Why It’s So Important to Talk
It is common to feel as though you are being helpful by not bringing up your emotional concerns. Yet, your partner could misconstrue your silence as disinterest or lack of consideration. Of course, this may be far from the truth.
Additionally, by maintaining a wall of silence, feelings of frustration and blame often get pushed inside. This can lead to extreme anger or resentment, which will only make matters worse.
Maintaining an open and honest channel of conversation is one of the best steps that you can take when dealing with male infertility. You deserve an emotional outlet as much as your partner does and, though it may seem hard, communication will only bring you together in the end.
Communication can help to show understanding, empathy, and love, and will help to strengthen your partnership.
Tips on Talking With Your Partner
Talking about infertility can be quite daunting, especially if you are a man who is used to keeping his feelings bottled up inside. Here are some tips on how to express your own emotions while still maintaining support for your partner.
- Tell your partner up front that you want to talk seriously about your fertility issues. Set a time and date for the conversation. This will allow you time to prepare and to get any nerves out of the way. It will also allow your partner the time and space to get ready to hear your thoughts and opinions.
- If you are nervous about talking about your emotions, tell your partner about your concerns. This will help her to offer you the emotional support you need.
- If you are having trouble starting the conversation, write down your feelings in a journal or compose a letter to your partner. Your partner can then read about your feelings and start a conversation off from there.
- After you have spoken, allow time for your partner to respond or to express her own feelings. Try to be supportive of her emotions by mirroring back what she has told you and by validating her emotions.
- Feel free to express your anger or frustrations, but avoid arguments. Arguments tend to get in the way of open and honest communication. Instead, try to explain why you feel a certain way and ask your partner to try to accept this.