Finding a SurrogateDepending upon where you live, there are different ways that you can find a surrogate mother. It is a good idea to research your country’s laws on surrogacy, as these often dictate how you are allowed to locate your surrogate. The main methods of finding a surrogate are:
- through a surrogacy agency
If you choose to find a surrogate through independent means, you will have to contact a woman who is interested in becoming a surrogate mother. Some countries allow you to advertise for surrogates, while others do not. Often, surrogate mothers are relatives or friends of the intended parents.
Surrogacy centers and agencies specialize in setting up surrogate births. These agencies are in contact with women who wish to become surrogate mothers, and can help you find the right match.
Unfortunately, surrogacy can sometimes be out of the question for infertile couples because of the associated costs. You are responsible for all the pregnancy-related costs incurred by the surrogate mother.
- the cost of any fertility treatments required to begin the pregnancy, which may include intrauterine insemination or in-vitro fertilization procedures
- all prenatal visits with health care providers
- the cost of delivery
- all food, vitamins, medicines, and clothing that your surrogate requires
- all supplies for your baby
Some countries allow surrogate mothers to charge a base surrogacy fee for carrying your baby. These fees can be upwards of $12,000, so it is a good idea to ask your surrogate about her prices.
Other countries have made it illegal for surrogate mothers to ask for any additional compensation outside of the pregnancy-related costs. You will also need to hire a lawyer to draw up a contract between you and your surrogate.
If you use an agency to help you find a surrogate mother, you can expect to pay between $25,000 and $35,000 for their services. This typically includes legal fees and the cost of paperwork.
Surrogacy is not an easy process, and though it has its benefits, it is often complicated and drawn-out. Finding a surrogate takes time and fertility treatments required for conception are expensive and lengthy. Legal concerns are also of the utmost importance if you pursue surrogacy.
You should have a contract drawn up, delineating the procedures, expenses, and legal parental rights. While many couples have had positive surrogacy experiences, it is important to note that surrogacy can be an emotionally-taxing option, and many couples find it difficult to undergo for ethical and moral reasons.