.

Baby dust to all and no m/c for anymore of us. !!!!!!!!

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