ttc after m/c
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NANCY - August 20

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know that when I went through a m/c 4 yrs ago this poem use to help me. I hope that it gives some comfort to some of you. Thinking and praying for all of you.


Just Those Few Weeks

For those few weeks--

I had you to myself

And that seems too short a time

to be changed so profoundly.

In those few weeks--

I came to know you

and to love you.

You came to trust me with your life.

Oh, what a life I had planned for you!

Just those few weeks--

When I lost you.

I lost a lifetime of hopes,

plans, dreams, and aspirations...

A slice of my future simply vanished overnight.

Just those few weeks--

It wasn't enough time to convince others

how special and important you were.

How odd, a truly unique person has recently died

and no one is mourning the passing.

Just a mere few weeks--

And no "normal" person would cry all night

over a tiny, unfinshed baby,

or get depressed and withdrawn day after endless day.

No one would, so why am I?

You were just those few weeks my little one

you darted in and out of my life too quickly.

But it seems that's all the time you needed

to make my life so much richer

and give me a small glimpse of eternity.

Poem Copyright 1984 by Susan Erling Martinez


Tiffany F - August 20


That poem is just perfect, words can't express!

Thank you for being so thoughtful...

I might have to go to the hospital ladies because I am bleeding very heavy and passing so many clots it's unreal, and I'm starting to feel light headed when I'm on my feet.

Thank you for keeping me in your prayers


weazie - August 20


I sorry you are having to go thru another loss. Please let us know how you are doing. I will say prayers for you and keep you in my thoughts.



liz - August 21

Tiffany -

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I can not imagine the hurt your must be feeling.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Take care,


liz - August 21

Hello everyone -

This tread has been very quiet. I know it is hard on all of us to read what happened to Trina. I am thinking of you all, hoping you are all doing ok.

Trina - If you read this I am praying for your sweetie.

Denise - How are you feeling? Today I believe you had an hsg. I hope all is well. When you get a chance please let us know how you are doing.

Gavinsmommy - I believe you wait should soon be over. Let us know how you are feeling.

Many hugs, thoughts and prayers to all of you.



weazie - August 21

Hi All

Just getting home from having my HSG this morning. It went well there is no blockage and all looked good. I only had some slight cramping and was over before I knew it. We dropped dh sample off at the lab on Saturday morning and waiting on results. So now we wait for a follow up appointment.

Liz you had asked before about Day 23 bw they are only checking for progesterone, my day 3 bw had a list of things to check though (not sure what they all were)
How are you doing? Any word yet on if there is one or two? Are you feeling well?

Gavinsmommy I've been wondering as well I remember last week you were at cd22 or around there. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Slatka I see you popped in. I hope all is going well and look forward to hearing about the move and any other possible good news you might have.

Trina you are still in my thoughts, I really hope you are doing okay girl.

Big Hugs too ALL!!
Take Care Ladies.



liz - August 21

Denise -

I am so happy to hear you hsg went well and that you have nothing to worry about there. That is wonderful news! Now what is your next step or are you just waiting for the sa to come back?

Well, I had my appt this morning and .................... there is 2 sacs and we were able to see each of the yokes. We even got to bring our little picture home with us. It is just truly amazing and yet very scary. We all know to well what can go wrong so for me I am just going to take each step as it comes and not get to overly excited. I know it will be hard but I have to do this in order to keep myself sane. You will know exactly what I mean when you get your bfp, its rough, really rough at times. We go back on Sept 1 and at that time we will be able to see both heartbeats if all is well.

Talk to you soon,


gavinsmommy - August 21

Hi ladies,

I have been kind of down over what has happen with Trina. I just want all of you to know that af showed up uninvited again on Saturday.

Tiffany, I am really sorry that you to have suffered another loss. It breaks my heart to here all the suffering that you women have gone through. I was very upset and I was feeling a lil weak in spirit so thats why I have been kind of quiet these past few days. I really hope that you can pick yourself up and have the strength to face another battle to achieve your dream. May God bless you and keep you strong.

Weazie, you always have something kind to say. I really hope this is your month. I can feel the goodness that is in you when I read your post.

Liz, I had a feeling you had more than one bean. I am really happy for you and scared for you also. I know the struggles that you are facing with the fear from before. I couldn't relax my whole pregnancy with the twins in fear of something going wrong. It made me a very humble person after my m/c and made me realize that there are certain things that I have no control over in my life. Please just take it easy and put your faith in God. I know it is not easy, but you sound like you are really trying to stay calm.

I am having a tough time emotionally right now and I am trying to stay focused. Iam still thinking about all of you even when I am silent.

Slatka, I hope all is well with you.

Mega Baby Dust and healthy Babies to all.



liz - August 21

Helen -

I am so sorry to hear about you are not feeling so well these days. I am thinking about you.

I am also very sorry about af. I know how hard it is to go month after month hoping and praying that this is your month and then all of a sudden you worst fears are here.

I can't even describe in words the way I felt every month that af reared her ugly head but one things for sure I always felt that I was a failure in the baby making department. I felt like my body was failing me month after month. I am sure you have these feelings as well and probably many more.

I think the reality of Trina's m/c really brought us all back to our painful losses ourselves. I am so sorry for Trina and my heart aches for her as it does for myself and anyone who has ever had to go through the lose of a baby or babies.

You have been such a strength to me and many of us here. Your words of wisdom, your loving heart and you positive attitude have been such a welcome in my life.

I miss you and although I completly understand your need to be silent I want you to know we are here and we love you. If you want to vent, to yell to say whatever please do. We are hear for you no matter what it is.

Please take care of yourself.
Hugs and lots of prayers to you.


gavinsmommy - August 21

Hi Liz,

Thank you so much, it means the world to me to hear your kind words. I am going to dust myself off and get myself together, because we are not quitters. I am praying for you like you will never believe. I think God is getting tired of hearing from me. LOL. I am staying here with you guys , and I really do appreciate you being here for me. I know I am not alone on here even though it seems like it everywhere else.

Love you to and take care of my special babies!!!



liz - August 21

Helen :)

Thats my girl!!!!!!!! It made me so happy to read your post and know you are working on picking yourself up and dusting yourself off.

I too have had to do this more times then I even want to count but I always felt you had to do it. The more positive you are the healthier you are and the better off you will be for optimal reproduction.

Don't get me wrong, I have had my fair share of depression in the department of ttc. I think we have all been there and what makes us so strong is not only having the courage to move on again but we have each other to get through it.

So how are those little ones of yours doing? Keeping you nice and busy. :) I think I will be coming to you for expert advice down the road. ;)

Take care and I hope to hear from you soon,
Hugs, prayers and lots of baby dust!


gavinsmommy - August 22

Hi everybody,

Liz, how are you and the lil ones doing? I hope everything is going well. My lil ones are running me in every direction. I will be glad to hand you out as much advice as you need. I just want you to know if you don't already, that your life will never be the same. It is so worth it though. Even on the days I feel like ripping out my hair they make me smile. I don't know if I have mentioned it yet, but I also have a 5 year old daughter. I have been on an roller coaster of emotions because she is starting school for the first time in 2 weeks. I am beside myself right now with the thought of sending her out into the world on her own. Tehn dh tells me to print out this poem today that he heard on the radio called Treat Her Well. It is about a lil girl starting school for the first time. I went to pieces. He was like what is wrong with you. Then he started to giggle. I am a mess emotion wise lately, I don't even like myself right now.LOL Af isn't being as nice as she was last month. She is definately heavier , I am praying that I don't have another bad month. I am contemplating whether I should order more Ovulex or maybe just try the Vitex when I am through with what I have left. I am praying that everything goes well with you and that you can stay strong and focused.

Trina, I hope you are doing ok. My heart goes out to you. I am having trouble with your loss so I can't even imagine how you are doing. I hope your dh is doing fine and can be there for you emotionally. I just want you to know that we are here for you. We will be waiting right here for you when you are ready to come back. Take all the time you need to heal but we are here for you.

Slatka, how is everything with you?

Tiffany, I am praying for you. You are a strong magnificent women to be able to spare your dh the pain that you try to carry yourself. You are not alone in this anymore, we are all here for you. I hope everything is going ok with you because I know you mentioned on your last post that you might be going to the hospital. Please le us know how you are.

Weazie, how is everything with you?

Jennifer, I hope everything is good with you, it has been awhile since we have heard from you.

I will talk to all of you later, I love you guys!!!!
Mega baby dust and Healthy Babies!!!!


gavinsmommy - August 22


Oh my gosh my mind is mush!! How have you been? I hope you are feeling better. Please let us know how you are.



Lila - August 22

Helen - thanks for asking I am doing fine. I was laying a little low on this thread to respect all your feelings. As I mentioned I kind of jumped into the group uninvited as I have not had the misfortune of having a m/c so I thought it best to just keep quite right now and say a little prayer for everybody.

I hope your lil girl is doing well. You have not mentioned anything lately so I was hoping maybe things had calmed down. I think about her all the time and wish her peace and hapiness. Hope the first day of scholl goes well it sound very chaotic (but in a good way) at your home right now.

Hope all stay well right now and wishing everyone peace.


gavinsmommy - August 22


You are more than welcome to be on this thread, no invites are necessary. I am sure the other women feel the same. We are all here for the same reason, to support one another and guide each other. We all have the same wants and goals. How are you recovering?

Things had been going ok until last Friday. She was in such a panick over this lady that I did not know what to do. I called my mother and she came over and tried to calm her down. She kept crying hysterically that the lady had taken my baby. I have talked to our priest without much advice at this point. It really upsets me that I cannot console her with this. My mother brought over a Blessed Mother statue and told her that she was there to protect her. I am hoping that this can bring some calm here.

Please don't feel like you need to be invited onto this thread, you are very much welcomed and needed.

Take care,



liz - August 23

Hello Ladies -

Lila -
You are always welcome on this tread. Even since I have conceived I just feel like this thread has been such a blessing for me. I know the title is ttc after m/c but that dosen't mean that anyone who can relate to the ttc roller coaster can't join in. I met wonderful women on here and just can't bare to leave them. I do tend to not talk about my preg to much because I know how it feels to be on the other side. I don't want to talk about something that hurts others although I am very happy and I know everyone here is as well.
How are you doing? I am constantly losing track (I think I have a little too much on my mind these days.) Where are you at in your protocol?

Helen -
I didn't realize you had another little girl. Wow, you sure do have alot going on no wonder you are emotional. Your little/big girls first day of school. That is both very exciting and yet very nerve wracking for Mom.
I am really sorry to hear you little girl is still having the troubles. What did your priest have to say when you talked to him? I was hoping he would have some good ideas for you.
I know what you mean about the Ovulax. I am sure you are nervous about continuing to take it. Has it been about 3 months now? I am not sure what they say is the normal amount of time to do its job. As for af being more intense this month, try not to think of it as bad at this point. I know I always bled a great deal more when I had better ovulations. I would tend to have more clots and such. (Sorry, not the best topic). Hang in there it may not be as bad as you think.
You mentioned Vitex. I never heard of that, what is it?

As for me I am good. Very very tired, feel like I could sleep all day long. It is making it very hard to work everyday, but thankfully I am only working about 7.5 horus a day for 4 days. Hopefully I can handle that if not I will have to cut it back again.

They broke ground for our new house on Sunday. It is amazing. We went away Friday night and came home Sunday to find a big hole in the ground where our house is going to be. I am very excited, but still in kinda shock that all this is happening at one time.

I must run, work is calling.
Take care everyone.
Prayers, hugs and lots of baby dust to all



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