Talking with Your Partner about Infertility
It is often difficult for men dealing with infertility to discuss their emotions. Men are typically ignored throughout the fertility process, and you may feel as if talking about your fertility issues will only make things worse.
But if you and your partner are struggling with infertility, then it is very important to discuss one another’s needs and emotions. It is also a good idea to talk openly and honestly about the fertility treatments that you are pursuing and the choices that you need to make regarding the building of your family.
Starting a conversation about fertility issues can be particularly hard for some men, so here are some tips on how to start the conversation.
Why It’s So Hard To Talk
You may find that speaking with anyone, even your partner, is very difficult when it comes to infertility. Rest assured that both men and women find it challenging to bring up the subject of fertility tests and treatments, but men in particular may find it harder to open up.
This is partly due to the fact that men are frequently overlooked when it comes to infertility despite the increasing prevalence of male infertility.
Infertility has long been seen as female topic. Treatments options generally revolve around the woman, causing her to take a more responsibility for the couple’s infertility troubles.
As a result, many men feel that they have no right to talk about their emotional needs and wants in regards to fertility. Men are also offered little guidance when it comes to expressing themselves during the fertility process.
If you are having troubles talking with your partner about infertility, it is important to ask yourself why. Many men find it difficult to talk openly with their partner as they feel that society expects them to be emotionally strong.
You may be afraid to express your emotions in front of your partner for fear of appearing weak or "less of a man." Other men don’t engage in conversation for fear of stirring up feelings of sadness and anger in their partner.
You may worry that your partner is already upset enough without having to hear about your emotions. But not talking about your own emotional needs could end up causing more trouble than good.