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Pinky - November 8th, 2006 6:49 AM

Its a year since i had my first pregnancy and subsequently my first miscarriage. It has been a very up n down year. Back in march of this year i felt ready to try again and talked about it with my husband. He completly shocked :o me and told me he really doesnt want children. He feels our life is fine the way it is and doesnt understand why i want children. We were not planning my pregnancy but i was so happy at the thought of being a mother.And he seemed happy too. I felt like i had lost the baby all over again and that i have no hope of trying again. I dont seem to be able to change his mind, im wondering if im normal as i cant even seduce him to the point where he looses control! Anyway i just wanted to tell someone that im feeling very sad :'(

liz - November 8th, 2006 4:12 PM

Pinky,

I am sorry to hear you are feeling sad. Miscarriage is one of those things thats takes us all by surprise and cuts very deep in our hearts.

Reading your post about your dh reminded me a bit of my own. My dh did want children and was willing to try whenever I was ready however he did take my miscarriage very hard and I know there was a part of him that was very scared that it would happen and he would not have control once again. Just a thought but maybe your husband is so afraid of another loss that he is convicing himself he does not want kids?? Men think in strange ways sometimes, atleast this is what I have learned from my dh. lol

Please feel fee to vent anytime, thats what we are all here for.

Take care,
Liz

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