Are you ready to give up those dreams of feeling the baby growing inside of you? Can you embrace the feelings of loss and that accompanies moving on to adoption?
It's important to give yourself time to mourn your unborn babies. Unfortunately, society doesn't recognize that when a couple give up on the possibility of conceiving a child of their own that something wonderful and unique has been lost. There may be no grave to visit. No funeral home at which family and friends can stand by you in your time of need. No Hallmark card to express condolences.
Let yourself mourn to the fullest extent you need to. And don't let anyone else tell you differently.
5. Your mate:
Infertility treatment is just as difficult on your mate, although they may express it differently. Is your mate ready to move on? Has he or she considered the above points? Have you talked about how it will feel to move on to adoption?
Adoption is another path to parenthood. It may lack the glamour of pregnancy, but you're sure to experience many of the same symptoms: Mood swings from depression to euphoria and back again before anyone else has time to adjust. Fear as you wonder if you've made the right decision. Forgetfulness as you try to get everything ready for the baby while doing all the paperwork. Anticipation as you count down the time until you bring your child home. Joy as you put the finishing touches on your nursery.
But, only you can decide if you're ready to take that next step.