1st time and scared to death!
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MrsLewis - June 21

A Newbie; very new at this and we are scared to death.
Scared for a number of reasons. Afraid of the different affects the medications well have on me. Afraid if it don't work. Afraid it will stress our marriage out. I hear it is a stressful procedure and I am a mother of a 17 yr old son and a 14 yr old daughter. My husband has no children of his own.

 

memphismom - September 22

Mrs. Lewis,
I'll share what little I have learned in the short time I have dealt with infertility. It is very scary, it will stress you and your marriage, and there are no certain outcomes. All you can do is take things one day at a time and communicate with your husband. My husband and I have had quite a few tense moments over our TTC, but in the end we have been able to talk and eventually laugh and love through them. Remember that the highs are tremendous and the lows are heart breaking, but things always look better tomorrow. :)

 

pj - September 22

mrslewis
all your fears are normal.
heck i get scared everytime they change something in the protocol. it's always exciting because it's mean there's a new option, and new options mean new hope. but it's scary too because it usually means new meds or more meds and i never know how i'll react to them.
i've started asking my husband to gague my reactions for me, because i'm so caught up in them that i can't tell how bad they are. (or if thery're not all that bad to begin with.)
anyway, welcome to the site. and good luck & baby dust to you.
we're here if you need us.
-pj

 

silli_kitti - September 23

Mrs. Lewis, welcome to the journey to Babydom!

Fear and stress are normal, but you just keep putting one foot in front of the other and the days go by. I'm doing injections and IUI. The physical pain (only pain I get is some cramping, nothing too severe) is not so bad as the emotional one for me.

If you have any questions or just want to share or vent, we're here for you.

Good luck!

 

ElizabethS - September 25

Mrs. Lewis and Memphismom - welcome and best of luck to you. Your fears and excitement are completely normal, and this is an extraordinary journey that will take you through so many emotions.

This website has been a trememdous support for me. These ladies are so strong. There were many times when I felt like they were the only ones that truely understand.

Wishing you tons of baby dust. We are here for you.

 

Kira - December 23

I totally understand your situation except I am the one who hasn't had children. We have so many fertility issues. Very scary!

 

Indiana hopeful - April 14

I am new to this too. I am 25, and am starting my first round of Clomid. I took progesterone in November to get my period, and it worked. I just finished my round yesterday of the progesterone, and still no period. My doctor says to wait until next week to begin the 100mg Clomid unless I begin my period. She also told me that if the first round did not work, she would have me try femara. Good luck to all.



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Mrs. Lewis,
I'll share what little I have learned in the short time I have dealt with infertility. It is very scary, it will stress you and your marriage, and there are no certain outcomes. All you can do is take things one day at a time and communicate with your husband. My husband and I have had quite a few tense moments over our TTC, but in the end we have been able to talk and eventually laugh and love through them. Remember that the highs are tremendous and the lows are heart breaking, but things always look better tomorrow. :)
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carvsh - June 11

Mrs Lewis.
we've been ttc for almost 6 years now. It does stress you out. I am one to take the majority of that stress so I can keep my husband upbeat and calm.
There are times though - that I've just crumpled and broken down.
we did conceieve in 03 - I saw the sonogram and all - but lost the baby the next week.
This is a really trying time - when you are trying to reach a goal that you have no control over.
Just keep in mind that there are others that have, or are going through the same thing and you can vent when you need.
I had to take some time off of ttc- it overwhelmed me and consumed me.
Sometimes you just have to stop for a bit.
Take care and BABY dust to you.

 

Megz - August 6

I would have to say that this is my first time too! And I am also scared, nervous, excited, and sad all at once. I keep researching all kinds of things that are supposed to help increase the odds of conception and my hubby now thinks I am slightly insane. I am so glad I was able to find these forums, they have really helped me.

 

liz - August 6

Hello Megz an welcome to the site.

I believe that we are alittle bit insane when it comes to the ttc roller coaster. I know there are days when I think I am going to lose it completly. I think that no matter how hard you try to stay calm there are always times when it really does get to you, you start to as your dh put it go a little insane.

I know once it was dignosed that I had a problem with my hormones and ovulation I became obsessed. I spent hours upon hours researching on the internet, reading books, you name it I did it. Every single thing my re would tell me I would write down and go home and research. I still do this to this day and of course I check in here to help keep me a little on the saner side of life. :)

All of your feelings are 100% natural. I know my feelings whenever I enter a new cycle go from excited to nervous to sad and then round and round we go for the whole cycle! This journey is truly like a roller coaster ride for many of us.

I hope you find a lot of comfort and support on these forums. Personally I don't know where I would be without my friends here. It is amazing how you can become so close and personal with people you never even met. I think mainly it is because we can understand each other in so many ways, we are all trying to get to our ultimate dream of motherhood.

Take care of yourself, be good to yourself always!
Liz

 

DianaEvans2 - August 6

Mrs. Lewis and Megz:

yes, very scary for the first time (and I pray for you both, that your first IVF is your last time!), but most clinics have excellent teaching and caring nurses to get you through all the physical shots, check-ups and nonsense. If you don't find them caring and empathetic, MAKE TRACKS FAST, you are paying with your time, personal energy and perhaps own money.

The emotional part is a much harder thing to balance. Especially with DH, job stresses, other relatives. Each person has a unique circumstance, but you'll find all these forums very supportive and informative. In particular, you'll find a wealth of SOLID clinical information from Dr. Smith (with the occassional good dose of humor tossed in) plus lots of pratical tips from the broader membership here.

As an aside, my little worldview....my next 50 plus years of life will be much scarier withOUT a child/family. So I look at this whole journey/process as not so scary in comparison. Not sure if that makes sense, but that's my rationale....

Being fearless is a big goal. I lost my fearlessness for a few months after my second m/c...but I bounced back largely as I reached out here on SJ....got every known test done by RE experts in 2 states and explored every option. I am at equilibrium.

Many blessings and much babydust to all!!

We are all here for you, Mrs. Lewis and Megz.

Wishing you a marvelous Monday! Diana

 

Megz - August 7

Diana-

Yes your world point of view does make sense and thank you for sharing it.

I get the results of my progestrone test on Tuesday and am really hoping that it sheds some light on everything.

Liz- I am finding comfort and support here. I guess I am also lucky as numerous women at work have gone thru this and are very supportive, and those that havent truely care.

Best wishes to all.
Megz

 

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