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Hi,
Sorry for the way you are feeling. I don't know what to suggest, telling family is such a personal decision. It's up to both of you if you want to tell. There are probably ups & downs to telling. If you do tell, you may find family members able to consider your feelings better, when deciding to anounce their PGs etc.
My DH & I have been TTC for over 6yrs (have PCOS among other problems). Have seen friends/relatives/co-workers, all having many babies over that time & wishing it was us. Especially when the person having the baby already has like 3 or more children already.
My SIL has a 9/M baby. She is extremely obese, got pregnant first month she tried. Isn't married, in fact doesn't even have a BF. I see her baby all the time, she is a very good mother. Although I'm not a mother, at least I will be a favourite aunt, that's better than nothing I suppose. Surprisingly SIL does seem to understand how infertility is so devastating. And unlike some un-enlightened people she has never sugested 'why don't you just adopt'.
Don't get me wrong I wouldn't wish infertility on my worst enemy. But it just seems so unfair that so many people can get PG at the drop of a hat. Without even having to appreciate what they have.
Even at work I can't get away from it. People I've only ever worked with once, seem to think they should bring in their brand new baby & show them off to me. Of course they have no idea what they are doing. But that doesn't help when I look down at their bundle of joy & wish why not me for once?
Good luck with your decision & the lap.
Hope you get a BFP soon.
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